Oral Sex Phobia

[PredatorSmile]

Hi, there. Do any of you have a partner who has a fear of oral sex ? He or she simply will not go down on you and/or let you go down on them ? How do you help them get over it ?

 

[Tymeless]

sex therapist or talk to them about it and find out what the root problem is and then go from there!

 

[wantsalick]

she just says no

the therapist idea would work except if you are married to one then i am not sure what else to do. I am married and my wife won't let me go down on her or go down on me.

 

[lilwetone]

make it fun.....be creative...

make up a story about the wonderful world of oral....(or something like that),

you could make up a game....


I think if you would talk to her about it, it would scare her even more.....Once you make it fun and creative, things should pan out smoothly....


Good Luck....

 

[PredatorSmile]

make it fun.....be creative...

make up a story about the wonderful world of oral....(or something like that),

you could make up a game....


I think if you would talk to her about it, it would scare her even more.....Once you make it fun and creative, things should pan out smoothly....


Good Luck....

Thanks. I am very flexible when it comes to sexuality but....my boyfriend only likes to receive oral sex, he's not a giver. He won't do it for a man or woman. I'm usually very eager to please anyone I'm with. It frustrates me.

Can his mind be changed ?

 

[Tymeless]

just don't give him head for awhile then when he ask why he isn't getting any u tell him its because your not getting any!

 

[limplizzard]

I don't know why

I dated a couple of women that would screw me at any time or any where but would not let me go down on them; they kept telling that their vagina was dirty I kept telling them that I didn't care. By the way I love the taste of pussy before, durring and after intercoarse.
My first wife gave me a blowjob one time in 12 years; she had no trouble with me eating her for hours but refused to do me. I guess that the reason she was my first wife and not my last.

 

[limplizzard]

oh! my

Thanks. I am very flexible when it comes to sexuality but....my boyfriend only likes to receive oral sex, he's not a giver. He won't do it for a man or woman. I'm usually very eager to please anyone I'm with. It frustrates me.

Can his mind be changed ?

My first wife was the same, loved for me to eat her but would never do me.

 

[PredatorSmile]

My first wife was the same, loved for me to eat her but would never do me.

Why can't we ever find people we're sexually compatible with ? I love going down on my bf when he comes home from work/school, ect. Some women think its degrading. Not me. nothing wrong with making love with someone you love. not in my book.

 

[toolpro]

Well Im a lucky one. Been married to a sweet lady for 35 years. We both love oral sex, about all sex as a matter of fact. Oral may now be our favorite. Only one very very small problem, she wont swallow. I got her to kiss me with a mouth full of cum after I get off, and we share (I'm kinda kinky as she is as well). Im not complaining though Im still very much in love. We both shave now she has for a long time, I have just started and she likes it better that way. Im a very happy man.

 

[rjp44]

oral report

During my 2 marriages and any long term relationships there was always mutual oral. Perhaps because if there was not an enjoyment of oral, no long term relationship developed. Sexual incompatiblity doesn't suck, it bites.

 

[robbie_boy1]

Why can't we ever find people we're sexually compatible with ? I love going down on my bf when he comes home from work/school, ect. Some women think its degrading. Not me. nothing wrong with making love with someone you love. not in my book.

We can find people that are into the same things we are. We can also have a new freedom and a new happiness. You are so pretty....this could be rude but as long as you have a face you always have a place to sit...even if it is filled with the b/f's cum...*wink*

 

[robbie_boy1]

We can find people that are into the same things we are. We can also have a new freedom and a new happiness. You are so pretty....this could be rude but as long as you have a face you always have a place to sit...even if it is filled with the b/f's cum...*wink*

as long as I have a face......I have a face.........damn...had my glasses off

 

[bimori]

Why can't we ever find people we're sexually compatible with ? I love going down on my bf when he comes home from work/school, ect. Some women think its degrading. Not me. nothing wrong with making love with someone you love. not in my book.

I think anything that you can do to please your partner you do . I think its all about pleaseing and how you please . I say if she wants tongue you give her tongue . Then hopefully your partner will want to please you also .

 

[Jaxbi]

It could be that they are embarassed that they don't know what they are doing, and too ashamed to say anything. I know I was, but the relationship between me and my girlfriend was one where she never forced the issue, and when I did decide to give it a go, had experienced it for myself, and said "Don't know what I'm doing - you'll have to give me some hints".

And, you know even though I was worried about it to start with, its something I love giving to her now.....and from what i can tell - she enjoys it that way too!

However, the other way around could be that they do not enjoy oral - as odd as it may sound to those of us who enjoy it - some people don't. I have to be in the right frame of mind to enjoy it, otherwise it's not the most comfy experience on the planet.

Dunno, my first post...hopefully that helps.
Jax

 

[Ozfamilyman]

What I have heard

'' eeew no way you pee out of it''

''it tastes sweaty''

'' it tickles''

 

[sexieyoungone]

just don't give him head for awhile then when he ask why he isn't getting any u tell him its because your not getting any!

i totally agree!!! I did this with my fiance and it worked! now everything is better we both give and recieve!

 

[TheGhost505]

Ask him why he wont do it and find a way to solve his problem if you can.

 

[fukensploogin]

my gf rarely goes down on me; when she does, it's while we're in the shower (we almost always shower together... pretty much every day). i've always been rather enthusiastic about going down on her, but on top of rarely going down on me, she very rarely lets me go down on her. she says the only time she's comfortable enough with herself down there is right after a shower... which is the time we're always rushing to get ready to go because we take too much time in the shower... argh. i know how you feel, it's really frustrating. sometimes she says it's too uncomfortable to go down on me because she has a small mouth. i don't know. all i know is when we started sleeping together, way back when, she told me that she loved giving head. and now she doesn't. maybe my spunk tastes funny?

 

[Harrowborg]

In my earlier years I thought life would be like a porno movie where I would come in and my gf would give me oral from the get go. In reality lol, of the 5 gals I've seen, only 1 has been comfortable giving oral. Which is a shame, the best bit about sex, for me anyway, is when you travel south, 'deep down under' to quote armageddon.

 

[robbie_boy1]

Hold on to yourself

PS,

I can only speak for myself. That's all I know. I was an athlete, macho yada yada yada and then I (damn, I just keyed in a hundred words and my fingers hit a wrong key and poof...they are gone) where was I..oh...when I was younger...until the time I was early 20's I was a taker. I am not sure if it was learned behavior or what...that is the way things were for me.

It was a woman that reached me and taught me that loving was a much better feeling than being loved... I was young and lost her...not her friendship and we are life long friends and soul mates. She rocked my world in the bedroom and out of it. She brought me to places that I couldn't even phathom and I will never forget her....If I only knew then what I know now...lol...which is not a lot.

Relationships are the most difficult and awe inspiring parts of our lives... they come in like a whirlwind and at times end the same way with...a long lull in the middle.

My relationship today is wonderful. It started like a whirlwind and continues to be one 8 years later. My wife knows all about me. She and I have played together with men and women alike. She fed me the first cock I sucked....lol.

I guess what I want to say is that it is not you or anything you have done. I have learned that there are times that I need to listen and don't give advise and other times I do... when she asks me. I used to think she was always seeking advice and the whole time she just wanted me to listen. A difficult trait in a man...still is for me....*bites my tongue*

So..Sweet One....I would love to give you some words of wit. Words so profound that they would jump up on your shoulder sit by your ear and comfort you thru the years...but I can't so I will just remain silent and really listen to your feelings and perhaps give you a hug or blow you a kiss if needed.....

My dad says, if you're going thru hell...don't stop!

Best of luck to you and yours...your answers will come to you at times when you are quiet and in tune with yourself. You can't control him nor he you. I hope you keep a little part of yourself so you don't become lost in it.

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Hi, there. Do any of you have a partner who has a fear of oral sex ? He or she simply will not go down on you and/or let you go down on them ? How do you help them get over it ?

 

[shy slave]

Predetor, I don't like recieving oral.
I would not call it a phobia but its something I struggle with and if I can't 'disappear' into my head whilst its being done it will make me cry.

This is very different to your b/f who won't give you the level of pleasure you give him.

Finding out all the complex reasons as to why he does not want to do that is only part of the picture.

Even once you know its hard to understand it, if you view it differently.

You asked if you thought you could change his mind.
Personally I think you could be setting yourself up for failure if you try.
In trying it becomes a big issue and a mountain to climb which detracts from the rest of your relationship with him.

I have no solutions or suggestions as to how to persuade him, I wish I did.

As difficult and frustrating as it is, it may be something you have to live without when you are with him.

 

[chris5vx]

I once dated a girl that didn't like going down on me. I think I enjoy receiving oral as much as I do having sex, maybe more. I waited some time hoping her mind would change and not wanting to bug her about it. In the meantime she would let me go down on her all the time, which I loved. Over time I got a little resentful that she never returned the favor though. It wound up being one of the many reasons we stopped seeing each other. Perhaps he'll change his mind, perhaps you two are just incompatible in that way. All you can do is talk, wait, and hope.

 

[rjp44]

Damn, PS, he doesn't like to give oral, he doesn't like even fingers in his butt.... I think you need to feed the boy a quart of tequila and loosen up his inhabitions a tad.

 

[CDDanielleNNJ]

I was married for 20 years(been separated almost a year now) and toward the end(after several years of crossdressing and having several sexual relationships with men) I discovered that I preferred sucking cock to licking pussy.

Now you could say there were a number of reasons for this...we'd been together so long and she had her "friends" and I had mine...or maybe she just didn't turn me on anymore and I preferred dressing in girl clothes and spending my intimate time with men as their girl...

I'm not going to say I have a phobia of pussy, but I will say I prefer a nice hard cock to enjoy.

Kisses,
Danielle