Ouch.

[tingo]

Ok... well, before about a week ago, his penis would fit in my box no problem. But now, all of the sudden if he gets too excited it won't fit and it hurts...

I'm definitly wet enough, and I'm totally comfortable with him. Things have been fine for months, until now. What gives?

 

[silverwhisper]

that's odd. since it's extraordinarily unlikely he got any bigger, that should mean that something is different on your end. are you under a particularly large degree of stress that's causing you not to relax as much lately?

that's the only thing i can think of i'm afraid.

ed

 

[Shy_Joanna]

You haven't got some kind of infection have you? Not necessarily an STI, but anything that could have caused you to be swollen and tender?

 

[tingo]

It is exam time. So yeah, maybe that's it. I mean it's nothing about him - I feel very close to him. Maybe it's everything else?!

 

[LadyJeanne]

Can you describe "hurts"?

 

[SweetErika]

Sometimes even though I'm definitely wet enough, some spots don't get as lubricated, so I'd suggest adding lube just for the hell of it. It could potentially help you avoid anticipating problems as well, which will relax you...psychological lubrication, if you will. With as inexpensive and available as most lubes are, it certainly can't hurt.

When you have trouble, do you stop and move back to oral, or something else really stimulating? Do you have an orgasm before trying sex?

I'd suspect part of this is that it's become a self-fulfilling prophecy...you expect pain/trouble and tense up, then it hurts. Maybe trying some different things and refocusing your mind will help break that cycle.

 

[Eilan]

I experienced this problem with my ex, to the point where I wasn't interested in sex, and when we did have sex, we HAD to use lube to keep it from hurting. For me, it felt like my ex's penis had razor blades (or something else really sharp) attached to it.

SweetErika's right on the money--if you expect sex to hurt, you won't be disappointed. There's a reason that some of us around here call the brain the biggest sex organ. Sometimes it can work against us.

Maybe once you get through exams and the stress of the holidays things will settle down. In the meantime, see if using a little lube doesn't help. If it doesn't get better soon, it may be worth a visit to your doctor.

Good luck.

 

[blondi84]

I experienced this problem with my ex, to the point where I wasn't interested in sex, and when we did have sex, we HAD to use lube to keep it from hurting. For me, it felt like my ex's penis had razor blades (or something else really sharp) attached to it.

SweetErika's right on the money--if you expect sex to hurt, you won't be disappointed. There's a reason that some of us around here call the brain the biggest sex organ. Sometimes it can work against us.

Maybe once you get through exams and the stress of the holidays things will settle down. In the meantime, see if using a little lube doesn't help. If it doesn't get better soon, it may be worth a visit to your doctor.

Good luck.

When my husband and I were dating, every once in a while it just felt like his cock was made of sandpaper. I could not figure it out. We tried lube, we tried with just his fingers, everything made it worse. I felt awful about it, but he was so sweet about it that eventually these little episodes quit happening altogether. I went to the doctor and everything was fine in the medical department. I was pretty young (not like 14, but probably too young to be doing what we were doing) and I think I just was not ready. So it could be just in your head. Stress is that powerful.

 

[human_male]

Make sure you tell him about it. He'll feel horrible that he's hurting you, assuming he cares about you. Then you can talk to him about it and see if he's noticed anything or has anything to tell you, like for example surgery concerning him and a horse. Or something. And then go see a doctor.

I was going to just make a joke about keeping my penis in a box too, glad I didn't now.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Sounds like it could be a simple bacterial infection too. My wifehad similar problems with this. Lube helps but not totally. Go see your doc, if that's what it is it's cakewalk to clear up, nothing major.

 

[Tele2047]

If you've been using nonoxynol-9 spermicide (by using the spermicidal foam, the sponge, or lubed condoms with the stuff in it), you may be sensitive to it. My ex-gf complained of pains, like a bunch of little cuts, when we used it once and I believe she's sensitive/allergic to it.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Good point. The infection of which I speak causes irritation and inflamation, just like an allergic reaction probably would. Latex comdoms maybe? New brand of soap? Maybe a douche?

 

[Iriadne]

Oh gee that sounds familiar...

For me that exactly described the feeling that I had at the time I discovered an allergy to spermicidal condoms. A day or so after we stopped using spermicidal condoms things cleared up.
~I