Oral "back there"

[itssupa]

Hi all, first post here so a bit nervous,

I'm a 22yo male from Australia, have been wih my gf for about 4yrs and we r very open with sex and communicate quite well.
She is an excellent lover and is especially good at oral, recently she has been exploring and doing such things as fingering me, rubbing just underneath my scrotum and more recently licking and kissing around under my balls.
One time she actually licked my hole briefly, i assume by accident because since then i cant convince her to do it again for me, it was the most incredible feeling i think i have ever felt. she will go very close but wont actually lick it because she says its dirty which i suppose is fair enough although i do keep the area very clean.
My question is, is it dirty? and if i clean inside and out while showering is this enough to make it safe for her togo down there?
Please understand this is a genuine post, sorry if i have been vulgar about the way i have written it or if i havent explained myself very well.

I appreciate any help in advance

Supa

 

[bisexplicit]

A good cleansing should probably take care of most of the bacteria, and if it is a real concern, you could also use an enema.

However, the fact is, some people just aren't comfortable with giving oral "back there." You can't and shouldn't pressure your girlfriend into anything she is uncomfortable with.

You may, however, be able to reach a mutual agreement - perhaps she could use an anal toy on you; she wouldn't have to do something she thinks is "dirty" and you would still recieve stimulation.

 

[twintooth]

Great responce BI
I also think that you can't force her and maybe she'll never be up to it.
You could do it to her maybe that would help.

But using an anal toy is really great you should try

 

[itssupa]

would never force her, just thought i could get some facts that would babe clear a few things up about it being "dirty".
We have had anal sex before a little while ago now, but she doesnt like to be touched or licked there, just anal.

 

[itssupa]

would never force her, just thought i could get some facts that would maybe clear a few things up about it being "dirty".
We have had anal sex before a little while ago now, but she doesnt like to be touched or licked there, just anal.

 

[human_male]

Yeah do it to her, and let her pleasure you other ways anally. When she sees how much you like it she's get turned on and maybe want to give it a try. Make sure you're spotlessly clean (a nice sented soap might help) and show her how much you like it.

But if it doesn't happen then drop it. Don't try and talk her into it. You're lucky enough as it is!

 

[Eilan]

Good advice so far.

If cleanliness is an issue, perhaps you could take a shower or bath together and pay special attention to the area(s) in question.

 

[Honeygirl]

...My question is, is it dirty? and if i clean inside and out while showering is this enough to make it safe for her togo down there?
Supa

Hey Supa - welcome to Lit .
Onto the question - well, it's hard to be delicate about this - hell, it's about bums, so here's my five cents worth.
I'm guessing that if you know you're heading into the `rim zone' that you'd be a bit careful with the old soap and water routine. Honestly, that should be totally kosher. Generally speaking, it's only when someone is going to actually *proper voice* have a bowel motion, that the faecal matter moves down to the lower colon, ready to `come on down and out'. It's not like there's poo right there, 24/7.

Showering should be enough to `freshen up' the area (I suppose that in a pinch, you could use a wet wipe...but she might weird out as the taste of baby wipes :worried: ). Ummm - anyway, when I've rimmed, it's never been an issue. Perhaps you could try venturing into the area when going down on her - and alternate a little to get her to warm up to the idea. She might be embarrassed about talking about it? Either way, good luck .

 

[Ezzy]

Here is a wonderful piece of news for her...

There are less (both in number of strains and strength of reaction) harmful bugs in your ass than there are in your mouth!

Now if she is willing to swap spit with you, she ought to be willing to kiss or rim your ass, as long as you are more than willing to return the favor.

Perhaps a session right after a shower and if she allows anal play you could rim (lick her anus) her before you start to lube her up.

You can do this mutually in the 69 position, just by moving a little further down her body.

 

[SweetErika]

We were hesitant about rimming also, so we did a fair amount of research online and it put our minds at ease. Here are a few of the articles that helped, and I'd suggest you and your gf reading them together (tell her no pressure, but YOU'RE curious and would like to learn the facts about it):
http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sexed/analingus.asp
http://www.gmax.co.za/play/wholelessex/a-z/analsexprt1.html
http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_analplay.shtml
http://www.clitical.com/how-to/analingus.php
http://www.xandria.com/learn/sexuality-questions/Analingus.html

I'd strongly advise showering together and washing each other beforehand (we use alcohol-free, unscented baby wipes before regular sex/oral sometimes, but those wouldn't put me at ease for rimming). If you have some hair around your anus, you may want to shave it as well (or have her help). You might want to start out using plastic wrap, a cut unlubed condom, or a dental dam...perhaps she'd be more comfortable with that.

 

[bmw1080]

Well you have received just about all the good advice. I will reiterate other responses;
Have a shower together first, let her see you cleaning your ass, and help her clean hers.
rim her first, there are lots of neat nerve endings around your ass, and especially for women on the perenium (the piece of sensitive skin btw ass and vagina. Be light and gentle!! Use fingers and tongue.
Maybe then she will explore further with you, especially if she likes it.
Dont just "dive" into her ass. Take your time with foreplay elsewhere and work her into it so it is just an extension of the other incredible feelings.
Anal toys are great when you are both ready to expand your horizons.

Ciao B

 

[notiglove]

think about it

Supa congratulations for the rim. But think about it. If you like it, why wouldn't she ? So the next time your in the neighborhood, slips over and pay some attention to her rosebud.

 

[Norajane]

Supa congratulations for the rim. But think about it. If you like it, why wouldn't she ? So the next time your in the neighborhood, slips over and pay some attention to her rosebud.

Supa said that she won't let him touch or lick her, though she's ok with anal sex. She's not comfortable with it. Has nothing to do with the physical sensation - she thinks it's dirty and isn't mentally comfortable.

That's why.

 

[MR.GGG]

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My advice is leave the whole anilingus thing alone for the time being. As above suggests, take a long time in the shower making sure she is clean by doing it yourself. That way you're not touching her sexually when you're soaping and rubbing her bum. It just feels good. Take it slow. Make it sensual and erotic but not overtly sexual. Poke a finger in just a little to make sure everything is spotless. Keep up that kind of activity and my guess is after a while she'll warm up to how good it feels and with that much soap it CAN'T be dirty. Have her soap you up and make sure you're as clean as she is and I think in the long run that kind of "play" will make her realize that it is all cleanfun feels great and is only slightly kinky.

Another thought ... if she like oral sex performed on her then try her over some pillows, face down, legs apart. You can eat her from above or between her legs and SEE the object of your LUST! Don't touch it. Don't ! Go from her inner thighs to her clit then lick up across her bum cheeks and delve down just a little bit but stay away from her anus. Tell her how cute/sexy she looks in that position. You can stop sucking her clit and move up to the back of her neck and nibble and lick all the way down her spine and to the top of the crack of her ass. Lick her cheeks and her thighs. It is IMPOSSIBLE of course not to brush a finger across her anal area on occasion but don't dwell and make it rare. You may find she will push her bum out to you when you get near. This is a possible indication that her aversion to anything anal is beginning to weaken.

Just an idea ...

g'luck

 

[riftheotherone]

I think despite all of the advice when it comes right down to it someones either into it - no pun intended ! - or they're not an no amount of persuasion - bullying - is going to make a difference....I for one will rim my wife but she won't reciprocate...fortunately though I still get off on the obvious pleasure this combined with other acts brings.

 

[itssupa]

Thanks for all of the advice guys, ive tried seducing, licking, touching and gradually working my way down there but no cigar, she just freaks out almost as if she is waiting for the moment. Ahh well just wasnt meant to be i suppose.
Thanks for all of the replies if i have success i will let u all know, i'm thinking about maybe posting some personal pics of myself up, dunno if you girls (guys too i suppose) would be interested in seeing a fairly fit 22 yo guy on here hehe.

Cheers

Supa

 

[TBKahuna123]

SHe probably is waiting for it, nkowing that you're going to try everytime. Back off, try it once, and if she says no, leave it alone for a few sessions. Then bring it up again. You can overload her so much that she gets defensive, and those defenses will just keep building.

 

[Quoll]

Thanks for all of the advice guys, ive tried seducing, licking, touching and gradually working my way down there but no cigar, she just freaks out almost as if she is waiting for the moment. Ahh well just wasnt meant to be i suppose.
Thanks for all of the replies if i have success i will let u all know, i'm thinking about maybe posting some personal pics of myself up, dunno if you girls (guys too i suppose) would be interested in seeing a fairly fit 22 yo guy on here hehe.

Cheers

Supa

Have you just straight out asked her?
Did you like it?
Is there anything I can do to help you overcome your fears?

Have you brought her to lit?
I would back off a bit for awhile though like Kahuna said, as once those barriers come down it takes a long time to raise them up again.
Good luck.

 

[RawAndNatural]

This is an interesting topic. I'm pro analingus.

 

[juliet8283]

My boyfriend really likes it when I do this to him. But what is the best postion to get in? My neck always starts to hurt.

 

[Carnevil9]

Am I the only one who sees the irony here? Somebody from "Down Under" asking advice about going "down under"?

No disrespect intended. Good luck with your love life, it sounds like you are on the right track!......Carney

 

[shy slave]

My boyfriend really likes it when I do this to him. But what is the best postion to get in? My neck always starts to hurt.

Laying on his front can be a good position.

It allows you to open his ass cheeks and move at your pace. You also have good access to the back of his balls and cock with your hands and tongue.

 

[samira]

the 1st few times i did it to a guy was in the shower or striaght after, after a while i relay enjoyed doing it and did it when ever and i have never really wored about it. Only on a few occation i did bother since the guys were too dirty. I also like guys rimming me as it is a great sensation