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[shynsexy]

hey yall, i was wondering if i could get some advice (once again). My bf really (i meanreally ) likes it when i am on top. But I uncomfortable being on top because i am bigger than him. I can tell that he likes and enjoys it everytime, and he always asks for it, but i cant enjoy it as much as i want to. Anyone out there know what i am talking about? it feels really good, but i find myself stopping after a few minutes to stop and let him be ontop or doggy style. I want to make him ( an myself) sexually happy and dont want sex to get boring between us... i dont want to do the same positions over and over again....


so what do i do??? how can i let go? its only this one position i have trouble with. could it be because i like having him in controll??? he likes me to always be on top.... *frustrated*

 

[Ishmael]

hey yall, i was wondering if i could get some advice (once again). My bf really (i meanreally ) likes it when i am on top. But I uncomfortable being on top because i am bigger than him. I can tell that he likes and enjoys it everytime, and he always asks for it, but i cant enjoy it as much as i want to. Anyone out there know what i am talking about? it feels really good, but i find myself stopping after a few minutes to stop and let him be ontop or doggy style. I want to make him ( an myself) sexually happy and dont want sex to get boring between us... i dont want to do the same positions over and over again....


so what do i do??? how can i let go? its only this one position i have trouble with. could it be because i like having him in controll??? he likes me to always be on top.... *frustrated*

Sounds like two 'subs' fighting over who will be more submissive.

Either talk to him or bag him.

Ishmael

 

[alexandraaah]

Re: Re: on top

Either talk to him or bag him.

Ishmael

Do anything but listen to Ishmael.

What about it makes you uncomfortable?

 

[pabloback]

if it feels good , do it !
end of story

 

[Wiggles]

Talk to him about the things you want to try. But, you have to be open to giving him what he wants too.

Hopefully he'll care enough to make your sex life happy for both of you.

 

[shynsexy]

i feel uncomfortable about my size against his.... my belly is a little bigger than his, lol.... i dont and wont "bag him" over this one little thing. i do it because i do enjoy it, but not totally like i want to... i guess as time goes on.... plus i know afterwards he'll give me a good spanking thanks yall

 

[Ishmael]

Re: Re: Re: on top

Do anything but listen to Ishmael.

What about it makes you uncomfortable?

Do ANYTHING but listen to Alexandraaah.

What about it DOESN'T make you feel uncomfortable? (think positive)

Ishmael

 

[Juspar Emvan]

You may have sub issues, I don't know. But I'd guess more likely you have self esteme probs, from your post anyway. There's no real solution to that except time, and as mentioned - if it feels good, do it. It may help to know that what he's asking for is not uncommon - I love a woman sexually self possesed enough to enjoy being on top, or to masturbate in front of me, take photos of herslef, etc. No matter how much bigger than him you are (unless you have breasts like bean bags that will suffocate him,) you wont hurt him by being on top.

 

[lickerish]

Sheeit, been there, done that..

You're worried that he's going to focus on what *you* think is an ugly tummy/ breasts/ body.. but you need to like yourself before worrying over if he'll like you. If he's having sex with you, that means he's attracted to you, end of story.

But to help you.. maybe start being on top with the lights off/ curtains closed.. then graduate to candles.. then to lights on/ daylight buck wild animalistic hot 'n sweaty sex... he'll thank you for it.

 

[shynsexy]

Juspar....

hehehe no they arent like bean bags, hahahaha!!!! your so silly! thanks alot for helping me to see how silly i am being.. its just sex, not a national debate... it should be fun, and dammit i will make it fun....



about my self esteem.. ya thats part of it, had a husband who made me feel like a lazy slob.... but thats over and done.... my man makes me feel gooooooood and i want to do the same! Thanks again all

 

[shynsexy]

lickerish

i am gald someone else knows how i feel.... its comforting

 

[freakygirl]

Licky stole my words again...

I guess I don't have anything to add..

Good Luck

 

[Random Variable]

I love a woman on top, and it has nothing to do with sub or dom. So don't listen to any of that.--I like the other positions, too.

If you feel your belly is too big, don't worry--he wouldn't be asking for it, if that were an issue for him.

Some ladies are uncomfortable because penetration can be so deep as to be uncomfortable when riding. A sad thing but common. To help this, straighten your back up a bit or use some pillows under your knees to give you more room.

There are two motions you can use once you are riding. Up and down and back and forth. Up and down is obvious. But some ladies get off by pushing their pussies back and forth in a rocking motion, grinding their clitoral areas against the man's pubic bone and the base of his cock. This is fun!

Some ladies like to ride, but lean forward, so only an inch or two of cock is in them. Then small motions, right on the frontal area of the vagina, where most of the nerves are. The guy might want bigger motions, but if he has any sense he'll lean up and kiss you, nibble your breasts, rub your hot spot and tell you how beautiful you are.

From here, you can still be on top buy lean forward, resting your hands by his shoulders, or if he is big enough on his shoulders and chest, all the while keeping only as much cock in you as you like.
Hope this helps.
R.V.

 

[lickerish]

*claps hands over mouth*

sorry freaky

 

[shynsexy]

Now i can wait for him to come over after work!!!!! THANKS so much yall!!!!!!!

 

[freakygirl]

lol.. Lickerish it's ok.. I'm not mad..

really

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I totally understand where you're coming from, shy.... I'm larger than my bf (quite a bit, actually), and I used to be VERY uncomfortable on top.. and I still am a bit.. but I just figure that eventually, I have to give in, cus I WANT to be there and I don't want to let my weight get in the way.. there are so many things that I let my weight ruin for me over the years, sex is NOT going to be one of them.

So suck it up, or suck him off, either or.. and just enjoy yourself.. he loves you, and he enjoys how you look, or else I'm sure you wouldn't be having sex as much as you do.

Hugs,
Vix

 

[Juspar Emvan]

lol.. Lickerish it's ok.. I'm not mad..

really

Just slightly insane. I used to be too, but we're better now.

 

[freakygirl]

Just slightly insane. I used to be too, but we're better now.

you are the cause of my insanity..

 

[MissTaken]

Shy~

Ya gotta make yourself feel sexy, which you are!

He is with you because of who you are and because he wants to be with you.

He finds you sexy....feel it, then act it.

Ride him, enjoy it, let him know you enjoy it by your actions and your sounds.

Lean forward and let him have your breasts...that is always sexy.

Arch your back and lean backward...that is sexy too!

Act like you are a size 5 and feel it! You can do it !

To him...you are very sexy.

When I was heavier I didn't think I was sexy....that stopped me from doing a lot of things. But then, I realized I was wrong and did exactly what I am telling you to do. New doors opened all the way around.

Good luck and enjoy

 

[shynsexy]

MissT and Vix

thanks so much for understanding! I'm not going to let this get in the way anymore! He enjoys it and i come so hard when I'm on top! I cant imagen how good it will feel if i let go totally!!!!!

 

[hatara]

Random Wow thanks hun!! I will have to try that the next time my bf visits me!!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

shynsexy

I would not worry to much about your weight and you being on top.
I am sure you b/f likes you for who you are and enjoys you.
So simply ride him and enjoy'.


Plus I don't think you are alone ... I think every woman goes through that at least once in a blue moon.

Its all good.

 

[Random Variable]

I forgot

I forgot to say that you can always turn around and ride him facing towards his legs and feet.

This has kind of the feeling of doggy style that you seem to like. You can lean backwards, arching your back (do you have long hair ) or bend forward. Use pillows under your legs to get the right depth.

You have control and you may be able to get his cock to rub your G-spot!!

If you want, you can reach in front rub your clit just the way you like. Or stroke the base of his cock while it's in you, or his balls (if he likes that)....when he gets excited, liquify your fingers and press on his Million Dollar Spot. If you're really tricky have some massage oil warmed from the microwave. Dip your fingers in this and press against the MDS.

Better make sure those stirrups are on tight, 'cause you're going to go for a ride when you do this! You might also wind up with a finger pressing down through the wall of your vagina from your ass. Could be worse!
Enjoy!
R.V.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Re: I forgot

All good advice, personally I really like to see her rump pumping up and down on my cock when she faces away from me. I've got an anal thing too, mine and her's, so the illicit fingers blow my mind.

You have control and you may be able to get his cock to rub your G-spot!!

Just about this one though, this can be achieved better by sitting on his hips, feet by his chest and leaning backwards, hands beside his knees, wriggle arround enough and if you're lucky you'll find it. Whole lot of fun even if you don't and he can stroke your clit while you try.