Overstimulation

[Azalea]

OK, here's my ignorant self again, so don't laugh.....but, I've read a couple of D/s novels the past few days, and I don't understand how anyone could handle orgasming as much as the folks in these stories do. I mean, every time they're together, they're just experiencing such intense stimulation and coming over and over......is this just fantasy writing? I mean, can people really take all that sensation? I've never been able to come more than twice in one lovemaking session, and I think that's happened maybe only once or twice in many years.

 

[sweet_secrets4u]

OK, here's my ignorant self again, so don't laugh.....but, I've read a couple of D/s novels the past few days, and I don't understand how anyone could handle orgasming as much as the folks in these stories do. I mean, every time they're together, they're just experiencing such intense stimulation and coming over and over......is this just fantasy writing? I mean, can people really take all that sensation? I've never been able to come more than twice in one lovemaking session, and I think that's happened maybe only once or twice in many years.

Its amazing what one can do in a novel, isn't it?

However, I can multi orgasm when I'm riding on top, though the more I cum, the tiring i becum

 

[Stella_Omega]

I can tell you right now-- it's because the writing takes more time than the reading. I might write a hot scene that gets me off, take a breather and come back in an hour or the next day-- all ready to write the next hot scene.

if I were less irritated by reading those same types of things, it would be easy to forget that time has to pass, somehow, in my story.

We have been doing some intense sex play at our all women parties. last one, one woman came for the longest time, in part because she had become non-verbal and couldn't remember the word "red." She had to signal time out in sign language-- which her friend uses. It kinda scared me because I didn't recognise it. OMIGOD the aftercare we piled on her! But she said she didn't mind. And honestly, I do not believe for a minute that anyone actually forgets that word in our scene.

 

[His_pet_slut]

It depends on the woman, the setting and the stamina. I am capable of orgasming many, many times. Do I want to do that every time I have sex? Not unless I don't have plans to do anything else the rest of the day...it leaves me pretty worthless for anything else.

 

[Azalea]

The "aftercare" you speak of sounds like it might not be such a bad thing.

I just picture folks going around all day thinking of nothing but sex.....feeling hot and horny all the time. I am a compulsive, obsessive sort of person, so maybe that's just my personality coloring things.

 

[Stella_Omega]

The "aftercare" you speak of sounds like it might not be such a bad thing.

I just picture folks going around all day thinking of nothing but sex.....feeling hot and horny all the time.

That would be me. I've coined a word for it-- "Hypersexual" as a counterpoint to "asexual" I approach the world from a sexual angle. That DOES NOT MEAN that i will fuck anyone and everyone... at least, not any longer.

But it does mean that I will assess each person as they pass, along a sexyness line as well as friendliness, tallness, coloring, dress whatever. And houses, too. Cars, horses, mountains. Everything has a sexual dimension to me, one way or the other.

I am a compulsive, obsessive sort of person, so maybe that's just my personality coloring things.

I've done a lot of work mitigating my COD, but my basic POV remains...

 

[Azalea]

But how do you get any work done? I'm not trying to be glib, here. I have a lot of life-maintenance details that need attending to right now, and all I can think of is sex. It is keeping my focus away from stuff that needs to be done.

I went through a "hypersexual" period ten years ago. I got online, thanks to Tolkien, discovered I could write fanfic, found online friends, then stumbled upon this place.......and I became so obsessed with writing here that I had to go "cold turkey." I don't want that to happen again. I want to find a healthy balance.

 

[Stella_Omega]

But how do you get any work done? I'm not trying to be glib, here. I have a lot of life-maintenance details that need attending to right now, and all I can think of is sex. It is keeping my focus away from stuff that needs to be done.

I went through a "hypersexual" period ten years ago. I got online, thanks to Tolkien, discovered I could write fanfic, found online friends, then stumbled upon this place.......and I became so obsessed with writing here that I had to go "cold turkey." I don't want that to happen again. I want to find a healthy balance.

I arrange for regular jilling breaks.

Like cigarette breaks, you know? Only with less lung cancer.

 

[Azalea]

I arrange for regular jilling breaks.

Like cigarette breaks, you know? Only with less lung cancer.

Okay, you got me.....what are "jilling breaks"? I am trusting you to tell me straight, no pun intended.

(You're reminding me a little of my niece's partner......I could hear Maggie say something like that.)

 

[Stella_Omega]

Okay, you got me.....what are "jilling breaks"? I am trusting you to tell me straight, no pun intended.

(You're reminding me a little of my niece's partner......I could hear Maggie say something like that.)

Masturbating... Like jacking off, only with girl-parts.

 

[Azalea]

"Jilling".......I have to figure out a way to ask Maggie and L. if they know that term without revealing where I heard it.

Gosh, almost my total sex life consists of "jilling." That doesn't take my mind of sex, though. The more masturbation, the more it's on my mind. The correlation is in direct proportion.

 

[LazzieLace]

Gosh, almost my total sex life consists of "jilling." That doesn't take my mind of sex, though. The more masturbation, the more it's on my mind. The correlation is in direct proportion.

The more I have sex, the more easier it is for me to orgasm. I think because your mind is in-tuned with your body. Also there is the huge mental build-up ahead of scheduled play sessions.

If a submissive is solely used as a love toy , and nothing to do all day except to wait for his return, then I think it is possible for them to orgasm much more than your average person.

 

[BonnyBlue]

I won't speak for anyone else.

 

[His_pet_slut]

That would be me. I've coined a word for it-- "Hypersexual" as a counterpoint to "asexual" I approach the world from a sexual angle. That DOES NOT MEAN that i will fuck anyone and everyone... at least, not any longer.

But it does mean that I will assess each person as they pass, along a sexyness line as well as friendliness, tallness, coloring, dress whatever. And houses, too. Cars, horses, mountains. Everything has a sexual dimension to me, one way or the other.
I've done a lot of work mitigating my COD, but my basic POV remains...

I really do think we are twins separated at birth...so much alike in how we think and cope with our POV...

 

[rexhame317]

The last few months, sex has been in the back of my mind. I can be doing something like laundry and think about having sex or mastubating. and I can sext/im all day.

I was just with someone who could give me multiple orgasms in the time we had. And yes, the more you have the more tired tou get

 

[ultramarineblue]

I arrange for regular jilling breaks.

Like cigarette breaks, you know? Only with less lung cancer.

Stella, you're just totally awesome!!!!

 

[FurryFury]

When things are too sensitive it's time to concentrate on other things and then rebuild. Or go pee. Or go eat. Or read a book. Or pet your cat. No I mean a real cat not that. Gosh. At least drink some water.

 

[Licia]

Homemade Italian red sauce, constant simmer is how I'd describe my sexuality. The day passes along, and scorching is always a threat. If bedroom olympics were possible 24/7, I'd go for the gold. Bad jokes aside, multi is my thing; however, the more they roll into one another, the longer it takes before I can take stimulation again.

How do I get any work done? Stella's said it best. =0

 

[Rikki_13]

I can go over and over and over again. A couple of years ago I was barely getting one, but the more in tune I became with my body and what gets me off the more orgasms I can have in one "session." Sometimes the multiple orgasms will tire me out and I am not worth much, but most of the times it just jacks me up and I still have a bunch of excess energy to get rid of. Depending on my schedule and whatever craziness life is throwing me I like to have multiple orgasm session at least 3 times a week, sometimes more if life is being calm.

Lot of the stories that I write are fairly truthful in the way the orgasms happen or feel, but according to my girlfriend I just make her sound more dominant and capable than what she is.

 

[knot_sweet]

I admit to orgasm envy. It seems everyone can have them, and multiples of, but me...

Orgasms are hard to cum by for me (sp intended). I have had them, more frequently with M than with anyone else I've ever been with. But still, it's not all the time and never more than once in session.

Thankfully I don't seem to be wired to actually need them.

It does amaze me that even though I know there are women who cum easily, these bodice ripper heroines seem to cum at the drop of the pants. It's not very realistic, but then since it's fiction, I'm not exactly expecting realism. Realism is not the point of fiction.

 

[KoPilot]

I get overstimulated pretty quickly when it comes to genital contact and shut down. Anything after that gets painful (in a not-fun) way.

In fact, I usually just forgo orgasm altogether. It's not necessary for me (most of the time), and having him go out of his way for me like that is just awkward and usually winds up being futile. This wasn't always the case; it might be my medication, but either way, I'm actually happier not masturbating and not having my climax be much in the way of a focus during a romp.

 

[His_pet_slut]

I get overstimulated pretty quickly when it comes to genital contact and shut down. Anything after that gets painful (in a not-fun) way.

In fact, I usually just forgo orgasm altogether. It's not necessary for me (most of the time), and having him go out of his way for me like that is just awkward and usually winds up being futile. This wasn't always the case; it might be my medication, but either way, I'm actually happier not masturbating and not having my climax be much in the way of a focus during a romp.

Some years ago I was on an antidepressant that rendered orgasm impossible...I could get aroused just fine, but would remain on the cusp and frustrated...which in turn made me angry....which led to more depression. Figured out it was all rather counter-productive and went in a different direction than pharmaceuticals on controlling depression and life became much better than it was with the ssri's.

Things like some blood pressure meds can lead to this as well.

 

[Azalea]

I get overstimulated pretty quickly when it comes to genital contact and shut down. Anything after that gets painful (in a not-fun) way.

In fact, I usually just forgo orgasm altogether. It's not necessary for me (most of the time), and having him go out of his way for me like that is just awkward and usually winds up being futile. This wasn't always the case; it might be my medication, but either way, I'm actually happier not masturbating and not having my climax be much in the way of a focus during a romp.

Some years back, I was having the same problem with my anti-depressant, and after a lot of frustration on both sides, I asked him to just notworry about me and let me see to his needs. I would have been perfectly happy with that, but he couldn't handle it. I finally found a med that doesn't have those sexual side effects, but it was rough for a while there.

 

[KlaytonFrost]

It's one of those things that I'll put down to artistic licence. Maybe it's not realistic, but it's often more erotic to up the ante in terms of stimulation. Everyone knows it might not be 100% true, but it's all part of the fantasy and the escape...

 

[Himself128]

No one writes about ordinary every orgasms hence it always looks like the exceptional experience is the norm. Enjoy the fiction or the exceptional experience and don't judge it against ones everyday experience. In fact maybe the fictional or real piece of literature will give each of us something to aspire to.