online chat or email chat

[Aura369]

Hi:
I'm new to this so please bear with me. I've been happily married for 27 years and I'm just looking to spice of my love life. After 27 years I'd just like to talk to some women without having to cheat on my wife. I like to read and about having sex with another women, slow loving making. talking about how I like to undress you slowly and kiss every part of you, and have you discribe to me how you would undress and seduce me.

 

[SusyQ]

Hi:
I'm new to this so please bear with me. I've been happily married for 27 years and I'm just looking to spice of my love life. After 27 years I'd just like to talk to some women without having to cheat on my wife. I like to read and about having sex with another women, slow loving making. talking about how I like to undress you slowly and kiss every part of you, and have you discribe to me how you would undress and seduce me.

While there are exceptions, women here generally want to know someone before they engage in explicit chat with them (if they'll do it at all). There's a common misconception that we're all nymphomaniacs, will just start cybering with any man who pays us the slightest attention and that we're interchangeable. In fact, if that's all we wanted, we could make money doing it. We're individuals just like you. And it's hard to know how to seduce a stranger.

So if you're looking for someone to chat with, your best place to start is to let people get to know you. Participate in one of the endless discussions that are going on here 24/7. Have an opinion and a personality and you're much more likely to find someone. Think of it as dating.

 

[SweetErika]

Hi:
I'm new to this so please bear with me. I've been happily married for 27 years and I'm just looking to spice of my love life. After 27 years I'd just like to talk to some women without having to cheat on my wife. I like to read and about having sex with another women, slow loving making. talking about how I like to undress you slowly and kiss every part of you, and have you discribe to me how you would undress and seduce me.

SusyQ gave you excellent advice. You'd be wise to take it.

If you want to try your luck at an ad, you should post that in the Personals forum, not here, or anywhere else. Your best bet for an ad is to distinguish yourself from the other guys who want cybersex or erotic email exchange (which is what you want from the sound of it; let's call a spade a spade) by showing you're kind, respectful, intelligent, giving, imaginative, a good writer, etc. Look at the other guys' ads and see which ones are popular and which ones are essentially ignored (that is, by everyone but the horny, lonely thread-starter who bumps his ad over and over, all the while looking evermore desperate and unattractive).

I'm not passing judgment or anything of the sort, but if you haven't done so already, it'd probably be really smart to ask your wife how SHE defines cheating; specifically, whether she thinks cybersex is cheating. An awful lot of people believe having any sort of relationship behind their partner's back is cheating, or at the very least, extremely hurtful/damaging behavior. I've known several members of Lit who have hurt their partners and relationships by even just having completely platonic interactions on the board behind their spouses' backs. My personal barometer (and that of many others, from what I've seen) is, 'If I feel the need to hide an interaction with someone from my partner, I probably shouldn't be having it without talking with them first.'

Anyway, it's something to consider if your aim is to avoid hurting your wife.

 

[PertPerth]

I agree with both of the above posts.
Call me old-fashioned, but if I found out that my boyfriend/husband was chatting (even if it wasn't a true cyber-sex chat) with other women I'd call it cheating. I would have no problem with him watching porn or looking at girly magazines because that is just fantasy and isn't dealing with a real person who is responding to him.

 

[mynameiskate]

Why not try it with your wife? It could be fun to send dirty emails back and forth, and then when you get home, you can actually do it. Sounds fun to me.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

Oooo... I've done that Kate. When I first got my laptop I was completely wireless and independant of the desktop. My ex would sit in the office on the desktop and I would be somewhere else in the house and we'd be chatting back and forth. Was really a lot of fun!

Yes... define cheating as something you are doing that you can't tell your SO about. If you can't tell them about it, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

And for fuck's sake.. don't send opening PMs to the ladies here asking them what you can do to get them to rub their clit for you... (just got one like that.. nice first contact don'tcha think??) *rolleyes* I will not engage in that sort of thing if I don't at least know a little bit about you. There are several ways to approach me that will get you what you want, but if you don't do it the right way, you can just forget about it ever happening. Hard to explain it... be polite, considerate, respectful and allow the lady to lead the conversation in the direction she is comfortable in taking it. If all you want is sex chat, call a 900 number.