Okay fellas...

[Guest]

Care to help me restore my faith in your gender?

I've been down in the dumps a lot lately, and had been pulling myself back out of it for a while there, but I feel myself slipping back in.

I'm tired of talking about my man and what a dick he is. At least in my mind, I need to get over that and move on. (I still feel my body isn't ready to pick up and go.)

So, can any of you wonderful men out there help me restore that faith?

Feel free to post here, PM me, E-mail me...whatver...and we can chat about whatever, too.

 

[Lets have fun]

we dont listen all the time...........
we dont do our part around the house...........
we dress funny...........

but when you find the right one
the one who you will over see all of that for

it will show you why you hurt, why you had to go through all of this

you have to tast life and all it has, to find out how good it tast,

when it stops hurting,
and you give up on us men.....................
thats the time to worry, for now, i hate to say it
its part of life. remember most of us have been there. i for one have and now i look back and smile

so my advice to you, is to do just that
smile
and have some fun.........

and pease give us at least one more chance

 

[TheCyberPoet]

Care to help me restore my faith in your gender?

I've been down in the dumps a lot lately, and had been pulling myself back out of it for a while there, but I feel myself slipping back in.

I'm tired of talking about my man and what a dick he is. At least in my mind, I need to get over that and move on. (I still feel my body isn't ready to pick up and go.)

So, can any of you wonderful men out there help me restore that faith?

Hey, Blessed...

you've read my postings over the year(s) and know who I am (at least in passing), and let me say now that NOT every man on the planet is the same kind that caused you the pain that you went through. I am sorry to hear of your emotional plight, and can relate very well, having been down that road before as the victim. Having been there, I was very fortunate that a friend flew in from Germany and helped me pick up the pieces -- and I'm going to give you the same advice that saved me back then:

1. Go and 'do'. It doesn't matter what you do, but you need to get out and do things with others continuously to fill up your hours and keep your hands busy. The most dull event surrounded by others is better for you than the most interesting evening of sitting at home alone in pain.

2. Realize that other people like you for who/what you are (you'll get feedback to this end if you get out and just 'do', as people are around you will let you know this).

3. Just because some idiot started to overlook your good qualities doesn't change the fact that you still have them within you (and no, we're not all blind to your good qualities).

That's really it...
Oh, and feel free to seek me out if you care to
=-= The CyberPoet

 

[Guest]

when it stops hurting,
and you give up on us men.....................
thats the time to worry, for now, i hate to say it
its part of life.

You are so right. Thank you.

 

[Guest]

Let me say now that NOT every man on the planet is the same kind that caused you the pain that you went through.

Yes, I know this. I know not all men are assholes. I'm a firm believer against stereotypes.

I'm going to give you the same advice that saved me back then:

1. Go and 'do'. It doesn't matter what you do, but you need to get out and do things with others continuously to fill up your hours and keep your hands busy. The most dull event surrounded by others is better for you than the most interesting evening of sitting at home alone in pain.

2. Realize that other people like you for who/what you are (you'll get feedback to this end if you get out and just 'do', as people are around you will let you know this).

3. Just because some idiot started to overlook your good qualities doesn't change the fact that you still have them within you (and no, we're not all blind to your good qualities).

Thank You.

 

[wolfdiver52]

Hi sexy

You are still as hot as the first time I saw your pics. I think we all make choices which may not seem to work out and far be it from me to give someone as sexy as you advice.
I have had so many things lately make me ask why me? I hit the bottom and got counseling which helped me turn the corner but lately again I seem to be asking why me?
Must be more to life than work and sleep or should be? I'm not asking for anything as your're just a kid but want you to know I've written to you before and you are a good person who has so much to offer. You help many new Lit. members, you're gorgeous, and sexy that's a given, so what's the problem? As a girl you can pick and choose that's the greatest feature of being a girl, yes, you have all the other assets too...... but mostly you hold all the cards. My 7y/o daughter says it best girls rule boys drool and that's at 7.
So while old enough to be your dad I look at you as an equal and am always here to chat if you want to about anything, awhile back you made me wish I was a ferret to , lol , so keep that sexy chin up and keep smiling and if I can help in anyway just let me know. Whitesnake says it best "Here I go again" love that song missed their concert in GR, MI the 21st but I was there in spirit as I was in person when I first saw them in Alpine Valley, WI with Great White a long time ago and cherish that as I was happy back then and want that again someday. Wishing you the best sexy have a great spring you're always welcum in MI they could use a celebrity visitor like you. Take care cutie.

 

[fingers_larue]

hope this helps

How bout a big kiss.....with no expectations!


A nice long full massage.....just for fun!


I'll make you breakfast......cause I can!


We both take the day off......and go to the lake!


We have a nice talk....about the things you want!


I admit to my mistakes....if we have that much time!!!!!


I love you as a person..... and treat you like a gift!

 

[Guest]

You are still as hot as the first time I saw your pics. I think we all make choices which may not seem to work out and far be it from me to give someone as sexy as you advice.
I have had so many things lately make me ask why me? I hit the bottom and got counseling which helped me turn the corner but lately again I seem to be asking why me?
Must be more to life than work and sleep or should be? I'm not asking for anything as your're just a kid but want you to know I've written to you before and you are a good person who has so much to offer. You help many new Lit. members, you're gorgeous, and sexy that's a given, so what's the problem? As a girl you can pick and choose that's the greatest feature of being a girl, yes, you have all the other assets too...... but mostly you hold all the cards. My 7y/o daughter says it best girls rule boys drool and that's at 7.
So while old enough to be your dad I look at you as an equal and am always here to chat if you want to about anything, awhile back you made me wish I was a ferret to , lol , so keep that sexy chin up and keep smiling and if I can help in anyway just let me know. Whitesnake says it best "Here I go again" love that song missed their concert in GR, MI the 21st but I was there in spirit as I was in person when I first saw them in Alpine Valley, WI with Great White a long time ago and cherish that as I was happy back then and want that again someday. Wishing you the best sexy have a great spring you're always welcum in MI they could use a celebrity visitor like you. Take care cutie.

All I have to say is "wow"! <Giggles.> I am speachless! You are such a sweet man, and being old enough to be my father is NOT a bad thing! In fact, I've prefered it often times enough. (And think my man is "too young" since he's only 3 years older...lol)

Please, feel free to mail or PM me if you want!

on cheek.

 

[Guest]

How bout a big kiss.....with no expectations!


A nice long full massage.....just for fun!


I'll make you breakfast......cause I can!


We both take the day off......and go to the lake!


We have a nice talk....about the things you want!


I admit to my mistakes....if we have that much time!!!!!


I love you as a person..... and treat you like a gift!

That sounds devine!

And you're cute.

(IF grown men can be "cute". Giggles...)

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Life is too short to worry about jerks...

You know what the most insideous part of knowing a dick is? The transfer of fault from them to "us." We start feeling like we have something wrong with US if the idiot does or says something cruel or with bad intent. Because we are so approachable and usually upbeat and positive, we cannot understand the mental workings of those that do idioitic things or take actions that hurt. Since we can't fathom the WHY of the situation, we usually default to examining ourselves to find a reason. So, those very people that typically try to not hurt people and be kind, end up hurting themselves by being overly critical as they self-examine what possible role they could have played in the idiot's antics.

While I would never claim to be normal, I think I am safe in saying that normal people tend to do the following:

Think about their actions and how it might be viewed by others,

Aplogize when our unintentional actions may have hurt someone else,

Try to find things we can do to make the person in our lives feel better about themselves and fulfilled in their lives by being with us,

Try to ensure that laughter and play are a part of our way of living life,

Try to make sure that when having sex, we are considerate of our partner and their needs and try to do the best we can in making them feel loved and special as we attempt to please them.

My guess is that you are "normal" by my definition and have only stumbled upon a dick. rest assurered that there are millions more of "us" than there are of "him" in the world. The person who best portrays the things I wrote about is not doubt rounding the corner and soon to enter your life.

My suggestion? Dump his memory like a bad dream and start feeling uplifted by the fact the man you really DO want is right around the corner. Don't miss that man because of stewing over the previous one!

 

[illinois_guy2]

Hi BlessedBe

We have posted together on some other threads, and I am starting to think that we share a lot of the same frustrations. In some of my other posts, my talking of my unhappiness with my lack of a sex life along with the sometimes blatant come-ons to the ladies of Literotica may make me appear to be a poor candidate to restore your faith in the gender. However, I used to think that I was an honorable, nice guy with the best on intentions - and down deep I still think that I am that same guy. (Unfortunately, sexual frustration has led me to have some less than honorable intentions - such as being willing to cheat on my wife). I know that there are lots of guys who would be great role models for the gender. Don't give up on the whole male race just because you haven't found the best specimen at this time.

I hope I can make it to the Rockford Litogether (unfortunately, I think my chances of making it are less than 50-50). I really would enjoy the chance to talk to you and get to know you better. And I promise that I am able to put aside blatant come-ons long enough to be an understanding listener or shoulder to cry on.

 

[Diamondjim69]

Hug and a kiss from Jim

How about restoring your faith ijn romance?

Come play in my thread for a bit.
Kiss and a Hug
Jim

 

[Guest]

Re: Life is too short to worry about jerks...

You know what the most insideous part of knowing a dick is? The transfer of fault from them to "us." We start feeling like we have something wrong with US if the idiot does or says something cruel or with bad intent. Because we are so approachable and usually upbeat and positive, we cannot understand the mental workings of those that do idioitic things or take actions that hurt. Since we can't fathom the WHY of the situation, we usually default to examining ourselves to find a reason. So, those very people that typically try to not hurt people and be kind, end up hurting themselves by being overly critical as they self-examine what possible role they could have played in the idiot's antics.

My suggestion? Dump his memory like a bad dream and start feeling uplifted by the fact the man you really DO want is right around the corner. Don't miss that man because of stewing over the previous one!

Thank you. Everything you say is true, and I do know it, I just guess the heart makes "blind love" strong.

 

[Guest]

Where the hell were ya last night!! I had a special "ad" for Illinois men as well.

(Unfortunately, sexual frustration has led me to have some less than honorable intentions - such as being willing to cheat on my wife).

I know what you mean there. I have throught about cheating on my boyfriend a lot, to be honest, but haven't acted upon it.

I know that there are lots of guys who would be great role models for the gender. Don't give up on the whole male race just because you haven't found the best specimen at this time.

I know. And I'm not...yet. I have some wonderful friends who are males so I know not all of them are like my past three boyfriends in a row (including the current). I guess I'm just in a rut of attracting dicks...and not in the fun way.

I hope I can make it to the Rockford Litogether (unfortunately, I think my chances of making it are less than 50-50). I really would enjoy the chance to talk to you and get to know you better. And I promise that I am able to put aside blatant come-ons long enough to be an understanding listener or shoulder to cry on.

I hope you can make it too!!! I look forward to meeting so many people from the area and it would be wonderful to meet you, too.

 

[Guest]

Re: Hug and a kiss from Jim

How about restoring your faith in romance?

Come play in my thread for a bit.
Kiss and a Hug
Jim

Romance is always good too. Though I usually don't join "long, long threads" unless I was there close to their beginning.

 

[BobDogwood]

Okay fellas

You were kind enough to answer a question for me the other night. I would be happy to be in any sort of communication with you that you would like in any kind of relationship that you deem appropriate. I'm fifty-five years old and recently (please don't laugh) went through an intense online romance with a young woman who eventually tore out my heart and stomped it into little pieces. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with her and allowed myself to experience emotions that I thought were long dead. Now I find myself unable to close them back off again. Needless to say I'm still terrifically depressed over this and it happened last August. I have one super online friend who actually saved my life literally through that period by talking with me for hours but she has finally been able to develop a life of her own now and I am now alone. I am a former counselor (not relationship though). I say former because I don't plan on going back to it but I am aware of emotions and behaviors. I'm not volunteering to help you, but we might be able to help each other. I hope you feel better soon. BobDogwood

 

[Guest]

I'm fifty-five years old and recently (please don't laugh) went through an intense online romance with a young woman who eventually tore out my heart and stomped it into little pieces. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with her and allowed myself to experience emotions that I thought were long dead. Now I find myself unable to close them back off again. Needless to say I'm still terrifically depressed over this and it happened last August. I have one super online friend who actually saved my life literally through that period by talking with me for hours but she has finally been able to develop a life of her own now and I am now alone.

Hi. I know how you feel. I've been there before, and I think everyone who has experienced the net has gone through this at least once in their life. (To many, the net is simply a place to be anonymous and to get off with the help of others... But to some it is a place to potentially meet friends and lovers just like any other location out there.)

I'd say, to you, don't give up on love. Even if it wasn't the net, we all take chances in life. We open our hearts and our lives to others. Sometimes we fail and sometimes we succeed.

And as long as we have friends, we are truly never alone. I have no friends in person. I know no one in this town even though I have lived here since last Sept. now. I have been out with my man and his friends only twice now, and when thrust into unknown situations I am very shy and quiet. (Not a good quality when at a bar.) But, I have friends I have met online. People who are dear to me and whom I love. And, with them in my life, no matter what else happens to me, I am not alone.

 

[TheCyberPoet]

I have some wonderful friends who are males so I know not all of them are like my past three boyfriends in a row (including the current). I guess I'm just in a rut of attracting dicks...and not in the fun way.

BlessedBe,

Find someone who knows you personally, and get them to write a personal ad for you. The qualities that that person sees are the same as those that others will see (and rarely are the same attributes that you tend to think of yourself as having). Don't kibitz on the content, just ask someone you trust to do it, and then watch what happens. I've done this for several friends over the years, and it has always worked out wonderfully...

Heads Up, Little One...
=-= The CyberPoet

 

[BobDogwood]

Okay fellas

Thank you for your very kind words. I can tell you're a very sweet person. I'm a latecomer to online and I never would have believed that it was possible to fall in love online and I think the worse thing was I never even got to meet her in real life. I just saw pictures and of course we talked many times on the phone. In fact the beginning of the end of our relationship was when she changed her mind about me visiting her. I know what you mean about bars, but for another reason - I'm a recovering alcoholic and I have no business in bars. Sure, I can go order ginger ale or whatever, but it is just not a good idea for me to be around a place where it is easy to say to hell with it and order a drink - particularly now as depressed as I feel. And I would never meet anybody but a cop if I started drinking again. I have friends but they're married with families and they don't have much time for me plus only one of them even knows about my relationship and he really doesnt want to hear about it so I just go around them and act happy and then come home and be miserable. It's easier to just stay here in the first place. But the worst is (and I bet you can relate to this) is that I just keep going around and around with it - I never seem to make any progess in moving on. I think I have for awhile and then something hits me and I'm right back at the beginning - it just gets so frustrating after awhile. Sorry about turning your thread into a rant. I won't anymore, I promise. Bob Dogwood

 

[Guest]

...I just go around them and act happy and then come home and be miserable. It's easier to just stay here in the first place. But the worst is (and I bet you can relate to this) is that I just keep going around and around with it - I never seem to make any progess in moving on. I think I have for awhile and then something hits me and I'm right back at the beginning - it just gets so frustrating after awhile.

Yes, I know what you mean. Very much so.

 

[dino32822]

TIMES 12
A DOZONS RED ROSES FOR YOU !!!!!!!

First thing to do is think about you. You need to think about you and only you. You are important to alot of people. Alot of people care about you. You need to make your self happy first, then try to move on. Its very hard to do, but if your try you can do it. Make your self happy then you wont have to act happy when your with friends. If this one didn't work out then it was not to be! The right one will come, and then it will be heaven 24/7.... Things happen for a reason. Love can hurt real bad,and love can be the most wonderful thing. THESE ARE MY OPINONS ONLY.You are a beautyful,smart,sweet,careing person...Dont let that get away! Dont give up on us guys. Some really do care. Hope this helps. If you need to talk , I;m here to listen. so smile

 

[Carnus]

Well,,, After having read all that is said, there is only one thing I can truly think of to help you restore your faith in our gender.

We love you and without you would die alone, might be still in the garden of Eden, but without the love and companionship of a woman, it would only have been a place to live by joining us there you made it a home and a place to cherish forever.

Patrick

 

[Guest]

TIMES 12
A DOZONS RED ROSES FOR YOU !!!!!!!

First thing to do is think about you. You need to think about you and only you. You are important to alot of people. Alot of people care about you. You need to make your self happy first, then try to move on. Its very hard to do, but if your try you can do it. Make your self happy then you wont have to act happy when your with friends. If this one didn't work out then it was not to be! The right one will come, and then it will be heaven 24/7.... Things happen for a reason. Love can hurt real bad,and love can be the most wonderful thing. THESE ARE MY OPINONS ONLY.You are a beautyful,smart,sweet,careing person...Dont let that get away! Dont give up on us guys. Some really do care. Hope this helps. If you need to talk , I;m here to listen. so smile

Such wisdom from a newbie!

Thank you very much for the kind words. You are so sweet!

 

[Guest]

Well,,, After having read all that is said, there is only one thing I can truly think of to help you restore your faith in our gender.

We love you and without you would die alone, might be still in the garden of Eden, but without the love and companionship of a woman, it would only have been a place to live by joining us there you made it a home and a place to cherish forever.

Patrick

That is soooo sweet! It's always nice to know there are men like you in this world!

Thank you!

 

[illinois_guy2]

Where the hell were ya last night!! I had a special "ad" for Illinois men as well.

Still looking for that ad. Where is it?


I know what you mean there. I have throught about cheating on my boyfriend a lot, to be honest, but haven't acted upon it.

I havn't actually acted on it yet. I have reached the point that I am willing, but have not actually done it yet.


I hope you can make it too!!! I look forward to meeting so many people from the area and it would be wonderful to meet you, too.

The pleasure would be all mine.