ouch.

[easyluckyfree]

i had a friend over the 2 nights ago to catch up on life and fool around a bit. at one point he started fingering me, which was great. however, i took me awhile to cum, even after he started simultaneously eating me out. he was down there for 30 minutes maybe? and the whole time he was just pounding my gspot roughly. it felt very, very good and the end result was a spectacular, incoherent-for-15-minutes orgasm. the next day when i woke up, OUCH. my vagina hurt so bad, inside and out. i felt like my cervix was bruised as was the area around the outside. it felt tighter than usual and rather swollen. and it still hurts today! =/ i should probably mention that i've never had sexual intercourse (i know how to have fun though!). am i just in pain because of overstimulation and roughness? or could he have seriously damaged my insides? he was so into it that he was covered in sweat and out of breath at the end of it, and he's an in-shape 19 year old. haha.

on a side note, this was the first oral-session i've ever really enjoyed! it was wonderful and i want to be able to do it again. i just can't take the days of pain after the fact

 

[sunandshadow]

You almost certainly are just bruised - I've had internal bruises like that too. Like any other bruise it will go away in approximately a week. If you use a dildo regularly that will toughen up your vag a little so it doesn't bruise so easily. Also, what point in your menstrual cycle is it, a lot of women bruise easily anywhere on their bodies in the week before their period.

 

[VelvetSin]

Like sunandshadow said, it's bruising and it will fade. If you're new to much activity in that neighborhood, or if you go a long time between episodes, expect it to happen. You can either ask him to be a little more gentle, or let him go to town and deal with it a few more times until everything gets used to the activity. If you do work it out, so to speak, and the sensation doesn't diminish in time, see a doctor to make sure something else isn't going on to cause it.

My personal preference was the latter. When I first started getting active, I had a similar deal and insisted upon more gentle attention. It took a while where almost every event resulted in the same sensations to varying degrees. I was celibate for a period of time, and when it happened again and I asked my current SO to take it easy, his opinion was "toughen up, buttercup" and didn't change a thing he did. A week or two of heavy activity later, all was right again. That week or two was rough rolleyes but better IMO than months of being a delicate, breakable flower between the sheets.

Like the antacid commercials, decide if you want it to hurt now or later. Either way, you'll need to toughen up, buttercup.

 

[Firebrain]

Ooh. I'm jealous.

 

[fuckmeat]

I don't know what your reasons are for not having sex yet when you're happily so intimate with your guy. I can tell you though that your pussy is designed for sex with a cock. Cocks are not quite as rigid as fingers and they don't have nails. While energetic sex will cause soreness, it shouldn't result in the kind of internal trauma that hurts you for days. Plus, pain is your body's way of telling you you're mistreating it. You should not ignore the fact that you suffer so long after intense fingering like this. Your vagina and cervix are not invincible. You should also be ensuring that your boyfriend has clean hands and trimmed, clean fingernails before he goes nuts on you.

If you get some hormonal birth control and use condoms, it should be as safe as it's ever going to be for you to have sex. So long as you're religious about taking the BC, use condom friendly lubricant and a condom for all penis/vagina contact, you should be fine. You should also be able to access this stuff from your doctor without anyone in your family being informed, if that's your wish.

There are lots of contraceptive options now, of which hormonal BC is only one. You can even get a hormone implant under your skin that will protect you for three years, without the need to remember to take pills religiously. I it doesn't suit you or you want to start a family, it can simply be removed.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Plus, pain is your body's way of telling you you're mistreating it.

That's the best way I've seen that expressed.

 

[easyluckyfree]

thanks for all your responses after 3 or 4 days i was back to normal and ready for action.

and fuckmeat, i'd LOVE to be having sex, but i'm determined to wait until i'm in a committed relationship. i'd like it to be special and all that. right now i'm involved with 3 different men. oral sex is sex too, but i want to save actual sex for someone i know will love me and make me feel great, in the bedroom and otherwise.