Orgasim question????

[awo]

hey everyone.. I have a question to those that my have some experience.
I kindda finger my girl often.. but i dont know if i make her orgasim. what i do is i kindda play with her clit.. i dont know if im actually getting it though.. she gets extreamly wet.. but i dont know if she has orgasimed. SO how can i make her orgasim while playing with her pussy (hand stimulation)? and how do I know if she has orgasimed.
I appreciate the help.. the more ideas and comments the better.

 

[Wise_Man]

have u looked on the HOW TO section on the main page

 

[Mazuri]

how do I know if she has orgasimed.

Ask her?

 

[soccergrrl]

And there ya go...

 

[leftybogs]

yah men ask her...
but i think she do...!!!

 

[awo]

well...

I have looked all over this site for similar questions and topics.. but i have found nothing.
And i kindda would feel akward asking her, if she has orgasimed. U know, i dont know if she would feel comfortable with answering it either. plus we arent having sex yet, so its kindda like just starting and exploring out sexual wants.
SO there is no definat way of knowing she orgasimed, WITHOUT asking?
I know we have some very experienced fokes on here.. help a guy out.
THANKS

 

[tanyachrs]

There's no way of knowing even if you do ask her.

Concentrate on figuring out what she's enjoying more. You should be able to tell that from noises and movement. Keep doing more of what she enjoys more (though not without variation - that would get boring) and trying new things to see if she likes them even more and eventually, whether she's currently orgasming or not, she will. Enjoy the moment, enjoy making her feel good, don't focus so much on the destination but on the journey. It's not easy for a young woman to orgasm with a new partner and worrying about it doesn't usually help.

A little hint: if she seems to be really, really into it and then she suddenly grabs your hand and pulls it away or stops you, that might be an orgasm. Manual stimulation of the clit should make her pretty darn sensitive when she does come and she probably won't want you to keep at it afterwards and will indicate that sharply. However, all women are different so even that's not a for sure.

 

[Mazuri]

I have looked all over this site for similar questions and topics.. but i have found nothing.
And i kindda would feel akward asking her, if she has orgasimed. U know, i dont know if she would feel comfortable with answering it either. plus we arent having sex yet, so its kindda like just starting and exploring out sexual wants.
SO there is no definat way of knowing she orgasimed, WITHOUT asking?
I know we have some very experienced fokes on here.. help a guy out.
THANKS

There are ways to ask without just baldly stating "are you done yet?" Make it a part of the play, where you ask her to tell you what is going on with her body (which has her concentrating on what and how she feels which, for me anyway, increases said feelings), tell you if she's getting close, and when she experiences her orgasm, have her tell you.

If neither of you are comfy talking about sex, why do you think you are comfy actually having it?

 

[Rivethead_Jack]

Something I do with my partner that always seems to work is have her either sit on your face or have her lay on her back and inswert two fingers about halfway and rub them against her puric bone in circles or toward you while licking her clit in short rythmic strokes. The important thing is not to just rush in and impale her with your fingers and overstimulate the clitoris. Take it slow. Remember it's the journey not the destination.

Also.. ask her what works and what doesn't

 

[awo]

There are ways to ask without just baldly stating "are you done yet?" Make it a part of the play, where you ask her to tell you what is going on with her body (which has her concentrating on what and how she feels which, for me anyway, increases said feelings), tell you if she's getting close, and when she experiences her orgasm, have her tell you.

If neither of you are comfy talking about sex, why do you think you are comfy actually having it?

We arent having sex/ Im just fingering and giving her manual stimulation.. per say. But it seems like there is no way of knowing if she has/ and when she orgasimed without asking.
I just want to make sure im satisfying her.

 

[Rivethead_Jack]

We arent having sex/ Im just fingering and giving her manual stimulation.. per say. But it seems like there is no way of knowing if she has/ and when she orgasimed without asking.
I just want to make sure im satisfying her.

If she cums you should be able to feel it with your fingers, its a clenching sensation and sometimes if you finger her right it should feel like a gushing sensation.

 

[Mazuri]

We arent having sex/ Im just fingering and giving her manual stimulation.. per say. But it seems like there is no way of knowing if she has/ and when she orgasimed without asking.
I just want to make sure im satisfying her.

I'd say that was a bit of semantics, but if you're happy then whatever. Sexual activity doesn't just involve a penis and a vagina. Again, you should be comfortable asking your partner what she likes and doesn't like or you shouldn't be doing anything, but perhaps that's just me.

Explore each of your bodies together, not just wander aimlessly poking things and hoping to find the golden ticket. If she masturbates, ask her to do so for you so you'll know what rocks her boat. Women have convincingly faked orgasms for decades if not centuries. If she wants to fake it, there's few ways you'll know.