Orgasm on command

[Ruffian_13]

I wasn't sure if BDSM was the right place for this, but it seemed as good a place as any...

This past week, my boyfriend has been able to make me orgasm on command. I used to be very difficult to get to cum (even masturbating, I would take an hour on average), but seemingly out of nowhere, I have become incredibly orgasmic. He can tell me to cum and I do, even via text, he has made "buttons" (for example, if he touches my lower back, I cum), hell, I've even been able to just think myself into orgasms without even touching myself!

Now don't get me wrong, this is pretty freaking incredible But I'm just curious as to what the heck is going on with me! Does anyone have any experience with this? Will it last or is this some temporary weirdness that I should enjoy while it lasts? I've tried searching online but nothing is really helpful... I guess I'm just a little freaked out that he has this control over me now. For those who may be concerned, we have discussed how we feel (he thinks it's awesome, but has no idea how we got to this point - he was just trying to get me to cum more easily), and he definitely doesn't want to take advantage or abuse our new-found fun.

Anyway, I guess the point of my rambling is I'm just looking for some shared experiences, maybe some scientific background of what's going on, or any tips or advice on how to prolong and enjoy this ability. Thanks!

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Dreamer110]

I wasn't sure if BDSM was the right place for this, but it seemed as good a place as any...

This past week, my boyfriend has been able to make me orgasm on command. I used to be very difficult to get to cum (even masturbating, I would take an hour on average), but seemingly out of nowhere, I have become incredibly orgasmic. He can tell me to cum and I do, even via text, he has made "buttons" (for example, if he touches my lower back, I cum), hell, I've even been able to just think myself into orgasms without even touching myself!

Now don't get me wrong, this is pretty freaking incredible But I'm just curious as to what the heck is going on with me! Does anyone have any experience with this? Will it last or is this some temporary weirdness that I should enjoy while it lasts? I've tried searching online but nothing is really helpful... I guess I'm just a little freaked out that he has this control over me now. For those who may be concerned, we have discussed how we feel (he thinks it's awesome, but has no idea how we got to this point - he was just trying to get me to cum more easily), and he definitely doesn't want to take advantage or abuse our new-found fun.

Anyway, I guess the point of my rambling is I'm just looking for some shared experiences, maybe some scientific background of what's going on, or any tips or advice on how to prolong and enjoy this ability. Thanks!

Man this could be so much fun! In the mall, grocery store and so many others. The possibilities are endless!

 

[innerMILFsub]

I wish I could orgasm on demand, but it just doesn't happen. You lucky girl! My body hates me.

 

[Dreamer110]

I wish I could orgasm on demand, but it just doesn't happen. You lucky girl! My body hates me.

I could train you if that'll help?

 

[SpunThings]

I wasn't sure if BDSM was the right place for this, but it seemed as good a place as any...

This past week, my boyfriend has been able to make me orgasm on command. I used to be very difficult to get to cum (even masturbating, I would take an hour on average), but seemingly out of nowhere, I have become incredibly orgasmic. He can tell me to cum and I do, even via text, he has made "buttons" (for example, if he touches my lower back, I cum), hell, I've even been able to just think myself into orgasms without even touching myself!

Now don't get me wrong, this is pretty freaking incredible But I'm just curious as to what the heck is going on with me! Does anyone have any experience with this? Will it last or is this some temporary weirdness that I should enjoy while it lasts? I've tried searching online but nothing is really helpful... I guess I'm just a little freaked out that he has this control over me now. For those who may be concerned, we have discussed how we feel (he thinks it's awesome, but has no idea how we got to this point - he was just trying to get me to cum more easily), and he definitely doesn't want to take advantage or abuse our new-found fun.

Anyway, I guess the point of my rambling is I'm just looking for some shared experiences, maybe some scientific background of what's going on, or any tips or advice on how to prolong and enjoy this ability. Thanks!

A lot of what goes on with orgasm is influenced by the mind in my experience. It sounds like you've found a partner you can trust, feel comfortable with, and know that he can bring you pleasure. If he's been able to do that intuitively, without knowing how ahead of time, that sounds great As long as he hasn't done anything to prevent you from having an orgasm unless he commands, then you're probably fine.

 

[babslovesherdaddy]

I wasn't sure if BDSM was the right place for this, but it seemed as good a place as any...

This past week, my boyfriend has been able to make me orgasm on command. I used to be very difficult to get to cum (even masturbating, I would take an hour on average), but seemingly out of nowhere, I have become incredibly orgasmic. He can tell me to cum and I do, even via text, he has made "buttons" (for example, if he touches my lower back, I cum), hell, I've even been able to just think myself into orgasms without even touching myself!

Now don't get me wrong, this is pretty freaking incredible But I'm just curious as to what the heck is going on with me! Does anyone have any experience with this? Will it last or is this some temporary weirdness that I should enjoy while it lasts? I've tried searching online but nothing is really helpful... I guess I'm just a little freaked out that he has this control over me now. For those who may be concerned, we have discussed how we feel (he thinks it's awesome, but has no idea how we got to this point - he was just trying to get me to cum more easily), and he definitely doesn't want to take advantage or abuse our new-found fun.

Anyway, I guess the point of my rambling is I'm just looking for some shared experiences, maybe some scientific background of what's going on, or any tips or advice on how to prolong and enjoy this ability. Thanks!

Congratulations to you and your boyfriend. You have learned a skill that my Dom has been trying to teach me for nearly two years and I haven't mastered it yet.

 

[innerMILFsub]

I could train you if that'll help?

Really? Can you correct my hormones? Can you stop the migraines that force me to be on a preventative medication that makes climax incredibly difficult?

Because I would pay my weight in gold to anyone that could train my body to ignore those present issues!

 

[Tech_Director]

Glad you're enjoying it.

I wasn't sure if BDSM was the right place for this, but it seemed as good a place as any...

This past week, my boyfriend has been able to make me orgasm on command. I used to be very difficult to get to cum (even masturbating, I would take an hour on average), but seemingly out of nowhere, I have become incredibly orgasmic. He can tell me to cum and I do, even via text, he has made "buttons" (for example, if he touches my lower back, I cum), hell, I've even been able to just think myself into orgasms without even touching myself!

Now don't get me wrong, this is pretty freaking incredible But I'm just curious as to what the heck is going on with me! Does anyone have any experience with this? Will it last or is this some temporary weirdness that I should enjoy while it lasts? I've tried searching online but nothing is really helpful... I guess I'm just a little freaked out that he has this control over me now. For those who may be concerned, we have discussed how we feel (he thinks it's awesome, but has no idea how we got to this point - he was just trying to get me to cum more easily), and he definitely doesn't want to take advantage or abuse our new-found fun.

Anyway, I guess the point of my rambling is I'm just looking for some shared experiences, maybe some scientific background of what's going on, or any tips or advice on how to prolong and enjoy this ability. Thanks!

It really is not that hard to do with a submissive that has been with you over a period of time. All it amounts to is a conditioning of the mind to let the body have physiological response to a command or a set of "triggers". I have personally done it with 9 submissives over the years and also conditioned them to ONLY be able to cum with My permission....(That one backfired on Me once when I had to re-train a submissive I released to be able to cum without My permission.) In any case, chere, DO enjoy, I KNOW your boyfriend is....LOL

 

[Tech_Director]

Actually.....

Man this could be so much fun! In the mall, grocery store and so many others. The possibilities are endless!

I use that to answer a question I get about the difference between D/s relationships and regular ones.

In D/s, I can be walking in the mall with My subbie and she stops in front of a store to look in the window....I move up behind her....nuzzle her hair aside and whisper..."Cum for Me ....NOW, slut."....and she DOES....most of the time with Me having to hold her and hold her UP a little.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Yunie]

Hey Ruffian!

I am a lot like your previous self. I am not an easy one to cum.


But I think you like the control. It has to trigger it for you. And I noticed randomly I am more horny and it's easier to cum (I am guessing fluctuations in hormones might be the cause to this one.)

Getting out of your own head sometimes is difficult when you want to cum but when things are too hot - you can only focus on what's going on and CUM. I always cum hard when I get flood with cum. I call it my cum trigger.

 

[Tech_Director]

And if you have a pyl who has described above, or as I admit to, issues with inorgasmia?

I can quite clearly see how it could be conditioned with people who orgasm normally, but for those of us who have 'issues' with orgasm the conditioning phase might be rather tricky, no?

If it's a medical condition it is highly improbable to accomplish but still NOT impossible because the mind is an incredible tool and is capable of making the body do ALMOST anything.

IF it's a psychological problem, a trained professional would be the best answer initially but even there, if the Dom/me has enough patience and a plan with goals that he or she has set for the submissive, it IS able to be accomplished.

 

[Etoile]

Had a conversation about this recently. I kinda don't believe in it. That is, I think it's a purely psychological response. I don't think the body is actually having an orgasm. The submissive might feel like they are, but I think it's mental. Do guys trained to do this have the same ejaculatory response they usually do?

Maybe I'm just bitter, though, because I can't come easily for medical reasons.

 

[Ruffian_13]

Dreamer110 - he has taken advantage of that already! (In ways we are both comfortable with - due to our respective careers, public play is pretty limited.)

For those who mentioned their difficulties in reaching climax, I feel for you... What a frustrating situation to be in.

He did mention today something about having read about it in the Kama Sutra and working on me since we started having sex, but that he didn't expect these results! So I guess he got a bit more than he bargained for I absolutely have more trust and love and self-confidence in my relationship with him than I have... maybe ever. So that is definitely helping. And I find that as I'm getting older/wiser, I'm getting to know my body better and what I need and want, and he actually cares about figuring out how to make me feel good, and it's all just delicious and fun and emotional and amazing.

Etoile - I don't disagree with your assessment that it is a psychological type of response; but then, isn't orgasm hugely mental anyway? It is for me at least, and so this doesn't feel like it's far off the mark. I do crave orgasms from physical stimulation though, even if I've had a bunch of "mental" ones already, so there is a difference in that respect. I would imagine that guys in the same circumstances would climax, but perhaps without ejaculation? (I think I read here on Lit once that that is a thing, but I may be way out in left field - guys feel free to chime in!)

 

[DenialGirl81]

I am just beginning to explore orgasm on command with my Master. It's the most surreal experience, and I feel it has only been possible to achieve because I have found someone I trust completely to really let go with. So good to discover that others are enjoying this incredible experience too.

 

[petes478]

Along the lines of control, controlling orgasms, behavior mod, training her to orgasm on command.....there are products for sale that you can place in the girl's pussy on her clit, and when I press the button in my hand held device, she receives a stimulating jolt, and with the proper reward and punishment training you'll train or be trained just the way you seek.

 

[RawHumor]

Really? Can you correct my hormones? Can you stop the migraines that force me to be on a preventative medication that makes climax incredibly difficult?

Because I would pay my weight in gold to anyone that could train my body to ignore those present issues!

His domination is so good that it overcomes medical issues.

 

[petes478]

Really? Can you correct my hormones? Can you stop the migraines that force me to be on a preventative medication that makes climax incredibly difficult?

Because I would pay my weight in gold to anyone that could train my body to ignore those present issues!

electrical stimulation can overcome all kinds of medically difficult challenges.....


Pleasure at the push of a button
Dr. Stuart Meloy stumbled upon an alternative use for an electrode stimulation device that treats pain.
February 11, 2008|Regina Nuzzo | Special to The Times
Dr. Stuart Meloy never set out to study orgasms. It was an accident.

He was in the operating room one day in 1998, implanting electrodes into a patient's spine to treat her chronic leg pain. (The electrodes are connected to a device that fires impulses to the brain to block pain signals.) But when he turned on the power, "the patient suddenly let out something between a shriek and moan," says Meloy, an anesthesiologist and pain specialist in North Carolina.

Asked what was wrong, she replied, "You'll have to teach my husband how to do that."

Meloy moved the electrodes until he found the correct, pain-numbing position on the spine. "I went home, had a funny story to tell my wife," he says.

He almost left it at that.

But the next day, he told the story to some colleagues, and a gynecologist commented that one-third of his patients complain of orgasm dysfunction.

Might this, Meloy mused, potentially help such people?

He started a formal pilot study of the device, which is approved for use in treating bladder and pain problems, implanting it in the spines of 11 women, some of whom had never had an orgasm. The women, who were instructed to keep a record of all their sexual experiences, were allowed to use the device for nine days ad libitum.

Meloy's study, published in 2006 in the journal Neuromodulation, reported that 10 out of 11 of the patients felt pleasurable stimulation from the device, including increased vaginal lubrication. Five of the women had previously lost their ability to have orgasms; four regained it with the device. (The fifth never used her device during the nine-day trial because of work stress, she said.)

None of the five women who had never had an orgasm was able to experience one with the device, however. "They said it was pleasurable, but it wasn't sending them over the edge," Meloy says.

The experimental implant -- now trademarked by Meloy as the Orgasmatron after the orgasm-inducing cylinder in Woody Allen's 1973 movie "Sleeper" -- rests on the skin just above the belt line. Two electrodes snake into the space between the vertebrae and the spinal cord. A video-game-like remote control allows women (or their partners) to turn electrical pulses on and off and fiddle with timing and intensity.

Electrodes in the right place (determined partly by trial and error) seem to interact with various nerve networks, Meloy says, including nerves from the pelvis that enter the spinal highway near the tailbone. Stimulating those nerves shoots pleasure signals straight up to the part of the brain that processes information coming from the genitalia.

Women who have used the device say they feel as if their clitoris and vagina are actually being stimulated, to quite realistic effect. ("One woman asked me, 'Would it be considered adultery if I gave the remote control to someone other than my husband?' " Meloy says.)

Some volunteers also report fleeting episodes of clenched foot muscles, Meloy says, probably a result of electrical pulses leaving the spine and stimulating nearby motor nerves. (He wonders if the phenomenon might somehow be related to a common orgasm description: "My toes curled.")

And when the device's pulse intensity is cranked up to maximum, Meloy says, some women find their vaginal and rectal muscles squeezing rhythmically in time with the pulses, even before the orgasmic finale.

Meloy thinks that practice, or at least past experience, is key to success with the device. Without prior orgasm experiences, crucial neural pathways may never have been laid down, possibly explaining why women who'd never had orgasms did not experience one during the nine-day trial. Even with extra stimulation from the device, Meloy says, nine days may not have been enough time to build pathways up to full orgasmic strength.

And even the successful women in the trial lost their recovered orgasmic ability when the devices were removed. Meloy hopes that longer access to the device would let women practice their newfound skills and fortify neural pathways -- a sort of orgasmic neural rehabilitation.

Meloy says he has also implanted two impotent men with the device. Both volunteers were able to achieve an erection, he says, and reportedly had powerful ejaculations.

Meloy sees two potential male markets for the device. One includes men with erectile dysfunction who take nitrates for heart disease and therefore cannot take Viagra or similar medications, like Jack Nicholson's character in the film "Something's Gotta Give." The other might be recreational users, men interested in boosting their existing erections and ejaculations -- and willing to pay for elective surgery.

Design work is underway to get the cost of the procedure down to about $12,000 -- roughly the price of breast implants, Meloy says.

He plans to shrink the size of the internal processor to the size of two sticks of gum and the external processor to roughly the size of a belt pager, all while ensuring that the system is durable enough to withstand shear forces of typical use.

Before Food and Drug Administration approval could be granted and the device sent to market -- Meloy estimates that's probably still two or three years away -- the new design will need to be tested in another study, he says. But there will be no animal testing phase. "I don't know how to ask animals, 'Where do you feel the tingling?' or 'Do you want a cigarette?' "

The link to this article if anyone is interested is

http://articles.latimes.com/2008/feb/11/health/he-orside11

That's right it's the LA TIMES.....open sourced. Enjoy!

 

[Etoile]

*falls down laughing*

Completely unrelated, but that author is a colleague of mine.

 

[Tech_Director]

Two key words for accomplishing this.

There are two keys to accomplishing this goal with submissives.

TRUST and PATIENCE.

I am currently training two submissives toward this goal now and I have no doubt that I shall succeed. Do not be put off if your submissive says that she does not think it's possible or she claims that maybe other women can, but there's no way she will be able to do that. Just have patience and relish the moment all that much more when she does it for the FIRST time. Trust Me, the look on their faces is PRICELESS that first time and worth all your time and effort.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[petes478]

electrical stimulation to orgasm just fyi

http://www.folsomelectricompany.com/Women.aspx

 

[hikingman37]

Man this could be so much fun! In the mall, grocery store and so many others. The possibilities are endless!

your mailbox is full

 

[WarriorPoetDom]

I'm not a doctor,nor do I advocate alternative therapies in lieu of a licensed medical professional.
However,when all else fails,I would suggest working with a skilled hypnotist.
For some people,hypnosis addresses many of the above mentioned issues.
The only limits,(besides physical impossibilities),are in your imagination,and the skill of the hypnotist.
Be it pain relief,enhancement of pleasure,or simply play between consenting adults;
hypnosis is another tool to play with.
That said,educate yourself,a chimp with a loaded gun is still dangerous.
I've gone to school and studied clinical hypnotherapy.
I found it too much of a headache to make an actual living at it.
But,I was also hooked on the kink aspects.
Yes,I have done pain relief for my SO,and one session lasted for roughly a month.
In other exploration,I was able to teach orgasm on command,to both the non-orgasmic,and the normally orgasmic.
In my SO,hypnosis made her anxiety issues more manageable.
There are lots of possibilities in a fun adult play sense.
As mentioned above,neural pathways are the key,when learning new things
and under hypnosis,you are creating and strengthening those pathways.
Like a well worn path,when used regularly,they become automatic.
Triggers I have not used for years,still remain effective in some subjects.
In conclusion,if this interests you,learn more,there are lots of helpful resources on the net.
I'd suggest looking up Brian David Phillips,he does a lot of fun things with hypnosis,
lots of free info and training if that interests you.