Older partners?

[drelcath]

Anyone had any bad/good experiences with older partners (of either sex)? I'm not talking disgusting extreme age differences or childhood experiences, but a somewhat older partner (still attractive, not because you have some fetish for old people *shudder*). This intrigues me, and I'd like to hear if anyone's tried it.

-dc

 

[SeaGriffin]

What do you consider older? 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? Wrote the guarantee clause when god invented dirt?

I've had partners older than me by as much as 17 years (I was in my 20s at the time), and have had partners younger than me (ergo, I was the "older" partner) by 9 years.

In all but one case, it was good (as far as I was concerned), both mentally and physically stimulating; in the 'bad' case, with one of the younger guys, he was too immature to listen and respond to my needs, thinking only of himself. But that can happen in any case, no matter the age.

 

[concrete]

2 relationships with older women..all good..still respect each other..
1 with a -10 yr age difference..never worked out,the sex was good for my EGO though...
prefer companions close to the age or demographics ..so you at least have something to talk about

 

[lovechild27]

I had relations with a man who was 27 when I was 18. It wasnt good. We were on two totally different pages even though we got along fine. I cant explain it...it just didnt work.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

I tend to date older men. But, I won't go so far as to say older is better. Reccently, I ended a relationship with someone who was 18 years older than me. I know some people would frown upon this, but it was simply an incredible relationship. It wasn't based on age. We just got along so well together. We were so compatible that most people didn't even realize that there was an age difference.

 

[MissVictoria]

When I was 18 I dated a man who was 48. He was a fabulous lover, and we got along together quite well, but he broke my heart.

There is something to be said about age difference and the practicality of an actual relationship.

 

[Tallfella]

I was 18 and lost my virginity to a lady of 36. to me it was wonderful to her it was an ego trip she was married to a man who couldn't be bothered. It only lasted a few weeks because she got scared when i talked about it in a bar. End one relationship but it was good whilst it lasted. I was married to a far younger woman and it didn't work but then for her no relationship is gonna work when her mother phones at 10.30 everynight and yacks away until gone midnight.

 

[GreenEyedGodess]

In high school I didn't like the "boys", and they didn't like me. But my teachers certainly liked me. I dated several of my teachers, and have a definite appreciation of an "older partner". By the way, they were only ten to fifteen years older, not forty.
Since then I have dated guys near my age, and now I know why an older partner is more attractive. They seem fascinated with your youth and naive innocence. Older partners in my experience treat you better.

 

[bunny bondage]

well, as my wise father has told me, it's not really the age that matters, but the different places in life that an 18yr old would be and a 30 yr old. somebody much younger is at a different place in their development as a person, and has different responsibilities. of course, this doesn't mean that it can't work out between somebody older and somebody younger! it's just something to consider.

 

[triman AZ]

older partners

I'm 48, have dated women from 51 down to 27.... but dates is the operative word here.... I dont want more children, already had the vasectomy. Could I be comfortable and happy with someone much younger? Hmmmmm, those 20 and 30something women sure look nice to me, but unless we're really compatible in lots of ways I don't think more than about 6 or 7 years is practical.


TMA

 

[MR.GGG]

Like TaAZ said.

The nice tight bods are great but sooner or later ya have to talk to her and if you're ahead of her by 20+ years the gap in interest is just too big. VERY few women in their 20s or early 30s can converse with a late 40 or 50's year old and maintain an interesting and / or compatible discourse for any length of time. ...I mean imagine a 25yr old having an interesting conversation with somebody 20 years their JUNIOR. G'luck.

 

[bunny bondage]

I mean imagine a 25yr old having an interesting conversation with somebody 20 years their JUNIOR. G'luck. [/B]

this is what i'm saying about the different stages in growth. as we get older, we grow more slowly, and therefore a twenty year gap becomes less and less signifigant the further down the timeline you get.

 

[Guest]

interesting conversation

VERY few women in their 20s or early 30s can converse with a late 40 or 50's year old and maintain an interesting and / or compatible discourse for any length of time.

I want to go on record as taking exception to this... perhaps, the problem isn't that the woman is in her 20's or early 30's, but that the "tight body" was the only criteria used to pick her in the first place... Now if all you want to talk about is retirement plans and your endoscopic , there may be a different problem.

I think the bigger issue is whether your personal desires and directions match up. For my friends the kid thing is the sticking point... he's finished raising a family and isn't excited about starting another one, she hasn't had kids yet. A couple we know has a 26 year gap, but she went into the relationship knowing that kids were not an option for them and was okay with that. They've been married for 12 years and are doing great.

 

[Guest]

I am in a relationship with an older man he being 29 and me being 19. We have had a great relationship fror the past 2 years we get along great the sex is great we talk about everything and have a lot in common. I think it really just matters who you are and what age your mind is set on. I may be 19, but I get along with older people better then younger I converse with the older crowd rather then the younger crowd. some younger women (not all) perfer older men because MOST of them are more mature, and younger guys seem to act somewhat childish. I think their is a time in everyones life where they want someone older/younger then themselves

 

[Amfig]

Age is just a number.

 

[ClubIrish]

Its the person not the age.

 

[Bandit58]

My 19 year old son is having his first relationship with a 27 year old woman. They go to the same university, he is very mature for his age and they are so happy together.

It's kinda strange but I'm also having my first real relationship.....at almost 44. My son and I chat on ICQ and we know exactly how the other is feeling. It's brought us closer since his dad and I split up.....

 

[absentminded]

When I was younger (around 18), I dated a woman who was completing Law School at the time (around 25). We could do all the normal couple stuff despite my age as I looked maybe 23 or 24. We both had similar interests and generally act on the same level (mentally and physically). We're both pretty easy going and had similar interests. All in all it was a good experience and lasted quite some time. It ended because she got a really good job a really long ways away .

Generally though, I don't think age means a whole heck of a lot. I'm currently digging on a really mature 18 year old and recently dumped a really imature 28 year old (now I'm 25). Ya like who ya like.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

When I was 19, I dated a 32 year old man and the sex was wonderful.. he was very giving. And he was very very creative, and fixated on my ass. It was fantastic!

And I was also with a 47 year old man when I was 19. I have to say, it was some of the best sex I ever had.

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

When I was 19, I dated a 32 year old man and the sex was wonderful.. he was very giving. And he was very very creative, I have to say, it was some of the best sex I ever had.

I agree with you Vixenshe, I have always prefered "older" men in the past. Currently, I am involved with MY-Sir who is only about 4 years older than myself. HE is very creative and knows how to satisify my desires. I suppose I've gotten to the age when men who of my generation are now acceptable.

I think that once a man reaches a certain age, he has aquired the knowledge to move past his own needs to that of his partner. Not saying he doesn't fulfill his needs, only that he concentrates on his partner's desires to reach fulfillment for both.

But of coarse there will always be selfish people [in both sexes] who only think of themselves and have no consideration for their mate.


-kym- anticipating MY-Sir's attentions

 

[Lust Engine]

Age & maturity are two entirely different issues. I think having common maturity levels and goals make a relationship and not the chronological age.

Now as far as MY-Sir's-k- goes this week, I think she's gonna age a little slower. Her man is in town & look out! That mushroom cloud you see in the horizon's probably the both of them getting it on.

Remember to duck & cover now.