Oral Sex Question

[StraitJaket]

A radio personality once said that there's a reason they call it a job, and that's because women treat it as a chore, or something they have to do to get a man. Once women have a man, they will quite doing this chore.

I'm curious, do women perceive this task as a chore or job. Not something they really want to do?

I really enjoy performing on my wife and I always give her an orgasm during sex. But, it's been several years since she has "returned the favor."

I understand that everybody has different tastes. Just curious if oral sex is something that people prefer not to do at all.

Just an informal poll.

 

[Wiggles]

In my opinion...

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[MidnightAngel]

Definitely not a 'chore'.

I *love* giving oral sex. Don't think of it as a job, a chore, or anything like that. I get as much pleasure from giving as he does from getting, I think.

As for not wanting to give oral when one is really horny because your mate will want to get off that way and not have sex and/or satisfy you......No Way! If I had a lover that insensitive, I'd kick him to the curb and find a new one!

 

[cyn1959]

Oral sex for me!

My man loves for me to suck him off, he considers it a real treat. However, in the 17 years we've been together, he has NEVER returned the favor! I'm dying here! as getting my clit licked and sucked is really the only way I'm able to cum. So I quit giving him head as he won't do me...we've talked about this, alot. I've put honey (which he loves) all over my beautiful cunt and even then he says no. The ONE TIME he ever tried he said he could not breathe, yes his nose is a bit strange as it was malformed at birth, so he has only one nostril open. And I understand his upbringing was alot different than mine, yadda yadda but c'mon learn to give a little and you might just get the treat of your life! As I have dentures, upper and lower, since I was 20 and had an accident where my teeth were lost....so when I am really being pleasured, I remove my teeth and I it's unreal for the man as I guess this feels really good. And I can take anyone all the way.
I was very experienced when I met my current partner, while he was a virgin at 35! But a really nice man. I miss oral sex, especially the "69" position, in our sex life, but I will not give in until he does! Anyone have some suggestions for me?

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I'm curious, do women perceive this task as a chore or job. Not something they really want to do?

Personaly I enjoy it VERY much.

 

[Jellybeangirl]

definitely not a chore...i love everything about giving head...turns me on

 

[wildrose69]

cyn..I have the same problem with the current b/f in fact he had never done oral...he loved it when I did it...but I told him that works both ways...and I do have a partial and have done it that way...and they seem to love it..but I'm not wasting my time on someone that cant and wont do oral...and for the other gal that was dying to have her clit licked and sucked...I know just what you mean...it's my way of cumming too and if I cant find a man that loves to do it...I'll go without!! ..***** is too short to be constantly frustated>>>

 

[wildrose69]

Whoops forgot to say no way is it a chore....I love to pleasure a man...but it's a 2-way street

 

[asphaltangel]

My Husband and I used to work in the same business for 10 yrs. and I have always been drawn to jobs that were dominated by men,probibly from the fact that I grew up in a farming family with my Dad and uncle Male cousin and 23 Farm hands. But there was always a young man that would be the new guy in the shop and we all know when guys get together the topic of sex always comes up. Well one or more of the guys that had worked with me for any length of time would decide they would try to embarrase the new guy and ask him the question? Hey man after you come in your girl if she wan't oral sex would you give it to her???

Most of them were grossed out and would never answer. But there was always one who would say man I aint never gonna put my mouth no where my dick has just been. Of course then they would say man you need to talk to Candy she can give you some good advise. Wich always ment it was my turn to see just how RED they could turn.

One kid that comes to mind was so embarred by comming to me for advice that I thought he was gonna pee in his pants before he ever got the question out. He came up to me and asked hey Candy what should I do if my girl wants Oral after I come in her and I don't want to I think thats GROSS!! LOL

I would look him streight in the eye and say OMG don't do anything except give her my phone # because I guarentee I can keep her couse I will do things for her you couldn't possibly imagine!!!

The other guys in the shop would be rolling on the floor and got the biggest kick out of it.

So my advise about oral sex is if you don't have a partner man or woman who gives back to you as much as you give them don't settle Tell them there is always somebody that will.

AA

 

[StraitJaket]

I think that there should be laws to help those like wildrose and cyn, if oral sex is the only way that you can achieve orgasm, then you SHOULD receive it. If a man goes without orgasm, he will get off one way or another.

But at the same time, I just feel that I would like equal sharing of the workload in our relationship. As I said, it's been several years since my wife has even used oral sex as a part of foreplay, I don't need to come from it, just get worked up I love going down on her and I will give her two or three orgasms if she is up for it, but then after all that she usually just expects me to penetrate.

I've asked her about it and she says that she enjoys giving head. I think she's lying, otherwise she would do it. But what more can I ask her after that?

 

[InLove]

Oh, certainly not a chore or job for me. But I have been doing it for awhile ~ my husband was a very lucky man.

But to be honest, when I was younger, I would say it was a chore. I was only tring to please the man I was with and bring him to orgasm as soon as possible. Now I take my dear sweet time kissing up his legs starting at his feet. The more I turn him on the more I get turned on. I would even say that giivng good head is an art an I am an artist.

Now, without me being to bold. How busy and stressed out is your wife? And have you keep some romance in your marriage? Maybe (of course I do not now either of you) she might be to tired and just wanting to get the "job" over with?

Maybe, you should stop thinking of it as a give and take, and go down on her some night, wake her up in the middle of a dream. And as you get your beautiful lady sqruirming and moaning, possition your body so your cock is closer to her face. You might be pleasantly surprised when you get some 69 action going.

I hope I have helped

 

[wildrose69]

SO STRAIT-JAKET...WHERE DO WE GO TO PASS THAT LAW?? IN MY CASE I DONT HAVE TO SETTLE FOR THIS GUY...EITHER HE SHAPES UP OR HE SHIPS OUT...I TOO AM WONDERING YOUR AGES...SOMETIMES LIFE GETS STRESSFUL AND SEX IS THE LAST THING ON HER MIND...I THINK IT GETS MUCH BETTER WITH AGE..YOU CAN JUST RELAX AND REALLY ENJOY IT....NOW I DO ENJOY GOING DOWN ON A MAN...BUT I STILL PREFER THE FINAL MOMENTS TO BE TOGETHER ....HIM INSIDE OF ME....MMMMMMMM!!!

 

[StraitJaket]

I agree, it is much more satisfying to finish off inside. I just think a little foreplay would be nice.

We are both 30s, she's a few years older than I, and I understand about the stresses of life. I doubt that I could handle staying home with our kids all day.

I am more than willing to allow for that, or even if she just flat out finds the act disgusting (although she'd never admit that). But that's the main reason for the post.

My relationship with my wife is very solid, and I've been trying to find out for quite a while if her lack of interest is normal. Of course, if one reads the articles by the experts, they almost always suggest discussing it with your partner. That doesn't get me anywhere. I do get tired of initiating sex and doing most of the work.

I do appreciate all the opinions and suggestions so far.

 

[wildrose69]

Well in my case it was me that iniated sex...and finally I gave up and spent the last 16 yrs as brother and sister...and finally decided that wasnt the way I wanted to live the rest of my life...and it's not easy to discuss things like that...for me it took 16 yrs to finally ask why....I got my answer...no interest...and I got out and I dont regret it for a minute>>>

 

[StraitJaket]

wildrose, I think that's a good decision and a tough one to make. I think that it took a lot of strength.

Better since?

 

[Guest]

A radio personality once said that there's a reason they call it a job, and that's because women treat it as a chore, or something they have to do to get a man. Once women have a man, they will quite doing this chore.

I'm curious, do women perceive this task as a chore or job. Not something they really want to do?

I really enjoy performing on my wife and I always give her an orgasm during sex. But, it's been several years since she has "returned the favor."

I understand that everybody has different tastes. Just curious if oral sex is something that people prefer not to do at all.

Just an informal poll.

I personally get a real kick out of performing oral sex on my guy, he is happy to return the favor - although not as often as I would like - its a turn on for me even after us being together for 8 years.

I did ask a couple of my girlfriends today though for you, and I was shocked by their reactions! (gagging, and saying "oh no, how could you? It makes me want to vomit!) One of my friends did admit that she used to enjoy it before she was married but has turned off it since he refuses to do so in kind for her, and the other friend said that her husband doesn't bathe well enough for her (don't blame her for gagging now..).

I think that if your man is clean and you love him then it should be an honour that he trusts such a vunerable part of his anatomy in your mouth. Of course it is expected that the man also thinks the same way. Its all about loving and respect for each other.

 

[ChaoticLil]

i love going down on a man, and no, i usually do not consider it a chore. Note that i said usually. What i really dislike is when the foreplay is onesided; the man gets all the foreplay and nothing for the woman. Lately i've felt more like a convienent hole for my husband.......he checks to see if i'm wet enough for penetration and that's the end of the foreplay. He gets his rocks off and i'm left hanging. If i'm sucking him off, then that's just great for him, but what do i get out of it?

Don't say talk to him; i've been doing that for years.

Anyway.....back to blowjobs. i love them, can even get off doing them. But it would be nice to get something in return every once and a while.

 

[SilverVeil]

Man I love sucking my guy off. Those whimpers and moans of his just wind me up so tight. In no way do I think of this as a " chore or a job " As a matter of fact, when I talk about it with him, I refer to it as Tongue Pleasure.

On the other hand..... I am the one with the hang up of him going down on me.
Unless I am fresh out of the shower, it is a Do Not Enter area. To be blunt, I am fat. You can call it full figured ( which I usually do ) or Big Boned, or Queen sized... but for this instance of example ... fat will do fine.

Ordinarily I have no hang ups about my size. But I know that a pussy is a open hole into my body. Due to the force of gravity .... and fluid inside there will drip out when I get really hot. And as I am a very sexual creature, getting hot is quite often for me. So when my pussy is trapped inside undies and pants all day, and it is hot out and I am sweaty, there is a distinct odor sometimes. Not rank ... but an odor all the same.
So I refuse to let him down there with his tongue unless I have taken a shower before hand.

 

[XXXbabeXXX]

I do not think of oral sex as a chore. But in some ways as a little something special for him. Because he pleasures me I will return the favor. But at the same time I enjoy it probably just as much as him!

 

[SallyIsHere]

I love it

I don't think of oral sex as an exchange of favors or a gift. I absolutely love sucking cock and it gets me really excited to feel it grow and swell and squirt. And the reactions from the guy just add to the fun. I hope my partner loves eating me too. I would hate to think he is just doing his job.


Sally

 

[Dynamite]

Not a chore, a gift.

It's not a chore to me. It's actually the only sex act that I can truly please a partner. I'm not very limber.

Had a boyfriend once that said he could never cum w/ just a blow job. I got him so hot and bothered once and he blew. He laid there and smiled ear to ear like he was in some euphoric state. I picked up his arm and let go. Dropped right down to the bed like it was a lead weight. He couldn't stop smiling for about a half hour. Just laid there w/ a goofy-assed smile..

I don't like the taste of it though. I swallow anyway. If he's happy, I'm happy. It's a give and take thing.

 

[SweetBrat73]

my 2 cents

I love giving my guy a bj...when I want to give it...he's always asking though and that's a big turn off to me and makes it feel like a job to me...I just want to get into the mood and start kissing and licking and work my way down and just start giving him head Don't have any ideas on what would motivate your gf into giving you a bj though...ask her why she doesn't do it if she likes it...I just know I don't like being bugged for one

 

[bi_now2001]

I love it!

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I love giving head too! and i like cunnilingus.....there's just something inherently pleasureable about pleasing the person you are with that makes it so exciting...........

 

[Ventoso]

Sex without oral bothways is not complete sex! There is a lot of different moments and actions between bj and cunnilingus. I generally prefer to bring my lady to a first orgasm by licking and sucking her, ... then things go much better and the lady is much more excited and ... thankful!

It is also nice to finish with a long licking after I unloaded into her pussy!

 

[just_so_mmmmm]

I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE giving blow jobs.

first of all, i've been told that i give excellent blow jobs. so that really raises my self confidence. now my mission in my sex life is to give the best blow job a guy has ever had. i'm always looking for new techniques and asking guys what they like best.

giving a blow job is such an easy way to give a man maximum pleasure. i get wet hearing a man moan when i'm down on my knees (not a lot of guys seem to be very vocal, so it's a treat when they actually make noise!). i guess it's the feeling of power over his orgasm that gets me off (what can i say? i'm a control freak).

i also love the way it feels when a man shoots him cum into my mouth and against my tongue. one with a lot of force behind it gives me the sense that he is a strong, virile kind of guy.

and lastly, for now anyway, it's the best position from which to receive a facial

and as for this "i'll blow you only if you blow me" business. i give blow jobs because i like doing it. if he doesnt like going down on me, then he doesnt have to. i wouldnt be able to enjoy getting licked if i knew he was thinking, "dear god, when will this end?"