Opening lines

[sirhugs]

Many well wishes. I don't think I could ever forsake possessiveness, as I have a very possessive nature. I might.. uhm.. share or be shared, but I couldn't even imagine not having a choice in it.

I had a possessive nature as well, so had some re-education to learn. Like the possessiveness became the issue that pushed her away. I ended up with a simple choice- share or lose. Since I've always fantacized about my roving eye, it seemed, in theory , a good choice. But, as happened when I was a teenager, I find my rl skills exceeded by my optomistic imaginagination. That's why I feel 44 going on 19.

 

[capricious_chic]

See it, believe it, acheive it?

Do you watch? Participate?

 

[sirhugs]

See it, believe it, acheive it?

Do you watch? Participate?

are you asking me? if so I don't understand .

 

[sirhugs]

I had a possessive nature as well, so had some re-education to learn. Like the possessiveness became the issue that pushed her away. I ended up with a simple choice- share or lose. Since I've always fantacized about my roving eye, it seemed, in theory , a good choice. But, as happened when I was a teenager, I find my rl skills exceeded by my optomistic imaginagination. That's why I feel 44 going on 19.

of course the " possesiveness" was just her code excuse for wanting to be free cause she had tired of me- not because of me, but because she tires of all....

 

[capricious_chic]

I'm sorry, meaning...

You saw that was the way to maintain your marriage, so you believed it was in the best interest for the both of you, and now you have acheived it.. as a question, are you satisfied with the arrangement?

 

[capricious_chic]

of course the " possesiveness" was just her code excuse for wanting to be free cause she had tired of me- not because of me, but because she tires of all....

Are you happy with this? I am sorry to be so noisy, I just don't think I could be happy in this type of arrangement. I NEED to have someone feel passionately about me.

 

[sirhugs]

Are you happy with this? I am sorry to be so noisy, I just don't think I could be happy in this type of arrangement. I NEED to have someone feel passionately about me.

happy is a relative term, and one with degrees. The loss of passion was gradual and longstanding. Her anger masked it for many years. Now she knows the cause of her anger was her lack of self-esteem, not me. I am happy that we are beyond that pain, and the lies. I am happy she seems happier. I am happy we are friends. I am happy to give to her, for I am a giver. I am happy we give our children a warm caring home. I am happy when I fell and hurt my arm, she nursed me. I am happy we share a laugh or two. Her outside interest does not make me unhappy any more than anything else that would keep her distracted a few hours a week. I would be happier to have sex with someone besides me in the room, and, to work for me, that has to be a caring somebody. If I chose to leave, it would not be her. So, it needs to be someone else anyway. Maybe a passionate somebody. Someday.

But I need a good opening line ready for that day!

 

[gimmeadaiquiri]

Say nothing...

It's all about the eye contact.

 

[sirhugs]

Say nothing...

It's all about the eye contact.

I do eye contact fine- its working up to lip contact I need to perfect!

 

[Guest]

deadly

I agree, even if only looking to live the next few hours as if they are our last. I disagreed ( cringed?) when another poster said " talk about yourself" . I think that's deadly. Do you agree?

SirHugs-

Self-absorbed people are a real bore to be around... Much better to find a common interest and build a converstation around this... That's why I never hung around bars to begin realtionships... I'm not a beer or wine aficianado (sp?).

Meeting someone at an event or a place where I am already interested increases the odds that we'll have something in common. It sounds like you desire more than casual sex (if there is such a thing?) and would improve your odds of success by going to places to meet women interested in your interests.

But the key to all of this IMHO is that the conversation is seen as playing an intricate game of catch... The ball needs to go back and forth with some fun variations.

-b

 

[sirhugs]

oh, I prefer the sex to be casual

but also caring and friendly

the real issue though is " how to" time the first pitch, just hard enough to reach the glove, soft enough to be caught.

 

[capricious_chic]

happy is a relative term, and one with degrees. The loss of passion was gradual and longstanding. Her anger masked it for many years. Now she knows the cause of her anger was her lack of self-esteem, not me. I am happy that we are beyond that pain, and the lies. I am happy she seems happier. I am happy we are friends. I am happy to give to her, for I am a giver. I am happy we give our children a warm caring home. I am happy when I fell and hurt my arm, she nursed me. I am happy we share a laugh or two. Her outside interest does not make me unhappy any more than anything else that would keep her distracted a few hours a week. I would be happier to have sex with someone besides me in the room, and, to work for me, that has to be a caring somebody. If I chose to leave, it would not be her. So, it needs to be someone else anyway. Maybe a passionate somebody. Someday.

But I need a good opening line ready for that day!

Hello.

Best opening line there is!! Honestly, I am more charmed by those guys that it is obviously akward for them to approach me.

I am glad that you find happiness in your relationship. I hope that you are able to find that "someone" who will give to you as passionately as you deserve. I hope that you can find someone to care for, and who will care for you in a lasciviously wonderful way!

 

[prettyrockslut]

depends on where you are... if you're at a bar, ask her if she wants a drink, maybe mention something cute and semi-intelligent. Like, I don't know, a random fact-of-the-day sort of thing... if she's interested she will be a bit nervous, so make it easy for her to respond, and keep off the overt sexual stuff until you have at least her name...

 

[CraZy HaHa]

I think the whole key to picking someone is up is to never let her know ur there to pick her up. Never use a pick up line, because if a chick thinks ur there to pick her up...chances are your gonna be going home empty handed. Personally, i try to say something stupid or crazy off the bat...something to try and get a chuckle out of a women. The chick thinks ur screwed in the head, and it lets her gaurd down. It also makes her feel more confortable around u. After a brief conversation(if you get to that point), compliment her on her personallity and ask if you wouldnt mind going out for drinks, dinner whatever... (the last bits the pick up line...just make it work for your situation)

As for opening lines, i'd never use them. We'll unless there in the wrong context. For instance if you see a pretty looking tellar chick, look her straight in the eyes and say, "so ... you come here often" Even if it dont work, atleast you get to see there reaction... and some times it's priceless ... Have fun cRazy HaHA

 

[SonTzu]

How about a note...