Online to Meeting in person

[VolleyballChick]

I have had a few experiences in the past with talking to guys online for a length of time. We get to know each other, we find out what we each like and don't like, etc. Then after a while, usually one of us brings up meeting the other to see what our face to face connections are like.

Being the girl in the situation, if the girl is the one that brings up meeting, does the guys mind always target getting into the girls pants?

And even if the guy suggests meeting, is his mind already there looking to get into the girls pants?

 

[subkitty643]

I think it depends on the nature of your conversations, but if you meet someone and chat with them on a site like this, aren't you looking for the same thing? I don't understand your question.

 

[DrDelirium]

I think it depends on the nature of your conversations, but if you meet someone and chat with them on a site like this, aren't you looking for the same thing? I don't understand your question.

Perhaps she's just looking for an editor.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

prolly

Getting into your pants is probably in the back of his mind AT LEAST, and maybe in front. But it depends on the guy. You have only his words and those are pretty inexpensive.

 

[Bjerget]

Even if it is in his mind, you always have the right to say no. And the right to expect your no to be respected. If you're worried that it might be hard to say no in person, I would recommend meeting in a very public place, like the waiting room of a hospital or in front of a police station, that way he knows he has cameras on him.

 

[Blase]

Even if it is in his mind, you always have the right to say no. And the right to expect your no to be respected. If you're worried that it might be hard to say no in person, I would recommend meeting in a very public place, like the waiting room of a hospital or in front of a police station, that way he knows he has cameras on him.

Yikes! Yeah, that would presumably dampen the ardor of the most amorous new acquaintance.

But if I weren't comfortable meeting someone at a restaurant in broad daylight - perhaps after having arranged a safe call - I think I'd just pass on meeting them.

 

[fire_breeze]

I have had a few experiences in the past with talking to guys online for a length of time. We get to know each other, we find out what we each like and don't like, etc. Then after a while, usually one of us brings up meeting the other to see what our face to face connections are like.

Being the girl in the situation, if the girl is the one that brings up meeting, does the guys mind always target getting into the girls pants?

And even if the guy suggests meeting, is his mind already there looking to get into the girls pants?

It would depend on the guy: some would not mind, others would. Some men would want to get to know the person in person before becoming intimate, others would not. Just like there are no one way 'what women want', there is no one way 'what men want'. It depends on the individual.

I've met quite a few people online. Some of them became lovers. Most were platonic friends with no sexual interest whatsoever. Others, once we met offline, we realised that the sexual chemistry isn't there and we remained fantastic friends. Only one person was there something off and I chose not to pursue it. A good thing too: he was a little weird (not stalker or anything, just fantastically clingy).

So suggest a meeting if you want to. Do it in a public place, let someone know, have a friend call you half way, and treat is as a date. And you can always say no - and so can he. Ensure that there is no pressure for anything on anyone, that you already get along and simply want to see where it can lead. And then enjoy

 

[Primalex]

Being the girl in the situation, if the girl is the one that brings up meeting, does the guys mind always target getting into the girls pants?

And even if the guy suggests meeting, is his mind already there looking to get into the girls pants?

Yes.

Yes.

Don't they show educational movies like 'When Harry met Sally' any longer?

 

[FGB]

I always want the woman to feel safe and comfortable even if we have talked for a several months. I give them the choice of where to meet...come alone or bring a friend.

I always make sure she knows all about me and encourage a background check.

After all, I am going to check her out!

If one or the other has a problem showing Identification or worried about a background check... than there is a problem
isn't there?

 

[Primalex]

I always want the woman to feel safe and comfortable even if we have talked for a several months.

How unique. Most people want the woman to feel unsafe and uncomfortable.

I always make sure she knows all about me

Then there doesn't seem to be much to know about you. Not even my wife knows all about me.

and encourage a background check.

"I'm trustworthy, you can do a background check on me!"

Hm. Somehow this wouldn't really make me feel better.

 

[Miles Long]

It would depend on the guy: some would not mind, others would. Some men would want to get to know the person in person before becoming intimate, others would not. Just like there are no one way 'what women want', there is no one way 'what men want'. It depends on the individual.

I've met quite a few people online. Some of them became lovers. Most were platonic friends with no sexual interest whatsoever. Others, once we met offline, we realised that the sexual chemistry isn't there and we remained fantastic friends. Only one person was there something off and I chose not to pursue it. A good thing too: he was a little weird (not stalker or anything, just fantastically clingy).

So suggest a meeting if you want to. Do it in a public place, let someone know, have a friend call you half way, and treat is as a date. And you can always say no - and so can he. Ensure that there is no pressure for anything on anyone, that you already get along and simply want to see where it can lead. And then enjoy

Hey. I was NOT fantastically clingy when we met! I was just... well...



hm.




Ok, I was fantastically clingy. Fine.

 

[FGB]

How unique. Most people want the woman to feel unsafe and uncomfortable.
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I have met a few dozen ladies whom have been through hell and if they do not feel safe and secure & comfortable it would be a short meeting!
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Then there doesn't seem to be much to know about you. Not even my wife knows all about me.



"I'm trustworthy, you can do a background check on me!"

Hm. Somehow this wouldn't really make me feel better.

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All they will find out is that I am who I say I am. I have bought a lot of things have a very good credit rating and No criminal record.

If the four ex-wives doesn't make them have a run-a-way,I'm Good!
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[BuckyDuckman]

Hm, I believe every woman I met online and then IRL, I met with the expectation of sex being involved. And, she met me on the same terms. No, I haven't had sex with every woman I've met in real life, but given the circumstances of where we met online - sex was typically what brought us together in the first place.

The same is true of the guys I've met online, too. (Spoiler: I'm bi.)

However, there are several people I know only from online who I would dearly enjoy meeting - and NOT for sex. Perhaps sex is the motivator for meeting in the first place?