Orgasm from sex

[Bighammerfucker]

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[Privates1stClass]

I forgot to say that the amount of time needed is maybe 45 minutes or more during sex. If I masturbate, I could probably do it in 20 under perfect situations, but in sex I need at least that long... plus probably a lot longer because it really isn't that fun to try to rush things in fact sometimes that ruins it altogether. So if the sex was great maybe 45 minutes...? How do I get a guy to last that long!!!

Sorry for your situation, but I don't think there are many guys who can last that long.

Have you tried something like using a vibrator during foreplay to get you close before attempting intercourse? My wife had a similar problem and we solved it with a Hitachi Magic Wand with me applying on her for awhile until she was 'ready.' That way, I didn't have to keep thrusting for 45 minutes, and we were both satisfied.

Good luck in finding a solution.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I don't think that it's typical for a man to last for 45 minutes of penetration without an orgasm unless he orgasms more than once and just remains inside.
Imagine running for 45 minutes. I assume you've tried multiple positions.. and it sounds like you've used multiple devices.
so.. two possible solutions.. although the first seems rather extreme to me and I don't think I could/would do it myself.

you could invite these other men into bed with you and your partner. Increasing the numbers increases the duration.

you could back off of all your toys for a bit and see if you can achieve some level of satisfaction from something other than penetration.

the other thing is.. I don't think it's bad to be horny the day after sex. I think it's common to want more of what felt good. If you wake up the next day and you're still horny, do you go straight to your toys or do you climb on top of him for more?

 

[Harold_Hill]

Left web site due to censored messages by chargergirl

 

[Aphro]

I forgot to say that the amount of time needed is maybe 45 minutes or more during sex. If I masturbate, I could probably do it in 20 under perfect situations, but in sex I need at least that long... plus probably a lot longer because it really isn't that fun to try to rush things in fact sometimes that ruins it altogether. So if the sex was great maybe 45 minutes...? How do I get a guy to last that long!!!

You won't. Consider yourself lucky to have the ten minutes!

Wait, wait, wait before penetration. Lots and lots of teasing foreplay. Tell him not to fuck you even if you BEG for it. Nothing inside you, until you are about ready to combustion. Then, when he finally enters you, you are so mentally and physically ready, you won't even need the ten minutes.

 

[whtwlf1790]

You won't. Consider yourself lucky to have the ten minutes!

Wait, wait, wait before penetration. Lots and lots of teasing foreplay. Tell him not to fuck you even if you BEG for it. Nothing inside you, until you are about ready to combustion. Then, when he finally enters you, you are so mentally and physically ready, you won't even need the ten minutes.

I actually agree, let things build up, and though you may have said it and I just missed it, but make it more than just before sex. Try to tease him through the day, see if that will have him tease you.

I know own I wish I could do that with my wife, I make she gets her release no matter when I do, but letting the river build will break the damn better than a small stream, just my opinion

 

[NippleMuncher]

You won't. Consider yourself lucky to have the ten minutes!

Wait, wait, wait before penetration. Lots and lots of teasing foreplay. Tell him not to fuck you even if you BEG for it. Nothing inside you, until you are about ready to combustion. Then, when he finally enters you, you are so mentally and physically ready, you won't even need the ten minutes.

In addition to Aphroditiac's suggestions:

1 - Either teach your existing lover what you need or find a better one. While it is not the man's responsibility to assure you get an orgasm, most of us do try hard to get you there.

2 - Is it easier or harder to make you orgasm after your first one? If it's easier, then either you or he needs to get you your first one, then move to whatever you both need for the second and subsequent orgasms.

3 - Orgasm is a mental game, particularly for women, so if your partner isn't adequate, then you need to find ways around that, whether it's a new partner or getting him to do more of the things that excite you.

 

[Halen]

I can never reach it, which would be okay but I'm deeply unsatisfied, I'm always aroused, I can orgasm maybe 5 times multiply if I masturbate and the next day I'm so aroused again. Dildos are great but don't keep me satisfied, I can cum with a dildo, I have sex machines I can come with these... but a guy no such luck

I know it's because a mix of things: my partner's dick is a little small and his technique tends to not work for me, and mostly, he cums too early!!!

I tried having sex with another man, the same thing. I know I'm attractive but jeez. Cumming within 10 minutes is never, ever going to satisfy me. Even the second round - same thing, I'm lucky if I ever get more than 30 minutes from a partner???? I tried a different guy, it was even worse, he couldn't keep hard and I know for a fact he's very attracted to me so I don't know, then he came like two minutes into it and couldn't get hard again!!!

So what's the deal? I'm so unsatisfied and HORNY! It's driving me crazy. What am I doing wrong here? Is it really just that I take too much time to cum??? Am I never going to find a guy to satisfy me unless I sleep around and ruin my relationships? Is it generally hopeless because most guys just can't last long enough?? And I have no idea what to do, I'm so unsatisfied and masturbation never fixes it!!!

See this is why I orally pleasure my lovers first to ensure their satisfaction.. lol that way if intercourse is overwhelming, and yes with certain woman lasting longer than entry is a challenge to some men, others its just same ole same ole.
Not that either is better or worse, I mean imagine the guy who is trying to blubber his way through his early ejaculation explanation.

Some times for woman its hard to achieve orgasm through vaginal intercourse, its common, others its just a simple brush against her in a certain way and she's ready to explode. men and woman differ depending on the person. I know with a new lover the excitement of the new, exploring, entering new territory can be over whelming at first, at even a few times after the first time. I eventually get used to the feeling the arousal and last longer with each session.

 

[submit4pleasure]

Try cumming a few times before he starts fucking your pussy. Then, when you're almost ready to cum again, have him slide his dick inside your so-ready-to-cum pussy. Works for me every time! Hopefully, it would work for you, too.

 

[Cumference]

See this is why I orally pleasure my lovers first to ensure their satisfaction...

Exactly, and if extra time is needed, pull out and go back to oral when coming close to cum'ing.

That way the Salami gets a bit of rest without stimulation, and she is kept going.

(I consider that to be a really enjoyable game to play! Especially when she is tied up. The mix of pleasure and frustration is fantastic)

 

[twister947]

Consider older lovers. All of us, men and women alike, get better at this as we gain experience, and men are more able to delay their own orgasm.

That said, grinding away for 45 minutes would be a drag...invite fingers, tongues, and toys to the party. Mix things up.

 

[MrHappy212]

Why do women always blame the man? Either his dick is too small or he cums too quickly, or his form is bad? All of which could easily be overcome if the female partner puts in a bit of effort.

I am 34 and can masturbate six or seven times in 45 minutes. If your man has trouble getting it up then there are ways to help him.

If you don't like his technique then teach him something new.

If you don't like the position, again teach him something new.

There are a lot of ways to reach a climax, if his dick doesn't do the trick try his fingers, his tongue, even one of those toys you are so fond of. What guy wouldn't enjoy toying with their wives for a good half hour before he puts his dick in her? Or hell even after...

 

[Charles36]

Back in the days when. ( I was born too soon, I guess.)

45 minutes was not a long time for me. I was just getting started. I enjoyed oral and fucking.

Many women wanted me to pound them furiously when we started. I had to go somewhat slowly in the beginning. Even stopping moving my penis in and out for a moment. After a short while I would be past the point where I could ejaculate. Then I could fuck wildly in what ever position she desired for as long as she wanted. I could interrupt fucking to eat pussy or nibble on her clitoris and with only a minimum of caution go back to fucking wildly.

When it was time to ejaculate I would stop moving my penis and kiss her and get romantic. Then some slow deep strokes that often brought on another orgasm for her and I would erupt.

There were at least a couple of occasions with different women where our session went all night.

I am surprised that the men that you have tried have all been premature ejaculators. My first wife had permission and took advantage often. She rarely told me much but the very few times that she was left hanging I heard about it. She would come home horny and I would take care of her problem.

Try to get your and your partners head around my technique.

 

[twister947]

Only on Lit would a man who can barely last 30 minutes be characterized as a premature ejaculator.

 

[Bighammerfucker]

Thank all of you for all of these replies they are excellent and helpful, thank you!!!!

 

[SquirtnBrat]

Consider older lovers. All of us, men and women alike, get better at this as we gain experience, and men are more able to delay their own orgasm.

This. My lover and I have marathon sex. But I'm hypersexual so rarely feel "satisfied", so I understand where you're coming from to a point. I won't touch on the "mental block" scenarios, only you know what is going on in your head.
Show your lover the techniques your using to make yourself cum. Have him try to repeat the techniques.
Ease off the toys for a bit. Muscles have "memory", you may have created a need for a synthetic movement instead of a more organic one.
Good luck.

 

[Algos_Idoni]

Ease off the toys for a bit. Muscles have "memory", you may have created a need for a synthetic movement instead of a more organic one.
Good luck.

I was thinking along the same lines of muscle memory. Could it be that your muscles and even yourself mentally are too intune with what you know works for you, that you are having a difficult time using something or having something else bring you to climax.

Even as a guy, I sometimes have the mental issue of "just let me do it" when it comes to getting a handjob. If we have "perfected" what works for us and only rely on that, it will be more difficult for a something else to work.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I was thinking along the same lines of muscle memory. Could it be that your muscles and even yourself mentally are too intune with what you know works for you, that you are having a difficult time using something or having something else bring you to climax.

Even as a guy, I sometimes have the mental issue of "just let me do it" when it comes to getting a handjob. If we have "perfected" what works for us and only rely on that, it will be more difficult for a something else to work.

here's the difference..
when a woman does that, a man thinks it's hot.

 

[Cumference]

here's the difference..
when a woman does that, a man thinks it's hot.

So true!

And when it is the other way around, the woman feels inadequate.
(In some cases. I have had Lady C asking if she could hold my balls while I did it)

 

[GiggLeGasm]

So true!

And when it is the other way around, the woman feels inadequate.
(In some cases. I have had Lady C asking if she could hold my balls while I did it)

hahahaha... "oh babe.. if you really must. If it's easier, you can hold them with your tongue."

 

[Learin]

I can never reach it, which would be okay but I'm deeply unsatisfied, I'm always aroused, I can orgasm maybe 5 times multiply if I masturbate and the next day I'm so aroused again. Dildos are great but don't keep me satisfied, I can cum with a dildo, I have sex machines I can come with these... but a guy no such luck

I know it's because a mix of things: my partner's dick is a little small and his technique tends to not work for me, and mostly, he cums too early!!!

I tried having sex with another man, the same thing. I know I'm attractive but jeez. Cumming within 10 minutes is never, ever going to satisfy me. Even the second round - same thing, I'm lucky if I ever get more than 30 minutes from a partner???? I tried a different guy, it was even worse, he couldn't keep hard and I know for a fact he's very attracted to me so I don't know, then he came like two minutes into it and couldn't get hard again!!!

So what's the deal? I'm so unsatisfied and HORNY! It's driving me crazy. What am I doing wrong here? Is it really just that I take too much time to cum??? Am I never going to find a guy to satisfy me unless I sleep around and ruin my relationships? Is it generally hopeless because most guys just can't last long enough?? And I have no idea what to do, I'm so unsatisfied and masturbation never fixes it!!!

I've heard of men with 10 inch dicks who last for two hours straight. And that's the first round we're talking about. There's always a second round and, if you're hot enough, a third. When they cum, it isn't a pity spoonful. It's a pint!

In all of my 27 years, being sexually active in only 13 of them, I'm yet to encounter this mythical man who hasn't left a single unsatisfied woman in his bed.

Poor me.


Alright, love, I was messing with you.

Don't expect a man to last 30 minutes in bed. Even half of that is like stretching their limits. Sex is about bringing pleasure to all of its participants. But then, it isn't everything in a relationship.

By the sounds of it, you've conditioned yourself to a vibrator. Its constant use can damage nerves and even cause loss of sensation in severe cases.

Try to go without masturbation for a while, at least a few days before you're having sex. Discuss your unsatisfaction with your partner, tell him what you want and tell him to hold back for you. Oral sex and fingers are good for foreplay. Have a few orgasms before you let him stick his dick inside. Make him earn it.

But most importantly, let go of the vibrator for a while.

 

[BurningMonkey]

As others have said:

Foreplay. Lots and lots of foreplay. With tongue, fingers, nose, whatever.
Let him get you close, or closer. Hell, cum for him, more than once even. Then more foreplay.
Then start fucking.

Statistically, the average time among men between initial penile stimulation and orgasm/ejaculation is approx. 4 minutes. A lot of men can do it in 2 minutes or less when jerking off. Kinsey actually reported one man who could go from flaccid to ejaculation in 20 seconds.

10 minutes after insertion is long. 20 minutes is enormous. 45 minutes is like the distance to Pluto.

Deal with reality, not fantasy. Do what works, not what you wish worked.
We're sprinters, not marathon runners. That's not how we were engineered.

 

[Mr.G]

Before any SEX advice maybe you could explain this first.

"" which would be okay but I'm deeply unsatisfied, ""

Many good posts with great advice.

You MAY be confused over one point. Just because you're HORNY all the time doesn't mean you haven't been satisfied. The more orgasms you have the more oxytocin is produced in the brain and the hornier you get. You can have 30 or 40 MASSIVE orgasms in an evening and wake up hornier than a pole cat.

Have you found your G-SPOT yet? One of the things that often limits a woman from orgasming over and over again is the fact that her clit gets way too sensitive and you have to wait a while before you even LOOK at it again. Meantime all her other points of arousal have to be maintained or she comes OFF that high and you have to start all over again - horny or not.

The G-SPOT does NOT get too sensitive and BTW stimulates the greatest release of oxytocin of anything you can do. If you or your partner has managed to get that G-SPOT fired up you can have as many G-Gasms as you can stand ... literally SAFE-WORD "I can't take any more" or even pass out but
when you wake up in the morning you'll want more.

Very few women can achieve the kind of arousal and orgasms as shown or portrayed in porn films. MANY other methods are used/required. Play around with your man and SHOW HIM what turns you on. KNow that what turns you on tonight may need something different tomorrow. VARIETY. Your WOW factor will change through the month. So will his. Never set a "normal" routine. That spells disaster.

Work on your G-SPOT if you haven't already because once you have that puppy barking you'll never feel UNsatisfied again.

Here's some techniques and variations you may want to try.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

 

[GiggLeGasm]

hahahaha.. let's not get crazy.
the G spot can get too sensitive.
and I'm not just bragging by saying that