Our two favorite four-letter words...

[Quint]

...BDSM and GLBT!

I have noticed an awful lot of BDSM-oriented or -interested folks here. (Represent!) In true Quint style, I try to find correllations.

Postulation 1: We got the funk. The GLBTs here also largely identify themselves by their dominance, submission, or switchitude.

Query 1: Is this true outside the forum, aka "real life," or are the truly kinky kinksters more concentrated here?

Query 2: How strong is the pressure for, say, gay males to incorporate Top/bottom status into their relationship versus the pressure for gay females?

Query 3: Why are we more likely to be wired this way, if in fact we are? Is it because we're already used to looking at our sex life from "other than mainstream sex" eyes? Or are there other factors that affect why we are drawn to BDSM relationships?



Postulation 2: Quint has overlooked the many voices here who have not supported her eagerly-sought theory. Just because lots of people here have made flogger jokes does not mean that even the majority of GLBTs here support those kinds of shenanigans.

Query 1: When will Quint quit trying to draw all these damned correllaries?

 

[Etoile]

I think there are just a lot of kinky queers around here - I don't think it's that way in real life. Your perception (and mine) might be skewed because you're part of both groups, which means you're more likely to see people who are also part of both groups. I think the gay community as a whole probably isn't quite as kinky as you might think.

 

[killallhippies]

i prefer fuck myself. i'm a simple man and it's so useful.

 

[James Blandings]

I basically agree with Etolie, except that I'd like to say that it's not just here,but in many BDSM clubs and organizations as well.
The thing that we can't know is what those people who keep their sexualities private do. And I'm guessing that with both BDSM and GLBT that is probably the overwhelming majority. People who are comfortable or outgoing enough about themselves to go to a BDSM club are probably less likely to be open about being GLBT, but that's really sort of case specific.

As for top/bottom status in same sex relationships, that a sort of shorthand and things are rarely that clearcut outside of BDSM circles. Again, what you see in more public settings gives a skewed view. If you see people at a bar trying to score, they are going to emphasize the role they feel like playing, but that might not translate into how they conduct themselves in a relationship.

 

[Netzach]

Dunno, I think your first theorem might be on the money. I perk up whenever someone identifies as queer in local kink circles, I gravitate towards that sub-set of the scene and voila, I notice the others, they notice me.

Top/bottom...most of the queer leather people I hang with are actually pretty fluid and relaxed about the terminology, Daddy is as Daddy *self identifies* and you don't have a whole host of people to tell you your relationship is not "real" "true" or "actual." Maybe I just hang with good eggs, maybe we're already sick of being told those kinds of things about our relationships in general.

 

[Etoile]

Here's a thought: if so many gay people are into BDSM, there should be more response to the Gay BDSM thread!