I find it impossible to have an orgasm from oral stimulation alone...even when my girlfriend also uses her hand, I can't cum. In many ways this isn't a problem, as it means we always end up having sex, but she has said it would be a major turn-on to make me cum with her mouth, and I'm pretty sure it would be for me too. The sensation from a blow job is amazing - although as I'm circumcised, the head of my cock isn't all that sensitive - so I don't think it's anything to do with what she's doing...is it a mental thing?? Does anyone, male or female, know any good techniques/exercises that might help with this?
Oral orgasms
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Bobmi357
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In my book, an oral orgasm is one of the greatest experiences you can have. But its definitely different than say an orgasm you get from penetrative sex.
Oral orgasms, for me at least, are teased out of me, slowly. There isn't the same level of pressure or build up of friction as there is in regular sex. And no matter how hard your girlfriend tries, her lips can't put the same amount of pressure on you that she can when you're having regular sex.
This is one of those times when it pays for you two to talk to each other, she needs to find those "special spots" on you and work on them. There are nerve clusters on the penis that she might not be aware of, like the underside of the head (where the little V shape is).
Some women like to use their hands as well, perhaps this will work for you also. I don't really care much for hand action when getting head, but each to their own.
A couple of things you could try. First off if she wants to get you off via oral alone, then try not masturbating or having sex for a few days, this will "shorten" your fuse and make you more sensitive to the stimulation when it happens.
If that doesn't work, you could try having sex until you're close to orgasm, then letting her finish you off orally.
Also from your post it isn't obvious just how you're doing it, have you tried watching her as she does it? The visual effects of watching your woman as she goes down on you are extremely erotic.
Hope some of this helps.
Oral orgasms, for me at least, are teased out of me, slowly. There isn't the same level of pressure or build up of friction as there is in regular sex. And no matter how hard your girlfriend tries, her lips can't put the same amount of pressure on you that she can when you're having regular sex.
This is one of those times when it pays for you two to talk to each other, she needs to find those "special spots" on you and work on them. There are nerve clusters on the penis that she might not be aware of, like the underside of the head (where the little V shape is).
Some women like to use their hands as well, perhaps this will work for you also. I don't really care much for hand action when getting head, but each to their own.
A couple of things you could try. First off if she wants to get you off via oral alone, then try not masturbating or having sex for a few days, this will "shorten" your fuse and make you more sensitive to the stimulation when it happens.
If that doesn't work, you could try having sex until you're close to orgasm, then letting her finish you off orally.
Also from your post it isn't obvious just how you're doing it, have you tried watching her as she does it? The visual effects of watching your woman as she goes down on you are extremely erotic.
Hope some of this helps.
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UMMM NO Orgasm with oral
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First of all let me say Bummer... is this the first girl to go down on you? has she done it before with someone else? and been able to get them off?
oral is a definite turn on,
answer the above ?'s and I have one more, how do you feel when she is going down on you? what is your state of mind as she performs, and what are you doing during the time
answer those and i'll get back to you!
the very naughty side of me says, maybe I need to give her a check to see if its her, and give her a lesson or two if its her.
so sorry if the naughty side offends you!
the nice side really wants to help. so let me know
and how old are the both of you, you can pm if you want
good luck
Phil N Lusty
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First of all let me say Bummer... is this the first girl to go down on you? has she done it before with someone else? and been able to get them off?
oral is a definite turn on,
answer the above ?'s and I have one more, how do you feel when she is going down on you? what is your state of mind as she performs, and what are you doing during the time
answer those and i'll get back to you!
the very naughty side of me says, maybe I need to give her a check to see if its her, and give her a lesson or two if its her.
so sorry if the naughty side offends you!
the nice side really wants to help. so let me knowand how old are the both of you, you can pm if you want
good luck
Phil N Lusty
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I also have this problem, I'm very rarely able to reach orgasm through oral sex but that doesn't mean I don't love the experiencet. It feels good and it is actually something that my wife enjoys doing, she initiates it in fact.
In fact I find it more fun to enjoy oral sex and then procede to more activities that might not be possible if I had ejaculated during oral sex.
I wouldn't sweat not being able to, its good that you are having fun and as long as it isn't causing problems there are many other things you can do.
You might consider mutual masturbation, it is very good :-D
In fact I find it more fun to enjoy oral sex and then procede to more activities that might not be possible if I had ejaculated during oral sex.
I wouldn't sweat not being able to, its good that you are having fun and as long as it isn't causing problems there are many other things you can do.
You might consider mutual masturbation, it is very good :-D
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I think that for some guys, it takes a while to get used to the sensations produced by a mouth. After all, if all you're used to initially is your hand, it can be hard to adjust especially since that instant feedback isn't there.
Most of my advice has already been said - try some denial for a few days before hand, or get her to tease you with her hands or pussy first and get you close before she uses her mouth for the big finale. It may take some time to get to the point where she can bring you from start to finish with her mouth, but don't worry about it too much, as they're other ways for you and her to enjoy yourselves
Most of my advice has already been said - try some denial for a few days before hand, or get her to tease you with her hands or pussy first and get you close before she uses her mouth for the big finale. It may take some time to get to the point where she can bring you from start to finish with her mouth, but don't worry about it too much, as they're other ways for you and her to enjoy yourselves
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The first woman who ever gave me oral never was able to make me come... at first it was because she didn't enjoy it... then as our relationship deepened she desired more and more to give me pleasure that way. (DAMN that was a turn-on to hear she wanted to do that to me and not her husband.. oops wrong story )
But the problem was she wasn't being GENTLE enough. She kept getting her teeth involved... ouch!!!!
)But the problem was she wasn't being GENTLE enough. She kept getting her teeth involved... ouch!!!!
I don't know how you feel about your ass being fingered (some men love it while others say "exit only") but when I do that while going down on my SO he goes nuts and can cum almost 99% of the time. Sometimes he does it himself while I suck and deep throat him and he will also cum. That makes it exciting for me as well because he's touching himself!
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The first few times I tried to give a blow job to conclusion with my partner it didn't work. He told me that he "rarely" ever came from just a blow job and that it was cool. Well, the challenge was on!
I tried a lot of different things, and he liked all of it, but still no orgasm. So, one day I got on my knees and asked him to jack off for me while I watched him. Granted, most women cannot move their mouths as quickly as a man can move his hand back and forth, but it showed me what areas he was sensitive to, where he applied pressure, and the places that he avoided.
It wasn't overnight, granted, but now I am able to get him off with just my mouth/lips/tongue well within 20 - 30 minutes. (I have a ways to go to acheive my goal of 15 mins or less!)
Watching him pleasure himself really helped me a lot. Just as with women, not every man is alike. Some like their balls pulled, others don't. Some like a light touch of teeth, others don't. Some apply a lot of pressure to the head, others prefer more pressure on the shaft. Sometimes it's difficult to tell some one these little things. (well, unless her teeth are buried in your dick - then I think very few guys would have difficulty communicating!) But watching can provide a wealth of information, IMO.
Making a man cum with just oral - no hands or pussy - is not the easy thing that most pornos make it out to be. And a lot of women can't give head for longer than 10 - 15 minutes. It helps to remember that you are not alone. And be certain your g/f understands that it is not her or her technique. (well, unless it is her technique, then you need to talk) Believe me, some women can take this as a little personal without reassurance!
Good luck!
I tried a lot of different things, and he liked all of it, but still no orgasm. So, one day I got on my knees and asked him to jack off for me while I watched him. Granted, most women cannot move their mouths as quickly as a man can move his hand back and forth, but it showed me what areas he was sensitive to, where he applied pressure, and the places that he avoided.
It wasn't overnight, granted, but now I am able to get him off with just my mouth/lips/tongue well within 20 - 30 minutes. (I have a ways to go to acheive my goal of 15 mins or less!)
Watching him pleasure himself really helped me a lot. Just as with women, not every man is alike. Some like their balls pulled, others don't. Some like a light touch of teeth, others don't. Some apply a lot of pressure to the head, others prefer more pressure on the shaft. Sometimes it's difficult to tell some one these little things. (well, unless her teeth are buried in your dick - then I think very few guys would have difficulty communicating!) But watching can provide a wealth of information, IMO.
Making a man cum with just oral - no hands or pussy - is not the easy thing that most pornos make it out to be. And a lot of women can't give head for longer than 10 - 15 minutes. It helps to remember that you are not alone. And be certain your g/f understands that it is not her or her technique. (well, unless it is her technique, then you need to talk) Believe me, some women can take this as a little personal without reassurance!
Good luck!
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luvrgurl said:I don't know how you feel about your ass being fingered (some men love it while others say "exit only") but when I do that while going down on my SO he goes nuts and can cum almost 99% of the time. Sometimes he does it himself while I suck and deep throat him and he will also cum. That makes it exciting for me as well because he's touching himself!
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This one really works for me too... Try it !!!!
I've also never been a prolific ejaculator from oral sex, but I sure love getting it! Fortunately, my gf loves giving, so we enjoy it for what it is. Some things that have helped me get closer are watching her (the more I can see of her lips wrapped around my cock the better, darn hair often gets in the way though) and eye contact (if she's looking in my eyes and I can see how much she loves it, I get way more aroused).
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Understand
I am with a guy now who says he has only cum in a woman's mouth twice (once mine). He says he just has a block there. I had him finish by stroking himself and I was licking and sucking the tip. When he started to cum I took the whole thing deep.
Am hoping little by little to break through whatever is holding him back, to a point where he doesn't need to intervene himself.
I am with a guy now who says he has only cum in a woman's mouth twice (once mine). He says he just has a block there. I had him finish by stroking himself and I was licking and sucking the tip. When he started to cum I took the whole thing deep.
Am hoping little by little to break through whatever is holding him back, to a point where he doesn't need to intervene himself.
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