Orgasm questions

[Gilly Bean]

i recently started having trouble reaching an orgasm, much to my dismay and frustration. A friend of mine mentioned the possibility of taking Viagra. Well, as a woman, I laughed and explained that I was female. He further explained that he has a friend with the same problem, and her doctor gave her samples of Viagra to take and see if it helped. He also said her orgasms are much stronger now then they were before they stopped cumming. (pun intended)


So, any other females out there experiance the same problem, and if so, have you tried it, and does it work? I feel really weird asking my doctor for a scrip like that.

 

[Justine]

So, any other females out there experiance the same problem, and if so, have you tried it, and does it work? I feel really weird asking my doctor for a scrip like that.

I've always had trouble reaching an orgasm, but that is something, I believe, that is part of who I am. It takes a lot of patience and passion for that. Never took any medication for that.

Maybe there is something else (not necessarily sexually)bothering you and you are finding it difficult to concentrate?

 

[Gilly Bean]

No, it's not the lack of concentration, I started taking an anti depressant, and I strongly think that has something to do with it. I have never been an easy cummer, however, oral sex would only take 15 minutes, TOPS, to make it happen. By myself, I could go anywhere from 5 to 10 minutes. Now, it's taking nearly an hour of oral, and manual takes about 40 minutes.

 

[MissTaken]

I read somewhere about the side affects of women taking viagra. It isn't recommended. I found the article in a magazine in my gyn's office.

I believe that there are natural enhancers, so to speak.

I would ask your doctor as well. My information is a couple of years old.

BTW, if you find an answer, please let us know!

 

[batter]

rergasms

just as a note here into our question about how difficult it is to reach orgasm, if you are on any medications for depression etc, your libido levels do drop.
naturally, you do not want to take any other meds or herbals to try to resolve the problem without consulting your doctor.
some herbal remedies will conflict with your medications.
it is unfortunate libido suffers as a side effect to the meds.

hugs

 

[MidnightAngel]

I started taking an anti depressant, and I strongly think that has something to do with it.

Yes, A LOT of anti-depressants have sexual side-effects. You could ask your Dr. if the one you are taking is known to have this effect.

 

[Gilly Bean]

I have an appt soon with my OB again, to see how the meds are working, and fully intend to ask his advice. I don't want to lose my libido at all, and so far I havn't lost my desire for sex. If anything, that has increased. However, no orgasm makes me moody, and upset. Soo... I want that BACK, damnit!

 

[Justine]

Re: rergasms

naturally, you do not want to take any other meds or herbals to try to resolve the problem without consulting your doctor.
some herbal remedies will conflict with your medications.
it is unfortunate libido suffers as a side effect to the meds.

hugs

There are some good herbals for depression too...

 

[mskittykatt]

how long have you been taking the new medication?
the side effects of any med will generally decrease over time. i am actually having the same troubles taking Zoloft. it's better this week then it was last week if that's any comfort.
i found fantasy play helps immensly even if it's just in my mind and not spoken or acted out.
give it some time and try to be patient. and please please don't stop taking your meds without a doc's supervision!

 

[MissTaken]

I did a search and was quickly interrupted by real life, so I can't remember the names of the products.

The point: there are lotions out there that are being touted as the woman's viagra.

As everyone else has said, I wouldn't introduce any other chemicals into my body without a doctor's approval.

Good Luck, GB!

 

[petrel]

does anyone know if the contraceptive pill can have the affect of decreasing libido?

 

[Ladyhawke]

does anyone know if the contraceptive pill can have the affect of decreasing libido?

That happened to me when I was on the pill. It was suggested to me that I try another type of pill but I chose just to go off of it.

 

[Guest]

I am on antidepressants as well. I was on Effexor and my libido hardly existed. I told my doctor and he changed my meds to Wellbutrin...it works sooo much better. I finally got my libido back

 

[hornylady]

Any improvements yet Gilly, or are you too busy with that camera?

 

[BlkPnthr]

A couple of reasons anyone, male or female has difficulty reaching orgasm:

1) Need a new partner or need to communicate to your partner what works for you.

2) Emotional break downs. If you're not "right in the head" so to speak, you're going to find it very difficult to reach orgasm.

3) Most common reason.....routine. Things have become bland, and boring. Try spicing things up. Take some risks. If you're having this problem while masturbating, try doing it with your curtains open or something else that invokes risk. The idea of being caught is a big turn on for most people. Not all, but most.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Any improvements yet Gilly, or are you too busy with that camera?

Way to busy...


we get about 1 in 4 tries. That is, we give up after around 45 minutes to an hour of direct clit stimulation. If it hasn't happened by then, I know it's not gonna.

The routine isn't lacking. We spice it up quite often, actually, and are always trying new things. We communicate exactly what we each need and want, and work from their. Not sure bout the 'right in the head'. I figure I am pretty sane. A bit depressed, but then, I have been depressed for the better part of 12 or 13 years. The only thing new, is that I finally started talking to people about it, and taking an anti depressant.

 

[BlkPnthr]

Hmmm it posted twice...odd

 

[BlkPnthr]

Well, depression is never a good thing. Maybe you're just trying too hard? Just go with the flow and enjoy the time....no need to concentrate on cumming It'll just happen as I am sure you already know The more you think about it though, the harder it gets to achieve. I know this from personal experience. A lot of the problems experienced in this field are more psychological than anything else. The "right in the head" thing was a tad bit of humor mixed with reality. The meaning was not quite explained I guess What I mean with that is, when everything seems stressful and you feel lke you're losing/lost your mind

Good luck, and happy orgasms

 

[Subdude]

BUMMER

I have no suggestions to help other than to offer my sympahty, Gilly. Life has enough "speedbumps" w/o losing that precious pleasure. As others have said, it maybe has become a bit like the guy w/ the occasional erection problem, so large in yoiur head, that it's what accompanies you into bed. It's practically impossible, but the less you think about it, the easier it may be. Sorry.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Gilly Bean,

Anti-depressants have that affect, on both men and women. It's very common in fact. So, don't feel like it's something you are doing wrong or whatever. I know several women who have gone on anti-depressants, and their sex drive literally dried up. And when they did feel like making love, they couldn't cum at all, or if they did, it took forever and it was very rare for them to cum at all. Same with men achieving erections. One women I knew talked to her doctor about it, and he gave her some Yohimbe, which is a herb or root or something. That works pretty good, but some doctors don't like it. There are alternatives to that. Veromax for Women is available and you can buy it over the counter... for something like $25 per 60 tablets. I think it's something you take everyday... like 2 tablets per day... sometimes more depending on how well it works for you. Some people have to take 4 or 6 tablets per day, some are fine only taking 2.


I"m surprised your doctor didn't warn you about this side effect. Most will and even give you something to counteract this side effect. The other thing, and I think someone mentioned this... is try Welltrubin... that is a new one.. they say it doesn't have any sexual side effects.

Best of luck and I hope you figure it out.

PBW

 

[Guest]

I lost all intrest in masturbating when I was put on Prozac.

And for a 16 year old boy, that's pretty sad!

 

[Rowdygirl]

No, it's not the lack of concentration, I started taking an anti depressant, and I strongly think that has something to do with it. I have never been an easy cummer, however, oral sex would only take 15 minutes, TOPS, to make it happen. By myself, I could go anywhere from 5 to 10 minutes. Now, it's taking nearly an hour of oral, and manual takes about 40 minutes.

Boy, does this sound familiar! I started taking Zoloft about 6 months ago and have had the exact same problem. I asked my doctor about Wellbutrin when I went on medication, but he said that there were reasons that he didn't like to prescribe it.
I have seen some of the lotions for women that are supposed to help move things along, but they're REALLY expensive. Has anyone used them? I'd like to know how well they work before I spend a lot of money.

 

[GambitandRouge]

Wow, Gilly, 1 out of 4 times aint bad at all. (Rogue here this time) For me it is more like 1 out of 20-40 times lately.... I sure wish I could get somewhere manually but that is a total waste of time... never happens. I am hoping my problem is being pregnant and it will pass. *sigh* if you find any solutions please let us know!!! {{{HUG}}}

 

[Mhoram]

I too am on Effexor, and for the first 3 weeks atleast, my sex drive dropped to 1/5 of what it had been, but after a few weeks it kept getting better and now, about 8 weeks later i'm back to normal.

 

[Guest]

Please don't take this the wrong way, but...

Weren't you recently pregnant and due around Dec. or Jan.? And, if my memory is correct, then did you have trouble orgasming while pregnant or did this problem occure after labor/delivery? For me, personally, my sex drive and desire went up while pregnant (and my nipples became sensitive seriously for the first time in my life-and have stayed sensitive still) and has continued to be "as high" now as it was then. Perhaps the stress of a new baby in your life has affected your body and sexual response?