okay... Vulnerability

[perks]

my nemesis.

is it a necessity to find happiness?

I don't go there. I fight it with every ounce of my being. And now I'm told that some people believe you can't truly find what you're looking for without opening yourself completely. Opening yourself to hurt. That it's okay to hurt.

BLECK!!! I don't think I want to play that game. It's ascarey.


What do you think?

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

my nemesis.

is it a necessity to find happiness?

I don't go there. I fight it with every ounce of my being. And now I'm told that some people believe you can't truly find what you're looking for without opening yourself completely. Opening yourself to hurt. That it's okay to hurt.

BLECK!!! I don't think I want to play that game. It's ascarey.


What do you think?

You are so flaming me You know I love you. That is how I believe.

I think you have to open yourself up.

You have to say...it's okay, I might get hurt.

Making yourself vulnerable doesn't make you weak, even though it may feel that way.

 

[perks]

I didn't flame you *pout* I'm serious about this.

How did I open myself up, if I'm stopping?

 

[Sixth]

is it a necessity to find happiness?

No.
You have happiness and then you loose it by worring too much.

That's easy to say but hard to deal with. It's peer pressure, social pressure and the pressure of mass media... do your best to be true to yourself and you should be happy.


Look at me. I'm happy.

I don't go there. I fight it with every ounce of my being. And now I'm told that some people believe you can't truly find what you're looking for without opening yourself completely. Opening yourself to hurt. That it's okay to hurt.

Bollocks.

Hurting is natural but it's not okay to hurt. Hurt means something went wrong. It's a clear suggestion not to do that again. Learn from what went wrong.

I don't believe in the "Open yourself" nonesense either.
What sort of idea spawns from the concept wherein you expose your vulnerablilties to someone and if they don't strike you down, then you're on to a winner?
It sounds pretty stupid to me. Unless you're hugely lucky you're bound to be struck down time and time again.

BLECK!!! I don't think I want to play that game. It's ascarey.


What do you think?

That you shouldn't be so bothered with this that you posted the message.
That I shouldn't care enough to reply.

That I only have a little drink left before I should go to bed.

 

[Summery]

Re: Re: okay... Vulnerability

Making yourself vulnerable doesn't make you weak, even though it may feel that way.

While I agree completely with this statement. I have learned (for me anyway) that having some boundaries with certain people is healthy.
I have a lot to say on this subject, but would much rather share with you off the board.

 

[Silverlily]

What do you think?

I think you are dead on correct. Opening yourself up completely only works with a perfect person and no one is perfect.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I wasn't saying to open yourself to everyone.

I thought that was obvious.

And Perfection is boring.

 

[Dillinger]

Re: Re: okay... Vulnerability

I think you have to open yourself up.

You have to say...it's okay, I might get hurt.

Making yourself vulnerable doesn't make you weak, even though it may feel that way.

Absolutely right. And I'm not talking about everyone. But I'm assuming you're equating happiness to love. You can't love - not truly - without opening yourself up. And there is risk in that. As many times as I've been hurt in my life, it has all been worth it. For that chance at love.

 

[Sixth]

And Perfection is boring.

Anyone who has the audacity to be perfect… isn’t perfect.

 

[perks]

okay, she's talking to me about a specific situation. It's a love thing.

So opening yourself up, being vulnerable in love? that's what we're talking about. Is that clearer? or do the answers change?

 

[Sixth]

Never.
Be.
Vulnerable.

 

[Silverlily]

I never said anything about everyone either. I simply do not believe you have to open yourself completely to be happy. Happiness is something I get from myself, not someone else.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

True. But I thin kwe are talking about a 'love' sort of happiness. Love transforms our physiology.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Hugs My dear Featherduster...

Do any of us really know true happiness? There is one thing I have learned a long time ago and it goes something like this, in order to know happiness we also must experience the sadness, otherwise how could we distinguish the two.

There are things in our lives we need to face and then put it in its place so it does not come back to haunt us. However, by adding layers to our pain and covering it up, the problems will resurffice somewhere down the line. Best thing to do but most difficult and painful is to face it. It is also something that you cannot force but you will realize the time you need to face it and work through it.

I do not know what is going on and will not tread but I know you and how much of a wonderful and beautiful person you are with so many gifts. I am sure you will figure out what will be best for you one way or another. That you will find your own path in whatever is haunting you. Some things are best to be left behind while others will countinue to creep in. I have faith in your judgement and I know you will figure it out.

Major hugs,
Love and Friendship Always,

Peace,
Tulip

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Never.
Be.
Vulnerable.

That. Is the saddest thing, I have ever read.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

WEll by the time I wrote my

long response in post and the meaning has changed. perky_baby it is not easy to open oneself completely to a person they love. I want to believe that it is possible, but we all put stakes at it. It is a risk. Is it a risk you are willing to take to get its benefits? That is more of a question to ask yourself.

Peace,
Tulip
Whew, glad it is a love question. Morgy you are right love does change our whole being. When it is good there is nothing else in the world that can touch you.

 

[perks]

Re: WEll by the time I wrote my

long response in post and the meaning has changed. perky_baby it is not easy to open oneself completely to a person they love. I want to believe that it is possible, but we all put stakes at it. It is a risk. Is it a risk you are willing to take to get its benefits? That is more of a question to ask yourself.

Peace,
Tulip
Whew, glad it is a love question. Morgy you are right love does change our whole being. When it is good there is nothing else in the world that can touch you.

tulip, your first post was perfect. It was so right, even for a love question.

thank you my friend.

 

[Siren]

 

[perks]

damn. I'm scared of that. But I'm copying it anyway, cause it rings true. Thanks, siren.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

vulernability means allowing yourself to be received or allowing yourself to be hurt.

It means giving up control.

It means opening up to all the possibilities.

It means being STRONG enough ( not weak enough ) to let another impact your heart and emotions.


IT MEANS TRUSTING.

without trust, you cant ever have love.

Being vulernable means opening yourself up to LOVE..........

it is worth the risk?

YOUR DAMN RIGHT IT IS,

at the end of your live, you will only regret that which you dont do or try........but never that which you opened yourself up to experience.

VULERNABLE MEANS LIVING.---NOT EXISTING.

Thank you. Yet, another reason why I like you so much. You found the words I wasn't able to, to express myself.

 

[nakedangelina]

Perky, yes, I do believe that you must open yourself completely with "true" love. I think you can love someone very much without opening up, in which case the real bliss is not achieved. It takes a matter of time, slowly building trust and breaking down walls. I have only been this open with a couple of men in my life, one of which broke my heart. Today I still believe the same things I did, I am just a little more cautious about letting myself go. I agree with Dillinger, it is worth the risk.

 

[Siren]

 

[perks]

yes, my reaction to vulnerability is because of horrid history. I don't think I'm ready for that kind of pain. And you have to be ready for it to get the good stuff right?

yes, very scared<crossing out scared, writing petrified>

 

[Siren]

 

[Siren]