well i got a problem. my girlfriend has given me several blowjobs but i have never came. it feels really good when she does it but after awhile it feels just like i have to piss. i cum pretty easily when we have sex or when i masterbate. i just can't when she gives me a bj. so what do you think is wrong?? any help would be nice
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Wicked13 said:
It might be that your subconscious has some qualms about cumming in her mouth. Whether it be her spitting, or the idea of her swallowing, that I have no idea of. Am no a shrink afterall. Would be a lot richerif I were. LOL.
But jesting aside, another possibility is your subconscious blocking off the orgasm response due to perhaps other physical responses. (like having had a too heavy meal, which could lead to a certain degree of dismay if let out at an inopportune time).
Lack of the proper stimulation/excitement is another possibility. Thus far only one lady has come close to making me cum with her mouth, course I hadn't had sex in quite some time, so my loins were overheated so to speak. My gf with whom I recently broke up couldn't bring me to orgasm with her mouth either, and I'd say that technique wise she's one of the best I've ever had. Though granted, there the too much to eat and not wanting to spoil a good time was at the root of my.. shall we say.. stamina..
For the first two possibilities, talk to a professional psychiatrist or psychologist.
Option three, be aware of the timing of your amorous encounters, as well as the amounts of food and drink you consume.
Option four, well... Just as it is best for the lady to show her paramour what makes her well overflow, thus a gentleman should show a lady what it takes to make him errupt in pasion.
Option five. More time spent on foreplay might help. Helping one's company to reach Nirvana can be quite a stimulating experience and might help you over your own edge as well.
But enough of my inane natterings.
willywanker
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If you don't have any trouble cumming when you mastrubate, try getting her to stroke you cock with her hand while she gives you head. Thats what my wife does when she wants to speed things up. Worth a shot.
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My current lover has the same problem. He & I have decided it is simply the lack of strong friction needed to make him cum. He cums just fine in my hand or in my pussy, but it takes some doing to get him to cum in my mouth.
We keep trying, though....it's so much fun!
We keep trying, though....it's so much fun!
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My problem is a little difernat, but i think it's all in the mind. My lover would love to cum in my mouth when i give him a bj, and i love sucking him, but the thought of him cumming in my mouth puts me off. I am sure if i caould get past that, i could give a much better bj. Maybe if you start by stroking and cuming on her mouth that way you can build up from there, other wise, maye try getting her to stimulate your ass while she sucks, that can have an amazing affect if your into it. good luck, practice makes perfect.
