Oral fixation

[Magic_Dick]

My wife and I have been together for almost 7 years, and I've never cum in her mouth. She has no problem sucking my cock, and claims to love doing it, but she never does it for more than a couple of minutes. I've asked her point blank if I could shoot in her mouth, and she has been non-commital about it, not refusing, but not agreeing, either. Does anyone have any suggestions about how I can get my woman to give me a real BJ?

 

[sexualbeing]

maybe you should try telling how how much of a turn on it would be if she let you cum in her mouth, If she still refuses shoot it right in her eye. lol just kiding

 

[LadyJeanne]

She probably doesn't love giving oral if she'll only do it for a few minutes. You may need to figure out what her hesitations are about both giving blowjobs and coming in her mouth.

It's possible she thinks blowjobs are dirty, and coming in her mouth even dirtier. Maybe you could give her lots of encouragement when she is giving oral by telling her how hot she's making you, and how sexy she looks, etc., as well as telling her afterewards how beautiful she is and how she made you melt. Slowly, over time, she might feel better about the whole thing and let you come in her mouth.

But some women never get there - you may have to accept that.

 

[Magic_Dick]

She probably doesn't love giving oral if she'll only do it for a few minutes. You may need to figure out what her hesitations are about both giving blowjobs and coming in her mouth.

It's possible she thinks blowjobs are dirty, and coming in her mouth even dirtier. Maybe you could give her lots of encouragement when she is giving oral by telling her how hot she's making you, and how sexy she looks, etc., as well as telling her afterewards how beautiful she is and how she made you melt. Slowly, over time, she might feel better about the whole thing and let you come in her mouth.

But some women never get there - you may have to accept that.

Thanks for some great advice! Unfortunately, I've tried all of those things. I suspect that she has never tasted cum (other than pre-cum), and I know that she's been told by other women that it tastes gross. I've tasted my own cum before, and though it's not my preference, it's not that bad. As for letting things happen slowly over time: it's been 7 years, SEVEN!

 

[M's girl]

Well... then I guess it sounds like she does not really like it, doesn't it? I'm afraid that, if you really tried all the things LadyJeanne suggested, you will have to accept the fact that it's just not for her.

Although I love giving blowjobs and don't mind to swallow or have his cum all over my face I must add it's a completely different thing to taste some of your own cum than to have a mouth full all of a sudden....

 

[LadyJeanne]

Thanks for some great advice! Unfortunately, I've tried all of those things. I suspect that she has never tasted cum (other than pre-cum), and I know that she's been told by other women that it tastes gross. I've tasted my own cum before, and though it's not my preference, it's not that bad. As for letting things happen slowly over time: it's been 7 years, SEVEN!

Well, it's not the nectar of the gods or anything, but it's not gross either. If she's never tasted it before, she's probably built up exaggerated fears about it. And if she thinks that's something only porn girls do (if her friends are telling her it's gross, then they probably aren't into it either), then she might feel like it's a disrespectful thing to ask of her?

How is she about sex otherwise? Adventurous, willing to try new things, spend hours in bed together? Or is it lights out all the time, no lingering and savoring but just get it over with? Do you spend all kinds of time giving her oral and touching and foreplay, or is it a quick shot to the finish? How does she feel about you giving her oral?

If this is the only thing that's an issue for her, you are going to need to respect that. If she has other issues about sex, then you need to start communicating more about it, find out what her turn-ons are, try to explore her body more and expand her experiences (g-spot orgasms, vibes, showers together...). That might move her to see that intimacy is nothing to be embarrasssed about. Again, that's a much longer road, but will be more fulfilling.

When I first started having sex, I was reluctant to give blowjobs because I had formed bad impression of them from porn...it always seemed like a degrading act in porn because that's the way it was portrayed...the suck-it-bitch mentality. I also used to hear guys using 'suck my dick' as an insult, and that also made me feel like it must be a dirty, degrading act. It took me a while to realize it certainly doesn't have to be degrading at all, and that blowjobs are amazingly intimate and gives me pleasure - hey, I made him melt!!!

What I'm trying to say is, it took me years to fully feel comfortable giving blowjobs even though I really, really enjoying doing it (and spent wayyy more than a few minutes on the job!). She may need a lot of time getting over her fears. Deep intimacy with her will help, but it will take time. Be patient!

 

[Magic_Dick]

Thanks to everyone for the advice! I will keep trying, but I'm afraid that I may have to accept the fact that I'm never going to cum in a beautiful woman's mouth.

 

[MR.GGG]

... or your wife's.

 

[Magic_Dick]

... or your wife's.

Or yours. Ha ha

 

[Elenia26]

If you're doing a blowjob right, it shoots into the back of your mouth anyway. So the natural reaction is to swallow. You hardly taste it for a moment. It might make your throat a little sore, but you can drink something afterward. And I love the way it makes my SO react.
Not sure what to do about your wife...have you ever tried coming elsewhere, like on your/her belly, and then scooping up a little with your finger, and gently feeding her your finger? See how she reacts.

 

[e-monster]

I can't add much advice beyond what has already been offered here. If its any consolation, my experience has been that a disappointingly small number of women voluntarily swallow anyway. Even fewer seem to enjoy it. That's not a criticism, just an observation.

One way I get around that is to fantasize about her intention to swallow while I'm receiving oral. Then, at the very last moment, I switch aim toward her chest or crotch or a towel or whatever. Odd as it may sound, that technqiue proved suprisingly satisfactory for me.

 

[Bindu_2000]

Well, it's not the nectar of the gods or anything, but it's not gross either. If she's never tasted it before, she's probably built up exaggerated fears about it. And if she thinks that's something only porn girls do (if her friends are telling her it's gross, then they probably aren't into it either), then she might feel like it's a disrespectful thing to ask of her?

You are perfectly right. First you need to feel she is respected. I had sex with an extremly shy virgin and I never expected her to take mine into her mouth. Then what I did was kissing her pussy well (didnt lick the clit as it would have been too much for her as it was her first time) and she was thrilled to see how i "respected' her (pussy.) Guess what I got as a result??? First I could dig her out and during the second time I could put mine into her mouth. She sucked very well as she couldnt refuse as she felt loved and respected. After few minutes, I let all mine in her mouth and she didn't drop a bit!!!! Respect men, they need it. She would have never taken to oral during her first night with a guy if I wan't tactful.

 

[Bindu_2000]

Thanks to everyone for the advice! I will keep trying, but I'm afraid that I may have to accept the fact that I'm never going to cum in a beautiful woman's mouth.

Really!!!! You should see how beautiful a woman becomes when her lips are covered with bubbling cumm!!!!! Don't miss the chance. You will regret some day.

 

[Bindu_2000]

I can't add much advice beyond what has already been offered here. If its any consolation, my experience has been that a disappointingly small number of women voluntarily swallow anyway. Even fewer seem to enjoy it. That's not a criticism, just an observation.

One way I get around that is to fantasize about her intention to swallow while I'm receiving oral. Then, at the very last moment, I switch aim toward her chest or crotch or a towel or whatever. Odd as it may sound, that technqiue proved suprisingly satisfactory for me.

Well, 3 cute women have given BJs to me so far. All r buties from decent families. Ages 23, 22, **. All enjoyed it. Splashing on chest, crotch, face, thighs or even on dress too gives some excitement but they will love having it inside their tommies too if you make them begging for an oral in a systematic way.

 

[Bindu_2000]

If you're doing a blowjob right, it shoots into the back of your mouth anyway. So the natural reaction is to swallow. You hardly taste it for a moment. It might make your throat a little sore, but you can drink something afterward. And I love the way it makes my SO react.
Not sure what to do about your wife...have you ever tried coming elsewhere, like on your/her belly, and then scooping up a little with your finger, and gently feeding her your finger? See how she reacts.

Perfectly right. Shoot at the back of her throught. No complain and she won't feel anything. Take it out ASAP once u splash the first 2-3 shots.

 

[soakersue]

womans point of view

well one of my girl friends in college came home one evening and announced she and her current BF might be getting engaged. We gave our congrats, but she said she had a problem. He wanted a blow job, she said she gagges. So we got drunk, and practiced on babana's ( my suggestion ) the morale being, is there a close girl friend who might step in, and get her confidence?

 

[soakersue]

can't spell

no grading on spelling either.

 

[Hard_Rocker]

Does anyone have any suggestions about how I can get my woman to give me a real BJ?

Maybe you could work up to it with a condom a couple of times. That would at least be better for you, and maybe she would warm up to the idea... or maybe not, but it's worth a try.

Hey all, this is my first post. Been lurking for two days.

 

[spiderider]

Just be brutally honest about what you want. You said she has not really offered any precise information as to why she appears to be uncomfortable with it. Force the conversation gently, after sex, so she feels no immediate pressure.

Worst case is that you finally hear a firm no - which has gotta be better than waiting another seven years to hear the same thing.

 

[SirFace]

Have you tried grabbing her hair or head and helping her?

 

[M's girl]

Have you tried grabbing her hair or head and helping her?

That is so charming and cute....

 

[silverwhisper]

as w/ all things, if you wanna get her there, you need to try to seduce her to the idea. but as w/ all seductions, there needs to be some aspect or element within her that thinks the idea is good--without that, no matter what you do or try, you'll never get there.

try drawing her out about. don't be accusatory, just state that you understand that she isn't exactly the world's most enthusiastic cocksucker. and for the love of god don't compare/contrast to others you've been with.

not everyone enjoys it: hell, some folks were the victims of childhood abuse that will forever taint their perception of certain sexual acts.

ed

 

[MR.GGG]

Well, 3 cute women have given BJs to me so far. All r buties from decent families. Ages 23, 22, **. All enjoyed it. Splashing on chest, crotch, face, thighs or even on dress too gives some excitement but they will love having it inside their tommies too if you make them begging for an oral in a systematic way.

WTF ????

 

[M's girl]

WTF ????

I know...!

 

[rekha_john2000]

WTF ????

WTF???? What does this mean????????