Okay. I am an asshole.

[MissTaken]

Yep! That's me. I am an asshole, first class.

I was supposed to have had dinner with someone today.
I was supposed to have gotten back to him with arrangements.
I waited until 4 o clock this afternoon to do so.
Yep. My late notice meant that we couldn't meet until it was too late.
So, plans are being postponed. I feel bad.

I am an asshole.

Now, I know, that I am not the only asshole at lit.

Speak up. What was the last or most assholish thing you have done lately?

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I guess my " ass hole " moment is some what similiar to yours...
I was suppose to meet up with this one guy, he really liked me and while I thought he was nice I did not think about him in that manner.

Needless to say we said we would arrange to meet. He was going to drive 4 hrs to come see me. I was suppose to call him before I left a festivel I was at ... well I waited till the very last minute and I called his cell. I got his voice message & I told him I could not meet him because my friend got us tickets to a comedy show that night.

Well he was out of range when I called & the thing was , he was already in my city when I called ... so he ended up driving 4 hrs for nothing...

I did feel bad - but then again I am thinking it was his fault for leaving early ... he was suppose to leave when I called him and said it was time.

 

[lilminx]

Someone was supposed to call me lastnight, and I told them to IM me when they were going to call. I had decided to take a short little nap, and ended up sleeping for the whole night!

I felt like such an asshole when I woke up at 6:00 this morning.

 

[TWB]

Oh honey, the world owes you a couple late - get - back - to - you calls. Give yourself a big fat break. You deserve it.

You are not an asshole.

Love and kisses,

TWB

 

[riff]

If I confessed it, I would only be an asshole all over again.

 

[MissTaken]

Riff,

Somehow, I imagine you saying to whomever you were assholish too...."Sorry. I am an asshole."



I did essentially that and was easily forgiven. A good guy...

What about you , minx and aphrodisiac? Were your friends understanding?

 

[Kelly_Liscious]

Psst... you are not an asshole.. don't even say such a thing...

 

[MissTaken]

Aww you are sweet, Kelly.

Thank you.


Fortunately, there are some forgiving men out there.

 

[lilminx]

I did essentially that and was easily forgiven. A good guy...

What about you , minx and aphrodisiac? Were your friends understanding?

I'm glad to hear you were forgiven.

As for me, he called tonight, so I guess he wasn't too pissed off- lol.

 

[erosman]

The details I'll spare you, but you can be sure that my assholishness was shown towards the people closest to me. That is awkward. Rarely will I treat a total stranger with the sort disrespect that I carelessly dish out to my family.

Fortunately, they forgive me.



Hi, MissT

 

[nasty]

I'd like to see your asshole. And, yes. I mean it in THAT way.

 

[MissTaken]

The details I'll spare you, but you can be sure that my assholishness was shown towards the people closest to me. That is awkward. Rarely will I treat a total stranger with the sort disrespect that I carelessly dish out to my family.

Fortunately, they forgive me.



Hi, MissT

Hi erosman,
As usual, you struck a chord with me. It is true....I would have to admit being more disrespectful or assholish to family. Hmm is it because I know that I am forgiven, all the time? Is it because we lose some sensitivity for other's feelings when we are with them often or all the time?

Geesh...now I have about five more examples of chronic assholism to add.



Well maybe not so many....but , thinking!

hugs, erosman...

 

[Lauren Hynde]

The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right time, but also to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.

I've been having a hell of a time forcing myself the latter...

Today I reached an all time low...

(can't really tell you the detail as it would make me sink even lower in the ass-hole scale)

 

[Wiggles]

The first thing that comes to mind is something that's been bothering me. My little sister has visitation with my step-dad. Today was the first day, they're scheduled every other Saturday for eight hours. My Mom wanted me to be the superviser. To hold the visits over at my apartment, because of disagreements with their family she doesn't trust my step-grandmother to hold them. I told her I couldn't do it. I don't feel like I need that responsibility, and frankly I just don't want to. But I still feel like an asshole for saying no, because I know she really wanted me to do it.

The second is on Lit. There's been a person who's been writing me very nice PM's and I've left him hanging for a few days. Not because I don't wish to respond. I just don't feel like I have anything creative to say right now. But, I'm an asshole for not even telling him this.

That's all I can think of right now.

 

[MissTaken]

Well, Wiggles,

As for your pm's , hopefully your friend will read this thread.


With your family, it can be so hard when responsibility needs to be divvied out. We can't always say yes and supervising visits is a big responsibility.

I wouldn't call that assholism....

 

[JazzManJim]

I pretty much find a way every day to be an asshole. I don't really try to do it. I just seem to have a natural talent for it, apparently.

 

[lilminx]

I'm being an asshole right now by not responding to a PM a friend sent me. I'ts just that I'm really pissed off/hurt by this person, and I don't want to say (type) anything I might regret.

 

[Sillyman]

Last time I really felt like an asshole was when I responded to Ishmael's thread. I think I was stupid and hurtful over something that was just meant as a joke.

 

[erosman]

Today I reached an all time low...

(can't really tell you the detail as it would make me sink even lower in the ass-hole scale)

Those lows can be so lonely. The inner torture that we attempt to dismiss. But to know regret, is a beginning in itself.



and...Hugs back to you MissT.
It seems that the closer we get to anyone, the more we need the element of forgiveness. Remember the little 'love is...' sayings of a couple decades back? 'Love is...never having to say your sorry.' I have to chuckle at that now. There is an element of truth, but practically speaking, the intimacy of a relationship reflects our vulnerability, and with vulnerability comes opportunity to feel pain. Assholishness is just egocentricity, and when we let the 'self' monster out of its cage, someone feels the pain. Hopefully they love us enough to yield forgiveness to us in the wake of our assholishness, and thereby extinguish the self-destructive meltdown. Of course, sometimes a bitch slap helps, too.

i've been waiting for the phone to ring...

 

[MissTaken]

Last time I really felt like an asshole was when I responded to Ishmael's thread. I think I was stupid and hurtful over something that was just meant as a joke.

Yes, sillyman...I am so glad we got to clear that up. I don't know you well and wasn't sure how to take your posts.

Thanks for explaining.....

 

[MissTaken]

Those lows can be so lonely. The inner torture that we attempt to dismiss. But to know regret, is a beginning in itself.



and...Hugs back to you MissT.
It seems that the closer we get to anyone, the more we need the element of forgiveness. Remember the little 'love is...' sayings of a couple decades back? 'Love is...never having to say your sorry.' I have to chuckle at that now. There is an element of truth, but practically speaking, the intimacy of a relationship reflects our vulnerability, and with vulnerability comes opportunity to feel pain. Assholishness is just egocentricity, and when we let the 'self' monster out of its cage, someone feels the pain. Hopefully they love us enough to yield forgiveness to us in the wake of our assholishness, and thereby extinguish the self-destructive meltdown. Of course, sometimes a bitch slap helps, too.

i've been waiting for the phone to ring...

Erosman!

Love means being able to and knowing when you are sorry! I never agreed with that particular epithat.

If you need to talk...pm me. hugs