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cymbidia
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Hello mousetro, i'm cym. I've been away on a much-needed lit-break and want to welcome you to this forum.
This thing that you started here, it's not a room, though, cuz this is not a chat - it's a forum. There's a huge difference in the two. Additionally, this is a thread inside the forum - not the whole forum itself. You can find info relating to the beginning of this whole forum in the sticky entitled Welcome To The BDSM Forum, above. (Actually i started this forum - and RisiaSkye and Hecate and WriterDom and lilfrk and SpectreT and Wizard and morningirl5 and a few others - in July of 2001.)
Additionally, unfortunately, "anything" doesn't go. We all still have to abide by the rules that are posted in the sticky atop the open threads - no email addys, no spam, no personals ads.
Aside from that, though, all topics of relevance to real time, skin-to-skin (or moving in that direction) concerns are welcome in this place.
This thing that you started here, it's not a room, though, cuz this is not a chat - it's a forum. There's a huge difference in the two. Additionally, this is a thread inside the forum - not the whole forum itself. You can find info relating to the beginning of this whole forum in the sticky entitled Welcome To The BDSM Forum, above. (Actually i started this forum - and RisiaSkye and Hecate and WriterDom and lilfrk and SpectreT and Wizard and morningirl5 and a few others - in July of 2001.)
Additionally, unfortunately, "anything" doesn't go. We all still have to abide by the rules that are posted in the sticky atop the open threads - no email addys, no spam, no personals ads.
Aside from that, though, all topics of relevance to real time, skin-to-skin (or moving in that direction) concerns are welcome in this place.
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mousetro
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In response
This is in response to the above statement I realise that the rules still apply what I was trying to get at with this thread was that people can just speak here about anything to do with bdsm. I appologise I did not mean to step on anyones toes. Then again why should I appologise just because you read too much in to my first statement. Anyway the the laymens term for forum is discusion. So lets discuse how we feel and what we think about our expierences and fantasies to do with this topic.
This is in response to the above statement I realise that the rules still apply what I was trying to get at with this thread was that people can just speak here about anything to do with bdsm. I appologise I did not mean to step on anyones toes. Then again why should I appologise just because you read too much in to my first statement. Anyway the the laymens term for forum is discusion. So lets discuse how we feel and what we think about our expierences and fantasies to do with this topic.
A Desert Rose
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HI
I think I said hi before and welcome.
I discovered my submissiveness about 2 years ago. Until recently though, I didn't realize that it was being misused by my previous Dom. It's the old "I didn't know better so I thought this was how it was supposed to be" line.
I am thankful to him for awakening that aspect in me. In many ways it has made my life feel more complete.
Just some random thinking from-
Rose
I think I said hi before and welcome.
I discovered my submissiveness about 2 years ago. Until recently though, I didn't realize that it was being misused by my previous Dom. It's the old "I didn't know better so I thought this was how it was supposed to be" line.
I am thankful to him for awakening that aspect in me. In many ways it has made my life feel more complete.
Just some random thinking from-
Rose
Hello Mousetro, welcome to the forum.
What is your take on the issue of control? Who is really in control? The Dom/me because she/he makes the decisions, or the sub because she/he can call stop and/or leave if she/he doesn't like how the dom/me controls?
What is your take on the issue of control? Who is really in control? The Dom/me because she/he makes the decisions, or the sub because she/he can call stop and/or leave if she/he doesn't like how the dom/me controls?
mousetro
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Greetings MsWorthy
This is what I wanted when I made this thread called forum. Well I am a dom and I feel that its not one side or the other its both that create the relationship. You cant have one without the other and therefore both have to work in some way to make the relationship work. The dom and sub relationship both all each to grow in there own directions. I feel that this is benificial to both if this is what and where you want to be.
what do you think?
This is what I wanted when I made this thread called forum. Well I am a dom and I feel that its not one side or the other its both that create the relationship. You cant have one without the other and therefore both have to work in some way to make the relationship work. The dom and sub relationship both all each to grow in there own directions. I feel that this is benificial to both if this is what and where you want to be.
what do you think?
A Desert Rose
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May I respond, MsWorthy?
~~~~~Based on the question you posed, the sub really has ultimate control in the end. She (I use the pronoun because I am one) can end the relationship and in doing so, removes all the power she gifted her Dom.
That is why, in my opinion at least, the gift of submission needs to be respected, cherished and nurtured by the Dom. It is she who gives him is power and the control and the responsibility to guide the sub into the realm of D/s.
Rose
MsWorthy said:
~~~~~Based on the question you posed, the sub really has ultimate control in the end. She (I use the pronoun because I am one) can end the relationship and in doing so, removes all the power she gifted her Dom.
That is why, in my opinion at least, the gift of submission needs to be respected, cherished and nurtured by the Dom. It is she who gives him is power and the control and the responsibility to guide the sub into the realm of D/s.
Rose
A Desert Rose
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mousetro said:
~~~~ you mean physically? I am in LasVegas, Nevada.
Rose
Re: May I respond, MsWorthy?
*smiles* @ ADR. I always enjoy reading your opinion.
A Desert Rose said:
~~~~~Based on the question you posed, the sub really has ultimate control in the end. She (I use the pronoun because I am one) can end the relationship and in doing so, removes all the power she gifted her Dom.
That is why, in my opinion at least, the gift of submission needs to be respected, cherished and nurtured by the Dom. It is she who gives him is power and the control and the responsibility to guide the sub into the realm of D/s.
Rose
*smiles* @ ADR. I always enjoy reading your opinion.
~Dream~
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Re:WE have Control??
MWAHAHAHAH !I KNEW IT!!!..sorry I JUST COULD NOT RESIST
back to beahaving maturely..ok ...anyways what my Sis Rose just said is 100% correct..without the "sub's submissionn then the Dom' doesnt get His need fulfilled either..however,it's important to emphasize that not only the "gift' of submission" is a gift' but also is the Dominance a gift to the sub as well/? of course it is !1
For without someone there to "guide us" ,'control us" then what good is it for us to give?'to be appreciated,loved and cared for by Our Dom,like NO other cares for us ,to me is probably the Best gift of all..I CHERISH MY Master,however we both realize that this BDSM relationship is a rough road,esp LDR,but we will both Make it because it is a mutual decision by "US' to make it work..
without BOTH pieces of the puzzle,the puzzle is incomplete..
A Desert Rose said:
~~~~~Based on the question you posed, the sub really has ultimate control in the end. She (I use the pronoun because I am one) can end the relationship and in doing so, removes all the power she gifted her Dom.
That is why, in my opinion at least, the gift of submission needs to be respected, cherished and nurtured by the Dom. It is she who gives him is power and the control and the responsibility to guide the sub into the realm of D/s.
Rose
MWAHAHAHAH !I KNEW IT!!!..sorry I JUST COULD NOT RESIST
back to beahaving maturely..ok ...anyways what my Sis Rose just said is 100% correct..without the "sub's submissionn then the Dom' doesnt get His need fulfilled either..however,it's important to emphasize that not only the "gift' of submission" is a gift' but also is the Dominance a gift to the sub as well/? of course it is !1
For without someone there to "guide us" ,'control us" then what good is it for us to give?'to be appreciated,loved and cared for by Our Dom,like NO other cares for us ,to me is probably the Best gift of all..I CHERISH MY Master,however we both realize that this BDSM relationship is a rough road,esp LDR,but we will both Make it because it is a mutual decision by "US' to make it work..
without BOTH pieces of the puzzle,the puzzle is incomplete..
A Desert Rose
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Re: Re:WE have Control??
~~~~~~Yes, good point. Especially about the gift of dominace.
lol I do have lots to learn. Thank you for your input, Dream.
Love,
Rose
Artful's dream said:
however,it's important to emphasize that not only the "gift' of submission" is a gift' but also is the Dominance a gift to the sub as well/? of course it is !1
For without someone there to "guide us" ,'control us" then what good is it for us to give?'to be appreciated,loved and cared for by Our Dom,like NO other cares for us ,to me is probably the Best gift of all..I CHERISH MY Master,however we both realize that this BDSM relationship is a rough road,esp LDR,but we will both Make it because it is a mutual decision by "US' to make it work..
without BOTH pieces of the puzzle,the puzzle is incomplete..
~~~~~~Yes, good point. Especially about the gift of dominace.
lol I do have lots to learn. Thank you for your input, Dream.
Love,
Rose
A Desert Rose
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PLEASE REFER TO....
"We are not a chat room...." thread posted by Lance "the guerilla fighter Castor.
OMG, I think I am actually participating in chat here........
LMAO
Rose
mousetro said:
"We are not a chat room...." thread posted by Lance "the guerilla fighter Castor.
OMG, I think I am actually participating in chat here........
LMAO
Rose
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mousetro.....
your quote should say "weighed", not "weight"....sorry, I can't help correcting sometimes!!
your quote should say "weighed", not "weight"....sorry, I can't help correcting sometimes!!
A Desert Rose
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Hey back. We can't chat here, it's against the rules, pal. LMAO and I just can't stop..........
Rose
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