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ShoreMan

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My new girlfriend (some of you know who she is) has just revealed to me some personal information today. The first, that she is bisexual, was a bit of a shock. However, that I can handle. I am having more trouble with something she said while we were talking. She said that the woman that she had a relationship with was the love of her life. We haven't really gotten to the point where I love yous are part of our conversations, but it makes me wonder. Does this mean that I would be fighting a ghost if we ever got to that point? She and I got into it and she is now taking a nap. I don't know what to say to her.
 
And you didn't see this coming?

Hell....I used that line when I wanted a divorce from my ex..........
 
I don't think you should feel any more threatened by the fact that the love of her life was female, than if she'd said that about someone without a vagina. She's open, she trusted you enough to share something potentially contraversial, that is not a bad thing. Give your relationship room to grow and try to work through your insecurities.

Good luck!
 
My insecurities are not with the fact that the love of her life was a woman. It sounds final to me. Maybe I am just taking it wrong.
 
If the other woman is the love of her life then you will never be the love of her life..

why woudl you want to be with someone who is in love with someone else when she is with you..
 
Without breaking the rules, I can tell you that the woman is not in her life anymore. I can't say more than that.
 
This is just your opportunity to show her how incredible you can be.

I have it on good authority that 'loves of lives' can change. Just out of curiosity, how old is your lady? I mean, if she's had many many years of experience in Love, maybe she can say that with conviction. But my guess is that 25 years from now, she may or may not be able to say that the woman was the love of her life. I always kinda thought that expression should be reserved for people in their 80s looking back. Because you never know what (or who) the future holds.
 
Did it occur to anyone that this woman in question was the love of her life to date? That her feelings haven't been stronger for anyone else before, doesn't negate the possibility that she can find a great love with you or anyone else. You two need to talk more and argue less. Find out what she really means before you assume the worst.

And even if this was her one true love, should she be denied a secondary love for the rest of her life? Or are you just unwilling to be that secondary love?
 
I guess I never thought of it that way. Thank you. She is young. I just am wary of being the first relationship after the LOHL.
 
Rose.......

Now THAT sounds like a wonderful idea!!!!!!!

Mind if I watch? :rose: :rose: for both ya............

I remain,
 
Unfortunately, Hanns, I have someone else in mind for the dicking. I hope you understand...


Hanns_Schmidt said:
Show me your tits

it's a pre requisite for dicking
 
You're right, Hanns. He'll never be you.

Still, you do have a certain dangerous appeal...


Hanns_Schmidt said:
Thats ok

He will never be me.

He will never be as good as this G
 
I have spent 10 months fighting the "ghost' of the Love of his Life who done him wrong 10 years ago.

Some battles are never meant to be engaged. Enjoy what she CAN give you now, but be prepared for the day when she says you are not enough.
 
Careful....SLG

You might make his gun go off prematurely............
 
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