G.Helena's gift
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- Oct 27, 2002
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i was reading the thread about the differences between male and female subs, and a tangent there intrigued me.
As a male sub, i perceive a very distint difference in the attitudes of male subs to their female counterparts. As Ms. Eb had noted, males tend to be more eager to please. i personally tend to generally think that servitude comes easier to us men because we are already used to not having the power in the male-female sexual dynamic.
However, for me, personally, it's something different. i think there is some other force at work for me that touches upon the gender roles that society has instilled subconsciously into me.
i am not, by nature, a submissive person. In fact, i am actually a bit of a dominant personality. i am opinionated, quick to anger, and like to draw people around me. i have Dom'd in bed before, as well.
Despite all of this, though, my Mistress owns me. i have only the control She allows me... i willingly gave my power to make my own decisions to Her. i think it is because, unlike above, it runs contrary to what i want or expect.
As a sub, i do not necessarily crave pain, or being tied up. i only look forward to it because when i am receiving my spanking for misbehaving, or being bound and tormented, it reinforces that i am my Mistress's property. i may be a strong individual, but when She snaps Her fingers at the end of the day i am reminded that i am still Her toy, and the degradation that comes with that is what i crave in my submission, because it draws attention to the gift of submission i gave Her, and the gift of Domination that She gave me.
i hesitate to call it humiliation, because it doesn't have to be that extreme. Just a look can do it. A command to tell Her what i am. A menial task that puts me in my place, like offering a place to rest Her feet or simply altering my posture to display my body for Her.
This is probably a tired subject, but studying the differences between how males and females submit helped me clarify what i as a male sub find exciting in my Mistress's ownership.
Female subs, do you look for something different to create that spark of excitement? Not simply the need to serve, which all of we subs have, but that extra kink that sweetens the deal? Usually it seems that being degraded is something that most female subs merely tolerate, at best.
Dom/me's, do You ever have a conscious goal in mind besides amusement when taking Your sub down a peg or two?
As a male sub, i perceive a very distint difference in the attitudes of male subs to their female counterparts. As Ms. Eb had noted, males tend to be more eager to please. i personally tend to generally think that servitude comes easier to us men because we are already used to not having the power in the male-female sexual dynamic.
However, for me, personally, it's something different. i think there is some other force at work for me that touches upon the gender roles that society has instilled subconsciously into me.
i am not, by nature, a submissive person. In fact, i am actually a bit of a dominant personality. i am opinionated, quick to anger, and like to draw people around me. i have Dom'd in bed before, as well.
Despite all of this, though, my Mistress owns me. i have only the control She allows me... i willingly gave my power to make my own decisions to Her. i think it is because, unlike above, it runs contrary to what i want or expect.
As a sub, i do not necessarily crave pain, or being tied up. i only look forward to it because when i am receiving my spanking for misbehaving, or being bound and tormented, it reinforces that i am my Mistress's property. i may be a strong individual, but when She snaps Her fingers at the end of the day i am reminded that i am still Her toy, and the degradation that comes with that is what i crave in my submission, because it draws attention to the gift of submission i gave Her, and the gift of Domination that She gave me.
i hesitate to call it humiliation, because it doesn't have to be that extreme. Just a look can do it. A command to tell Her what i am. A menial task that puts me in my place, like offering a place to rest Her feet or simply altering my posture to display my body for Her.
This is probably a tired subject, but studying the differences between how males and females submit helped me clarify what i as a male sub find exciting in my Mistress's ownership.
Female subs, do you look for something different to create that spark of excitement? Not simply the need to serve, which all of we subs have, but that extra kink that sweetens the deal? Usually it seems that being degraded is something that most female subs merely tolerate, at best.
Dom/me's, do You ever have a conscious goal in mind besides amusement when taking Your sub down a peg or two?
