Oral Sex Help

[Guest]

Trying to improve my oral skills at pleasing the girlfriend! She says she does not enjoy receiving oral sex. I enjoy eating her out but could use some suggestions on how to provide more pleasure for her orally! She has never had an orgasm with oral sex! She says it doesn't do anything for her and sometimes it hurts! Is this normal or am I doing something wrong?? Help!

 

[Guest]

less is more.. Men often times make the mistake of assuming what they want is what the woman would want in terms of pressure, force touching etc. Tease her by nibbling her thighs and outter pussy rub her mid mons pubis if you can do it just right it will stimulate her clit while at the same time you can move on to licking her inner pussy while ever so gently sucking on her clit if she is not too sensitive, if she is move your tongue to her hole and rub her clit with your nose. If she still complains of this hurting then have her see a doctor because something is wrong.

 

[Whispersecret]

Here are my suggestions. Note all of this is what I like personally. This may not hold true for all women.

TIP #1: I like to be seriously teased first. Don't zero in on the clit right away like it's the bull's eye in a game of darts. Lick softly anywhere and everywhere but. A couple of feather light touches here and there are okay, but don't go for the gusto right away.

TIP #2: Start softly and slowly. And I mean really soft. For me, I might be nicely coasting toward a great orgasm, and then, whoops, my man goes at it too hard, and immediately we're back to Square One. Picture the road to Orgasm as a hill. If a guy goes at me too hard halfway there, I roll all the way back down to the bottom.

TIP #3: I don't like a pointy tongue on my clit. Ouch. Keep it flat.

TIP #4: Pay attention to her response. You should be able to tell (by her moans, her hips shifting, her hands gripping your head) if she likes the specific thing you're doing at the time. If she likes it, KEEP DOING IT. Momentum is important. (Remember the hill? Don't let her stall.)

TIP #5: Try not to sigh while you're eating her. Sometimes it takes me a long time to come, and I worry that my guy is getting tired of it and is wishing he never started in the first place. I worry that he feels OBLIGATED to make me come if he ventures downward. So, a sigh would indicate impatience, and foster that sense of guilt that I haven't come yet and it's been <looks at her watch> fifteentwenty/whatever minutes already! Worry isn't helpful when you're trying to come.

TIP #6: I don't know about other girls, but for a long time I was really worried about my smell and taste and that it was unpleasant. Your girl may have the same concerns I used to have. Maybe you want to tell her how much you like the way she smells and tastes.

That's all I can think of right now. I hope this was helpful.

 

[Hecate]

I totally have to agree to whispersecret. I for a long time couldn't enjoy oral stimulation because I just could not believe the guys LIKED to do it .. I always had a feeling they were just doung it because they thought a girl would just want them to do it and were getting annoyed if I did not "appreciate" this attention by coming fast and putting on a good show at it.

Only when with a lover who was REALLY into giving oral sex I found out that men really like doing it, I started to relax. He told me repeatedly that he liked my smell and taste (one of my main concerns before) and that he wasn't doing it for me in the first place but because HE liked doing it.

Another thing that always "turns me off" so to speak is the too direct "assault" to my clit. I am very sensitive and direct stimulation I do feel to be painful. So a good tease arond and about is more appreciated by me.

Of course I only can speak for myself, but it may help you address the "fears" of your girl.

[This message has been edited by Hecate (edited 03-18-2000).]

 

[Whispersecret]

Young Stud...did our advice work out for you? Is your woman a satisfied gal yet? Just wondering...

 

[Firesprite]

I LOVE RECIEVING ORAL SEX.. and as a result, I have learned to give great blowjobs (well thats what they say!)
have you ever seen your girl masturbate? it could give you tips on how she likes it!.. the sides of the clitoris is more comfortable than straight on I find..

 

[Guest]

Tip 4 is a good trick if you can do it. ;o I usually find that by the time she reacts I've moved on and when I carry on doing what I thought she liked, she doesn't.

I tried asking but she doesn't know just what it is that she particularly likes from time to time.

Excuse the over use of smilies but it's my first time and you know what a pig one makes of one's self the first time.

Originally posted by whispersecret:
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TIP #4: Pay attention to her response. You should be able to tell (by her moans, her hips shifting, her hands gripping your head) if she likes the specific thing you're doing at the time. If she likes it, KEEP DOING IT. Momentum is important. (Remember the hill? Don't let her stall.)

 

[Stump]

Young,

I have to agree with whisper. Follow the tips she has given and your lady will be begging for more.

 

[Whispersecret]

TIP #7: Personally, I'm not really much into the stiff-tongue-in-the-vagina thing. Cocks do that type of thing much better than a tongue.

TIP #8: Give me room to move around. I don't know about other women, but sometimes I need to shift my hips this way or that to keep your tongue where I want it or move away from a too-intense assault. If you hold me down in a static position, you're likely to "push me back down that hill." Sometimes on the road to orgasm I need to back off a little, and sometimes I need to get a little more of that particular good thing you were doing, without realizing it.

 

[Dickfer]

Ok...

Don't dive right in. Work your way into it slowly... Do not concentrate just on one area. Work her all over. If she's moving around like she's having a fit and it's not because she's trying to get away it's a good thing. Make she she's clean and smells good because if it's enjoyable for you then you will do more for her. Don't make it a chore... Use one or two fingers in her for more feelings. Just experiment and if she still isn't feeling good she either has hang ups or she might have a physical limitation I suppose.
I've been with a girl who was afraid or not willing to feel pleasure. She had been with so many creeps that used her like a blow up doll she was just conditioned that way.

 

[Golden]

hey Whisper - you'd make a great teacher on a correspondence course ... do you do practicals as well?

 

[Whispersecret]

<waves toward the distant Atlantic Ocean>
Hiya, Golden.
Well, let's just say:

Final exams are oral not written.
There is NO TIME LIMIT.
Extra credit for making the teacher come more than once.

OH! Just thought of some more tips!

TIP #9 - Be careful of that five o'clock shadow. If you really want to be good to her, shave. The sandpaper abrasion of your stubble can be painfully rough.

TIP #10 - Between the clitoris and the vagina is the urethra, that little opening where the urine comes out. You might want to veer away from that little place. If it's abraded or rubbed too much the girl can develop a nasty bladder infection. (Same thing can happen when she wears jeans that are too tight.) An orgasm from a man's tongue can be magically intense, but not worth painful urination, a trip to the gynecologist, chugging cranberry juice, and prescription drugs.

TIP #11 - For those of you too young to remember the Herpes "epidemic" of the eighties, don't go down on her (or vice versa) if you have cold sores or canker sores.

TIP #12 - After I come from a tongue on me, I'm usually ULTRA sensitve to any penetration of my pussy. Anything inside me makes me feel like I'm having one long intense orgasm. Tongue is good, but fingers or a cock is even better. Don't dawdle around too long after that oral orgasm if you want to take advantage of that window of opportunity. The period of ultra-sensitivity doesn't last that long.

Again, this is all from my own personal experience. Other women may feel differently.

 

[Buddys]

All this is good advice. I always remember that it is most important to please the Lady FIRST. Then my pleasure is the greatest. And one other thing guys: A mans mouth is a good place for whatever causes yeast infections in your lady's pussy. So, I always use a good mouth wash BEFORE eating her. Do it for HER. A yeast infection can be very uncomfortable for her, and you should always think of HER FIRST.

[This message has been edited by Buddys (edited 04-19-2000).]

 

[Savage Kitten]

WOOOOOOHOOOOOO *fanning face* i agree with EVERYTHING whisper said.. such very good advice!! the mouthwash suggestion reminded me of something I've heard but never tried .. and it may be for more expierenced people but.. i heard that breath mints (mainly altoids) and/ or cough drops (like Halls) greatly increases oral pleasure.. for both men and women.. also was told by this guy that he sucked on a fire ball for awhile b4 going down on his girl.. and it turned out VERY badly!! *chuckles* b4 careful out there K?

 

[Guest]

My boyfriend tried the Altoids thing on me... it was all right, but if you slip up and touch the urethra it burns like heck. I'd suggest keeping a cup of hot tea and a glass of ice water handy... every so often, slow things down a bit, keep pleasuring her with your fingers, and take a sip of one before going back to work. The hot/cold sensations are great!

Also, a finger or two inside me feels wonderful while I'm getting head, especially if you can find her G-spot. And don't be scared to try new positions... let her lie on her back and feel pampered, let her squat over your face so she can watch the action, and try 69ing so she can show her appreciation for all the new tricks you've learned!