One night stands...

[Stella_Omega]

I've had more than a hundred of them most during my young adult days.

Are they satisfying?

I'm starting to think not so much...
When I was younger, I was looking ahaed to the next conquest, and not really interested in delving further into the mind and body of some chance aquaintance...

I think I'd need a one week stand, at the minimum, nowadays.

Anyone else? Where are you at in reference to uncommitted sex, and where have you been?

 

[Handley_Page]

I've had more than a hundred of them most during my young adult days.

Are they satisfying?

I'm starting to think not so much...
When I was younger, I was looking ahaed to the next conquest, and not really interested in delving further into the mind and body of some chance aquaintance...

I think I'd need a one week stand, at the minimum, nowadays.

Anyone else? Where are you at in reference to uncommitted sex, and where have you been?

Scared the willies out of me; I'm not sure now though. . . .

 

[Xelebes]

I did two one night stands - one for each way, if you know what I mean - never again.

 

[CharleyH]

I've had more than a hundred of them most during my young adult days.

Are they satisfying?

I'm starting to think not so much...
When I was younger, I was looking ahaed to the next conquest, and not really interested in delving further into the mind and body of some chance aquaintance...

I think I'd need a one week stand, at the minimum, nowadays.

Anyone else? Where are you at in reference to uncommitted sex, and where have you been?

I've had as many as you. Satisfying? I cant even remember half. Satisfying is being with the one you love and tune to. We still have threesomes and we still love each other the next day.

 

[PaperAutumn]

It depends on the person and the situation and your mental space at the time. They can be very satisfying, stress-relieving and can lead you to feel desired again. But they can also leave you feeling used and worthless. In which case I don't condone it.

But. Meh.

 

[Huckleman2000]

I've never really had one. I'm not the type of guy women pick up for a one-nighter. Even if there is an immediate attraction, once we start talking I'll soon fuck the whole thing up by being charming and considerate, and more of an introvert. Also, I'm a bit of a sub, and it takes a little time to build trust.

 

[TE999]

Having had a few one nighters in my time, I can state unequivically that when you're young it works like a champ. You get your ashes hauled and no strings attached. By the time I reached my late 20's it seemed (for me anyway) rather juvenile and a tad callous. So I met a wonderful woman and was married.

Today, I've been in love with the same woman for lo these many years...if my wife ever finds out I'm a dead man.

(Just kiddin')

 

[midwestyankee]

Tonight, for what it's worth, I feel contrarian on this issue. I'm rapidly approaching the southern border of 60 and, frankly, I could use a few NSA one-nighters to add some life to my life.

Of course, I might do my damnedest to be persuasive enough to extend them to more of a weeker, with lots of impact play on the agenda, but that would be frosting on a nice hot cake at the moment.

 

[Austin8]

One Night Stands...

As a young man I was wild and free, enjoying different women (girls) in different places and different circumstances.

It was, at times dangerous, especially when they were married—I remember most—sometimes we were under the influence of illegal substances.

But I remember them, nonetheless. Commitment? Yeah, it is an amazing feeling to experience the soul of your lover...

but these days I'm going back to the carefree sex of my youth... no strings... Is it satisfying? From a male point of view, Hell yes!
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Cool thread Stella...

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I married the only woman I ever slept with. Near as I can tell, she has been the only one really interested in sex with me. Of course, I admit to being totally oblivious and socially maladjusted or at least maladroit, but that's the way I see it. However, I too, would feel more at home with a one week stand. I have a sneaking suspicion that I'm likely to become quite fond of any woman who likes me well enough for sex. That's why I always have this dream of a polyamorous commune, don'tcherknow.

 

[Liar]

Are they satisfying?

How long is a piece of string?

They can be. Depends on what you need.

I can, when I'm in that mood, have meaningful and very satisfying conversations with complete strangers that I'll never meet again. The fact that I won't form a lasting friendship with them can be very liberating and take the conversation to very interresting places.

So why couldn't I, when I'm in another mood, have a meaningful and very satisfying shag with the same premise?

 

[The_Fool]

One of these days I will lose my virginity.

 

[john-the-author]

It depends on the person and the situation and your mental space at the time. They can be very satisfying, stress-relieving and can lead you to feel desired again. But they can also leave you feeling used and worthless. In which case I don't condone it.

But. Meh.

ONS's are indeed frequently good, but there are a lot of times they do leave you feeling used and worthless. I prefer it when they don't, mind you. Being married has curtailed all of this so this is not speaking from current experience... but I can still recall that funny empty feeling in the pit of my stomach from really cheap using-each-other sex that had no heart connection.

I've thought more as I get older that jealousy is simply not something that concerns me and that swinging from a committed relationship would be fun. The Babe, mind you, would never go for this. Oh, well, I can always dream....

 

[voluptuary_manque]

ONS's are indeed frequently good, but there are a lot of times they do leave you feeling used and worthless. I prefer it when they don't, mind you. Being married has curtailed all of this so this is not speaking from current experience... but I can still recall that funny empty feeling in the pit of my stomach from really cheap using-each-other sex that had no heart connection.

I've thought more as I get older that jealousy is simply not something that concerns me and that swinging from a committed relationship would be fun. The Babe, mind you, would never go for this. Oh, well, I can always dream....

Funny that you should mention that . . . I seem to have the same problem with HM!

 

[john-the-author]

Funny that you should mention that . . . I seem to have the same problem with HM!

I sympathize, VM, I really and truly do.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I sympathize, VM, I really and truly do.

It must be why so many of my stories deal with groups that have a permanent relationship all around. I'm slowly reverting to my hippie manque' as I approach retirement. Why not a commune as well? When we were young, idealist, poor and ignorant we wouldn't have been successful. Now that we are experienced, worldly and well off, our chances of success should be great indeed, no?

 

[Verdad]

I have some, um, fond memories… I'm not even looking now, but thinking about whether I'd prefer a stray night or a week, I'd definitely go for a night. A week is way long. With someone I wasn't really into, an entire week would be hell, and if it were that good for that long, it'd be likely too good to stop--and I really don't need that!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I've had as many as you. Satisfying? I cant even remember half. Satisfying is being with the one you love and tune to. We still have threesomes and we still love each other the next day.

This sound probably egotistical and spoiled brat, but-- a threesome with you and Lauren? makes me want to buy a ticket for Lisbon toot sweet!

How long is a piece of string?

They can be. Depends on what you need.

I can, when I'm in that mood, have meaningful and very satisfying conversations with complete strangers that I'll never meet again. The fact that I won't form a lasting friendship with them can be very liberating and take the conversation to very interresting places.

So why couldn't I, when I'm in another mood, have a meaningful and very satisfying shag with the same premise?

Yes! That's exactly the way I've always felt about ONS's. But as I said... I understand now, that I want more than one night in a stand. I can't even write a one night stand, without the characters wanting to meet again.

One of these days I will lose my virginity.

You are the Eternal Virgin, no matter how many women take you to their bed... Sort of Peter Pan with a peter.

 

[Dragonlipz]

As I think back on the more memorable ONS that I've been a participant in, I'm reminded that none were as good nor as bad as they seemed at the time......except one and I still get chills thinking about the twins........

 

[Katyusha]

I had some one night stands in college, and then again a couple of times about a year ago. I can have uncommitted sex but I tend to feel used and cheap afterward, so I'd have to say they aren't satisfying for me. One-week stand? I'd probably feel the same way, maybe even more strongly. Uncommitted sex just isn't my thing.

 

[_Lynn_]

When I left my ex, it was the first time I had ever been on my own. I felt a bit like I imagine those going to college do - free and able to do as they want. Since I was married and had a child already at 17, I never experienced any of that back then. So here I was, fifty and wanting to do . . . the opposite of what people would expect of me, even if they never found out.

My one night stand was a 29-year old. A few hours of sex with someone I wouldn't see again. I've never regretted it. I think at that time in my life, I needed to prove to myself that I could go out there and attract a man.

Today, I'm in a different frame of mind. Casual sex isn't what I'm looking for.

 

[impressive]

Like them quite a bit, actually. Especially with people I don't think I'd care to spend an appreciable amount of time with outside of sex. Bar pickups happened at least once a week in college, but they didn't always result in an overnight "stand" -- more like a quickie in the alley out back. Let's see, given school breaks, that's roughly 40 times a year over a 3.5 year span. At least two-thirds of them were women -- and usually women who thought that a woman couldn't seduce them. (It became a challenge at that point.)

I had a regular booty call partner in college, and with him, we'd often have one-night stands with a third of either gender. Fun stuff, that.

Problem with current arrangement is that my dear partner goes into a spontaneous tryst that should be a one-night stand or very limited engagement... but then feels some sort of gallant obligation to follow up lest he be considered a lecherous opportunist (as if there's something wrong with being a lecherous opportunist), whether the sex was good or not, and is thus way susceptible to emotional manipulation as a result.

So, YAY for NSA sex.

 

[midwestyankee]

Like them quite a bit, actually. Especially with people I don't think I'd care to spend an appreciable amount of time with outside of sex. Bar pickups happened at least once a week in college, but they didn't always result in an overnight "stand" -- more like a quickie in the alley out back. Let's see, given school breaks, that's roughly 40 times a year over a 3.5 year span. At least two-thirds of them were women -- and usually women who thought that a woman couldn't seduce them. (It became a challenge at that point.)

I had a regular booty call partner in college, and with him, we'd often have one-night stands with a third of either gender. Fun stuff, that.

Problem with current arrangement is that my dear partner goes into a spontaneous tryst that should be a one-night stand or very limited engagement... but then feels some sort of gallant obligation to follow up lest he be considered a lecherous opportunist (as if there's something wrong with being a lecherous opportunist), whether the sex was good or not, and is thus way susceptible to emotional manipulation as a result.

So, YAY for NSA sex.

Right about now there's something very appealing about the idea of being a lecherous opportunist.

 

[Safe_Bet]

I married the only woman I ever slept with....

How odd. I married the only woman I ever slept with too!

 

[voluptuary_manque]

How odd. I married the only woman I ever slept with too!

See, I knew we had so much in common!