Opinions on breasts

[TheEarl]

Right, I'm going to ask an important question of the ladies on Lit now and I'm very curious to see if there's any kind of a consensus.

What is your opinion of a man if he looks at your breasts when you're wearing a low-cut top? Not talking to them or anything, just you notice his gaze lingering every so often. I was having this discussion with friends and a couple were of the opinion that it's flattering and shows that he's interested in you, while another couple thought it was hugely rude and would disqualify him from ever getting any closer to them (which of course bears the question of why the low-cut top. But that's a different question).

Any thoughts?

The Earl

 

[logophile]

If I didn't want you to look, I wouldn't be lifting then with a torturous bra and wearing my best v-neck shirt.

Peek away. And if we're on a date, feel free to be fairly obvious about it...

 

[TheEarl]

Peek away. And if we're on a date, feel free to be fairly obvious about it...

I don't do subtle...

The Earl

 

[sophia jane]

If I didn't want you to look, I wouldn't be lifting then with a torturous bra and wearing my best v-neck shirt.

Peek away. And if we're on a date, feel free to be fairly obvious about it...

What she said.

SJ

 

[carsonshepherd]

the Earl is so cute

 

[logophile]

I don't do subtle...

The Earl

Would you do me?

PS - I found a very naughty picture of your cock, young man, and my mouth has been watering ever since...

 

[carsonshepherd]

Would you do me?

PS - I found a very naughty picture of your cock, young man, and my mouth has been watering ever since...

shhhhhh

 

[Guest]

id say:
"Excuse me, but the magnifying glass is burning a hole into my skin."

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I don't do subtle...

The Earl

Then you're in trouble.

A woman showing decolletage is of source showing off a bit, but to stare and drool or slap your thigh and howl is to show that you're an unsophisticated rube, the kind of guy who might stand up and yell "YeeHAH!" during a Beethoven string quartet. It's doubtful the woman is going to show any interest in you, or even want to stand anywhere near you.

Flirtation is a game of sophistication and nuance. You glance; you don't leer. Breaking that rule will get you thrown out of the game, if not punched out by her date.

 

[TheEarl]

Then you're in trouble.

A woman showing decolletage is of source showing off a bit, but to stare and drool or slap your thigh and howl is to show that you're an unsophisticated rube, the kind of guy who might stand up and yell "YeeHAH!" during a Beethoven string quartet. It's doubtful the woman is going to show any interest in you, or even want to stand anywhere near you.

Flirtation is a game of sophistication and nuance. You glance; you don't leer. Breaking that rule will get you thrown out of the game, if not punched out by her date.

<laughs> Okay, so maybe I do do subtle. Just not very subtle.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

 

[mlady_france]

I find it very flattering. That's why when I'm feeling my lowest I slip into a push up bra (like I need one) and a very low cut shirt. Then I try to think of the busiest place I can and head for that area. It may be a superficial ego boost, but for that time I feel like I'm the hottest woman alive.

If I didn't want a man to look at my breasts, I wouldn't wear the low cut shirt. If I'm in a situation where I don't think it would be appropriate to be drooled over then I wear something a little less revealing.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

I start to worry when a guy isn't looking at my breasts.

 

[carsonshepherd]

I start to worry when a guy isn't looking at my breasts.

that mean they're gay?

 

[OhMissScarlett]

that mean they're gay?

don't pretend you don't look.

oh and I was going to say that makes them "ass men" but I guess it's all the same.

 

[Belegon]

I start to worry when a guy isn't looking at my breasts.

promise you that I won't have a problem there...and, BTW, I'll stare at your ass too, you just might not notice unless there is a mirror or store window around...

 

[OhMissScarlett]

promise you that I won't have a problem there...and, BTW, I'll stare at your ass too, you just might not notice unless there is a mirror or store window around...

I feel much better now.

 

[Many Feathers]

Good question...

I'm going to look. Lets face it, for those of us that truly admire and appreciate the female breast, it's a virtual impossibility for me NOT to look.

However, I do try to be descrete whenever I do. Though again, the circumstance and person of whose breasts you're looking at has a lot to do with that. If I know you, and you know the real "me". Sure...I'm going to look and not be all that subtle about it. I might even comment, but it will be to offer praise and appreciation, not being vulgar or suggestive about it, (unless you're staring at the bulge in my pants) in which case I think we can take the gloves off.

If however I don't know you, or we've just met. I'll talk to your face and not to your chest. When you look away for whatever reason, that's when I'll look...appreciate and admire. Maybe you know that I am...maybe you don't. Either way...thank you.

 

[Belegon]

I feel much better now.

no, what you're feeling is better..."much better" comes later, when your thigh muscles are still quivering and you're worried about how sore they will be tomorrow...

 

[impressive]

Right, I'm going to ask an important question of the ladies on Lit now and I'm very curious to see if there's any kind of a consensus.

What is your opinion of a man if he looks at your breasts when you're wearing a low-cut top? Not talking to them or anything, just you notice his gaze lingering every so often. I was having this discussion with friends and a couple were of the opinion that it's flattering and shows that he's interested in you, while another couple thought it was hugely rude and would disqualify him from ever getting any closer to them (which of course bears the question of why the low-cut top. But that's a different question).

Any thoughts?

The Earl

If I'm wearing a low-cut top, it's my intent that my breasts be noticed/appreciated.

 

[carsonshepherd]

no, what you're feeling is better..."much better" comes later, when your thigh muscles are still quivering and you're worried about how sore they will be tomorrow...

okay, that just made me hot *waahhh*

and for Scarlett *squeeze*

 

[LadyJeanne]

Men look all the time, bless their lascivious souls, so I'm generally not offended unless they're drooling in an inappropriate context. If I'm wearing a low-cut top, then I expect my breasts to get more attention than usual, and I don't mind a guy who peeks, glances, or even lingers a bit.

If it's someone I know, someone who's attention I'd like to have, I'd be disappointed if I didn't catch an admiring gaze every now and then. If it's someone I've just met, the occasional lingerging gaze is fine, but if I notice it too often, I start wondering if he's actually listening to anything I'm saying. When that happens, I'll usually catch his eyes when he finally looks up, and I'll raise an amused eyebrow - if he keeps staring even after that, he's toast.

 

[AppleBiter]

Okay, I think that if I have on a low-cut top and I catch someone glancing at my tits, it's alright. I don't mind. I have them on display, so to speak, anyhow. It's kind of flattering. BUT, if they stare and gawk, mouths agape, that will piss me off unless they're my husband because he does that all the time anyway. Seriously, though, staring just makes me feel like all I am is the owner of a large pair of breasts. I could leave the situation and as long as my breasts stayed, no one would notice. That will bring on some anger.

It also depends on the situation. For instance, once I was working out in the gym here at the college and jumping on a springboard. I was stuck between two college guys on exercise bikes who couldn't help but subtly enjoy the show (as though I wasn't going to notice them staring at my boobs). Come on!! I go to the gym to work out, not get ogled over. And, I'm self-concious enough at the gym without being stared at for my breasts. I went home and told my husband about it and he sympathized with the guys . . . I knew he would! Grrrr.

So, guys, don't stare too long and pick your moment. That's what I have to say.

AppleBiter

 

[Liar]

What really kills me is women who wear tight, low cut tops with printing right over the pointy bits, and still gets offended when oogled upon. It's like a double invitation to look, so if prudence wins the forst round, curiosity will win the second one. What do they expect?

I'm not really a major boob starer, I think, but I have a tendency to linger too long on the face of attractive women. Most of the time I don't really think about it, but it is almost always intepreted as filrting. Depending on the situation, and the presence of over protective boyfriends, it yeilds both positive and negative results.

#L

 

[logophile]

This is an interesting area to navigate as a bisexual woman as well.
I try not to look because it can really freak a woman at to be "appreciated" by another woman.
But sheesh, it's difficult sometimes.