Old boyfriends/girlfriends.

[Nomadic Lady]

I'm reading a book and this passage from it was something that made me wonder, would I or wouldn't I, if the chance arose.

What do you think about it?
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"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"

the death pit

By the way, the book isn't doing much for me. Not a recommended read but then again it's only my silly opinion.

 

[penguindance]

 

[TN_Vixen]

"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"

What if you never thought you were "shit at it" in the first place?

 

[Nomadic Lady]

TN_Vixen you said: What if you never thought you were "shit at it" in the first place?

Then I'd say that question wouldn't have even crossed your mind. It's great that you weren't shit at it. My first few times were terrible. I just lied there, the guy's probably thought they were screwing a dead corpse.

 

[tenyari]

Hmmm...

Never had an old lover complain about the sex with but one exception: the one who got pissed cause I wouldn't play without a condom.

So I guess I can't relate to that statement.

I have remet an ex before by chance in a nightclub and ended up going at it one last time. But I don't think either of us was really looking for sex that night, it was just that we realized it was all we had left.

 

[Guest]

Unique perspective....

I think I might have somewhat of a unique perspective on this situation as I currently am in the midst of forging a new relationship of sorts with my most recent ex.

When we were dating, there was never an issue with our sex life. Indeed, she offered up her virginity to me and that in itself is something that I will always treasure. But even after the first time, the sex got better. Even today, if you were to ask her, she would openly say that she had a fantastic first time with me and will always treasure it. As things progressed, we became more experimental (light bondage, role play, home movies). We were open minded enough to try anything together. That open mindedness, coupled with her honesty and trust (not to mention several other wonderful qualities about her) were all part of what made me love her as I had never before (and haven't since) loved anyone else.

Needless to say, when she left me I was devastated. Over the last two years, we maintained a loose contact with one another. Finally within the last 5 months, we began talking on a much more regular basis and have made a reconciliation of sorts. We aren't dating per se, but we have no qualms about getting together and enjoying each others company. She would be the first to admit to anyone that asked that we still have an undeniable chemistry together that is emotional, mental, and it goes without saying, physical. This has, on at least one occasion, led to us having sex again.

If I had to pick any of my exes to have sex with again, it would be her. It was as good as I remember it being when we dated. Better even, because now we were a few years older and several life experiences wiser. We still talk regularly now. We have left a decision to get back together on hold for now because of other more pressing concerns. We make no attempt to hide our feelings and mutual attraction to one another, and both of us look forward to the time when we might share a bed again.

MY point, you ask? Simple. Ex sex depends on the ex. What I mean by that is this.... As long as the two people involed approach it as they approached (or should have approached) thier relationship, with honesty about their feelings, then it can be a fairly enjoyable experience. Even if you don't get back together with that former significant other, I see no problem in allowing the smoldering embers of a once hot romance to flame up every once in awhile. Just as long as you are both open and honest with one another about what it is and what you want.

Of course, that's just my opinion. I could be wrong....

 

[dgnr8469]

unregistered?

Don't know why that came up as unregistered, but that's me that wrote that post there.....

 

[Lust Engine]

I'm reading a book and this passage from it was something that made me wonder, would I or wouldn't I, if the chance arose.

What do you think about it?
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"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"

the death pit

By the way, the book isn't doing much for me. Not a recommended read but then again it's only my silly opinion.

Oh yeah...I'd get it on with a handful of old flames. Each one brought something completely different to the bedroom. I can look back fondly & remember all of their nuances & wish I could taste them all over again. Mmmmmmm!

 

[Lost Cause]

Sweeeet.....

An old girlfriend from High School got divorced and tracked me down and called. We hadn't seen each other for about 12 years, and the sex was casual with us back then. I came over to her place for a visit in the early evening, and in about 5 minutes we were all over each other. She had been married to the same guy since school, I had alot more experience than her. We fucked, sucked, and kissed until it got light out. We settled down for a smoke and I saw that she was lightly crying. I asked her what was wrong, and she said that she had no idea how great sex was, and that she could cum as much as she did. I felt good and bad for the validation that I was good in bed, while she had been kept from really having a great sex life for 12 fucking years! We kept seeing each other until I moved away. (I think I spoiled her a little)

 

[T.H. Oughts]

There are non I would want to do again...

There was one guy I dated for over a year when I was 18 and he was 21. I hope he has learnt not to cum in the first 5 minutes for his sake.

 

[intrigued]

I'm reading a book and this passage from it was something that made me wonder, would I or wouldn't I, if the chance arose.

What do you think about it?
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"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"

the death pit

By the way, the book isn't doing much for me. Not a recommended read but then again it's only my silly opinion.

God yes...but then again, I was screwed up sexually, and it was seldom anything worth remembering. I did it for all the wrong reasons, which were mostly just to be in someones arms, to be close to them, and also in hopes that they would be the "one" to make me feel...
I would love on them so damn good, now.

 

[Soblue]

Yeah, there were a couple I'd definitely like to see again. Together, all three of us.

 

[oceanbaby28]

"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"

I've never thought of that before. Actually, never felt I needed to prove anything more to them.

 

[Trail48]

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"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"

This caused a rush of memories i was a virgin when married , so going back to think of having sex (really I would rather make love) with those from the past is quite an intrigueing idea. I would certainly want to revisit every one.
More than just once

 

[MidnightAngel]

"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"
the death pit

Yeah...

And then....I'd like to see if any of them had gotten any better.

 

[Nomadic Lady]

dgnr8469 you said:

""If I had to pick any of my exes to have sex with again, it would be her. It was as good as I remember it being when we dated. Better even, because now we were a few years older and several life experiences wiser. We still talk regularly now. We have left a decision to get back together on hold for now because of other more pressing concerns. We make no attempt to hide our feelings and mutual attraction to one another, and both of us look forward to the time when we might share a bed again.""

Well I hope the two of you get together. Such passion for each other would be a shame to be placed on the back burner for too long.
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tenyari you said:

""Never had an old lover complain about the sex with but one exception: the one who got pissed cause I wouldn't play without a condom.""

About that guy man that wouldn't wear a condom, who want's to go to bed with a man that get's upset when you ask them to wear a condom anyway. I hope you told him to hit the road.

""I have remet an ex before by chance in a nightclub and ended up going at it one last time. But I don't think either of us was really looking for sex that night, it was just that we realized it was all we had left.""

Unplanned sex is wonderful.

It good you realized that the sex is all that was left. Some people cannot face the fact (and accept and deal with it) that that is all it is and will be.
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Lust Engine you said:

""oh yeah...I'd get it on with a handful of old flames.""

As Ruth Buzzy (playing the operator) would say: "One ringy-dingy, two ringy-dingy"
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Lost Cause you said:

""I saw that she was lightly crying. I asked her what was wrong, and she said that she had no idea how great sex was, and that she could cum as much as she did. I felt good and bad for the validation that I was good in bed, while she had been kept from really having a great sex life for 12 fucking years!""

It's sad to hear when someone misses out on the joys and pleasure of wonderful sex, expecially for that long. Good to hear that you arouse that hidden passion for her. Hopefully now she is not settling for anything but.
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T.H. Oughts you said:

""There was one guy I dated for over a year when I was 18 and he was 21. I hope he has learnt not to cum in the first 5 minutes for his sake. ""

Would have to agree with you there. At the very least make sure your well taken care of in other ways before he cums.
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intrigued you said:

""God yes...but then again, I was screwed up sexually, and it was seldom anything worth remembering. I did it for all the wrong reasons, which were mostly just to be in someones arms, to be close to them, and also in hopes that they would be the "one" to make me feel...
I would love on them so damn good, now.""

It's strange how we try and find comfort in the arms of an man just so we can feel wanted and needed. Oh intrigued, in some aspects we are soooo much alike.

But thank goodness we are no longer that lost little girl. We are much stronger now and are able to hold our heads up, smile, and say "No thank you, I would rather not be with you"

intrigued you are crawling into my heart. You know and understand more about me than my own family (who I never talk to any more).
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Soblue you said:

""Yeah, there were a couple I'd definitely like to see again. Together, all three of us.""

Yoo-hoo a threesome, I haven't had one of those in ages.
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oceanbaby28 you said:

""Actually, never felt I needed to prove anything more to them.""

Not even a wee bit?
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Trail48

""I would certainly want to revisit every one.
More than just once.""

Alright!! Yoo-hoo.
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MidnightAngel you said:

""Yeah...

And then....I'd like to see if any of them had gotten any better.""

I would think most usually do with experience but who knows.
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For me personally there is only one guy from the past that I would like to revisit. He told me after having sex that my friend was better than I was, DICK-HEAD. But then again I wouldn't want to waste my energy on such a A-hole and give him the satisfaction of trying out what I have gained in sexual experience.

 

[Secret Kate]

 

[CoolidgEffect]

"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"


Actually my response is similar to SecretKate's. It isn't the ones that I had sex with that I'd like to go back in time for. Three women come to mind that I wish I could turn the clock back and handle things differently. I did not sleep with them, but looking back I think I missed some real opportunities.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I would love to show the first boy how bad he was. I swear he couldnt keep it up long enough to really get me into it and then wondered why I seemed uninterested. I see him from time to time now and I always have the urge to tell him that I had more fun with my toys after he left than while he was there with me. Not to mention we always did it the same way and in the same place and same position and everything. He was rather offended after awhile when I wanted him to spend some time on me (and I on him too) and said that I was being selfish just because he wanted sex instead.

 

[Silverluna]

Re: Sweeeet.....

An old girlfriend from High School got divorced and tracked me down and called. We hadn't seen each other for about 12 years, and the sex was casual with us back then. I came over to her place for a visit in the early evening, and in about 5 minutes we were all over each other. She had been married to the same guy since school, I had alot more experience than her. We fucked, sucked, and kissed until it got light out. We settled down for a smoke and I saw that she was lightly crying. I asked her what was wrong, and she said that she had no idea how great sex was, and that she could cum as much as she did. I felt good and bad for the validation that I was good in bed, while she had been kept from really having a great sex life for 12 fucking years! We kept seeing each other until I moved away. (I think I spoiled her a little)

SPOILED?!? good god....

 

[Silverluna]

If I knew then what i know now...

It might have been something more than it was.

 

[Silverluna]

Re: Re: Old boyfriends/girlfriends.

I've never thought of that before. Actually, never felt I needed to prove anything more to them.

that's good i guess...you don't worry about what might have been?

 

[mischeviousmisti]

i woudlnt' want to see my ex again, let alone have sex with him. he was awful, but then again so was i, he was my first and i didnt' learn anything but pain from him.

 

[calypso_21]

Right now I'd take all of them. Kidding...that would take too long.

There is one who I had some of the best nights of my life with, I'd do him again...yet another story might come out of it.

 

[oceanbaby28]

Re: Re: Re: Old boyfriends/girlfriends.

that's good i guess...you don't worry about what might have been?

Well as the original question states...

"Do you ever wish," he said slowly, "that you could go back to all your old girlfriends--boyfriends, whatever--and just shag them once, to show them that you're not shit at it anymore?"

I didn't consider myself shit in bed back then, and as for now... Like fine wine... only better with age.