Now that your not new what have you learned?

[snoozebutton]

I always see a lot of new people once or a few times, they introduce theirselves and then return to lurk mode. I'm curious to see how many are still here. Have you formed any friendships? Did you try anything you saw here? Did reading the boards here change you from sub to Dom or vice virsa or to a switch. Come on back and fill us in on how you've changed.

 

[Rantalith]

Well I guess I qualify as a new person. I have met a few people here. I am not lurking, I just can not follow all the threads and keep up.

I do not think that it has changed me in anyway.

 

[D's mariposa]

All these questions..

Yes I've made some new friends, and learned a bit. We haven't tried too much of the new stuff; but D's all intrigued by the chain trick.. Being here hasn't changed my orietation at all; but I love getting all the different opinions and viewpoints.

 

[snoozebutton]

Good to see you've made friends. There are a lot of threads and I must say I learn a lot from different perspectives.

 

[snoozebutton]

All these questions..

Yes I've made some new friends, and learned a bit. We haven't tried too much of the new stuff; but D's all intrigued by the chain trick.. Being here hasn't changed my orietation at all; but I love getting all the different opinions and viewpoints.

Now Des brought a chain to the beach and she said it was cold and it kind of intrigued her but you may want to ask her lol.

 

[Etoile]

It's funny, although I registered many years ago I haven't been very active. I've been trying to speak up a lot more lately. So far I don't think I've made many friends, just one or two. Being here hasn't changed me, but I do like some of the insights I read.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I've been on Lit for just over a year. In that time-span, I not only discovered that I am a submissive, but rather recently discovered that I am capable of switching. While I still feel more comfortable in a submissive role, I do enjoy being the dominant partner, with the right person. It's been something of a confusing journey thus far, and I have a lot more reading, and experiencing to do. And I truly hope the best for myself in my journies in the lifestyle... and I do hope the best for others as they journey in, and live in the lifestyle.

I've learned that submission is an integral part of my personality. I've learned that it is a 24/7 thing, though I do not live in a D/s relationship.. I still seek to serve my partner, by giving of myself. I have learned, about domination, that it gives me an adrenaline rush, as I understand what it is for a submissive to give of themselves, and because it is still new and different to me.

So much learning to do... *grin* I look forward to it.

 

[snoozebutton]

It's funny, although I registered many years ago I haven't been very active. I've been trying to speak up a lot more lately. So far I don't think I've made many friends, just one or two. Being here hasn't changed me, but I do like some of the insights I read.

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It's not the quantity of friends but the quality. I look forward to more of your views.

 

[snoozebutton]

I've been on Lit for just over a year. In that time-span, I not only discovered that I am a submissive, but rather recently discovered that I am capable of switching. While I still feel more comfortable in a submissive role, I do enjoy being the dominant partner, with the right person. It's been something of a confusing journey thus far, and I have a lot more reading, and experiencing to do. And I truly hope the best for myself in my journies in the lifestyle... and I do hope the best for others as they journey in, and live in the lifestyle.

I've learned that submission is an integral part of my personality. I've learned that it is a 24/7 thing, though I do not live in a D/s relationship.. I still seek to serve my partner, by giving of myself. I have learned, about domination, that it gives me an adrenaline rush, as I understand what it is for a submissive to give of themselves, and because it is still new and different to me.

So much learning to do... *grin* I look forward to it.

Glad to see you found the fit that makes you whole.

 

[TantaLiza]

i've been at Lit quite a while now... i tend to lurk here (BDSM) more than post....i've made many aquaintances and friendships to boot. As for D/s.... i've learned much and still have room to continue. my submissive nature is ingrained and no matter who i'm with, it's there to many degrees. i've learned that i have somewhat of an exhibitionist side and my self-confidence has risen leaps and bounds.... i hope to continue on this path of self-discovery!!

Thank You....

 

[Goddess Helena]

* peeks in *

I still come in and look around once in a while. I am/was friendly with a couple of people here. I did learn a great deal in my time as an active poster.
This place reminded me of why I am a Domme.


Helena

 

[Desdemona]

OK, I'm not that new but this place did change me. I go back to the days on the How To board when we just had one BDSM thread. At that time, I was greatly intrigued by the lifestyle but scared to act on my desires. Over time, I've made friends here, accepted my submissive nature and learned alot. I learn every time I come on the board, even if I'm just lurking.


Oh, BTW Master, that chain was cold, but what you did with it felt great!!

 

[snoozebutton]

i've been at Lit quite a while now... i tend to lurk here (BDSM) more than post....i've made many aquaintances and friendships to boot. As for D/s.... i've learned much and still have room to continue. my submissive nature is ingrained and no matter who i'm with, it's there to many degrees. i've learned that i have somewhat of an exhibitionist side and my self-confidence has risen leaps and bounds.... i hope to continue on this path of self-discovery!!

Thank You....

Great to hear that you've learned and grown so much.

 

[snoozebutton]

* peeks in *

I still come in and look around once in a while. I am/was friendly with a couple of people here. I did learn a great deal in my time as an active poster.
This place reminded me of why I am a Domme.


Helena

Well I hope the need arises again and you post more as I like learning a new way of seeing a problem or solution.

 

[snoozebutton]

OK, I'm not that new but this place did change me. I go back to the days on the How To board when we just had one BDSM thread. At that time, I was greatly intrigued by the lifestyle but scared to act on my desires. Over time, I've made friends here, accepted my submissive nature and learned alot. I learn every time I come on the board, even if I'm just lurking.


Oh, BTW Master, that chain was cold, but what you did with it felt great!!

 

[BlondGirl]

I have certainly improved myself since I have begun coming to Lit.
I have developed a very dear, close personal friendship with Cellis. (And, contrary to various innuendoes, we are not romantically involved or even physically involved in an unromantic way.)
I have learned all kinds of things to try and have become much more comfortable with my sexuality and my adventures into SM.
When I read about some interesting activity here, I cut-n-paste it to my fave lover--for future reference.
I have a desire to top, and my comfort with that is reinforced here even though I have not had the chance to really explore that.
And, of course, I have enjoyed the development of this from the single Mother Thread to the entire board with a life all its own. Witnessing others' POV's as they grow sexually has a pleasure all its own. (But I will admit to sometimes wanting to grab a few individuals here and shake them while yelling to "GET REALLLLLL!!!!!!!")
Overall, I think I have been entertained here more than any other place on the net.

 

[snoozebutton]

I have certainly improved myself since I have begun coming to Lit.
I have developed a very dear, close personal friendship with Cellis. (And, contrary to various innuendoes, we are not romantically involved or even physically involved in an unromantic way.)
I have learned all kinds of things to try and have become much more comfortable with my sexuality and my adventures into SM.
When I read about some interesting activity here, I cut-n-paste it to my fave lover--for future reference.
I have a desire to top, and my comfort with that is reinforced here even though I have not had the chance to really explore that.
And, of course, I have enjoyed the development of this from the single Mother Thread to the entire board with a life all its own. Witnessing others' POV's as they grow sexually has a pleasure all its own. (But I will admit to sometimes wanting to grab a few individuals here and shake them while yelling to "GET REALLLLLL!!!!!!!")
Overall, I think I have been entertained here more than any other place on the net.

Glad to see you enjoy it here and I find it facinating that exposure has awakened your desire to Top.

 

[dragonlace]

Since being here on lit, i have met people and learned quite a bit about myself and my wants and desires. I have always known i was submissive but my submissive side has grown and changed and expanded from all my learning over the time i have spent here. Its also really nice to have a place where one can talk to others in the lifestyle and learn and grow within the lifestyle. In my everyday life its hard because i know very few people who would understand how it feels to be a submissive/slave. Most of my friends accept it of me but don't understand it. Just being able to talk to someone who has been there makes lit a wonderful place for me.

 

[watergirl]

I can't say that I'm more open-minded, because I think I always have been very accepting of the fact that different people have different kinks. But, being at Lit has introduced me to a whole lot of new ideas and practices, and I haven't fled screaming - so that is reassuring.

I'm not a true submissive, but I identify somewhat with what Vixie said in her post about learning. My mom did raise me to be strong and independent, and I've had a hang up for a long time that I don't ask for help, don't rely on others, and if I want it done right, it will have to be done myself, or I will have to hawk over whomever is doing the task... And over the last year, I've been working on that.

I'm learning to let people do nice things for me, and enjoy it - everything from holding the umbrella to going down on me, cooking for me, carrying heavy things - all sorts of stuff. I'm not becoming a delicate wilting flower of southern belleness. But, I am learning to be more able to give and receive, and not be so cut off from people. Even my ex, of five years and I - we coexisted more than we shared, sometimes.

Who knows where the next few years will take me? It's a long way off, but I like where I am right now. Still busy with work most of the time, but I've found my joy in my work again - it got lost in the bullshit for a good several months a couple years ago.

I've made some friends here, I am more of a lurker than a poster - but several people lately have sounded like sisters to me in spirit, and I really admire those who are able to write lengthy, personal, intelligent responses to serious subjects - it makes me consider myself in a way that I need.

And I'm more able to talk about, and share, things like toys and spankings and being tied up, and all kinds of stuff. There are still a lot of things I want to experience that I haven't yet... and I think that list won't shrink. As things get crossed off, others will be added. And that's how life should be.

 

[Etoile]

It's not the quantity of friends but the quality. I look forward to more of your views.

Eeeek. Wow. Thank you.

 

[snoozebutton]

I can't say that I'm more open-minded, because I think I always have been very accepting of the fact that different people have different kinks. But, being at Lit has introduced me to a whole lot of new ideas and practices, and I haven't fled screaming - so that is reassuring.

I'm not a true submissive, but I identify somewhat with what Vixie said in her post about learning. My mom did raise me to be strong and independent, and I've had a hang up for a long time that I don't ask for help, don't rely on others, and if I want it done right, it will have to be done myself, or I will have to hawk over whomever is doing the task... And over the last year, I've been working on that.

I'm learning to let people do nice things for me, and enjoy it - everything from holding the umbrella to going down on me, cooking for me, carrying heavy things - all sorts of stuff. I'm not becoming a delicate wilting flower of southern belleness. But, I am learning to be more able to give and receive, and not be so cut off from people. Even my ex, of five years and I - we coexisted more than we shared, sometimes.

Who knows where the next few years will take me? It's a long way off, but I like where I am right now. Still busy with work most of the time, but I've found my joy in my work again - it got lost in the bullshit for a good several months a couple years ago.

I've made some friends here, I am more of a lurker than a poster - but several people lately have sounded like sisters to me in spirit, and I really admire those who are able to write lengthy, personal, intelligent responses to serious subjects - it makes me consider myself in a way that I need.

And I'm more able to talk about, and share, things like toys and spankings and being tied up, and all kinds of stuff. There are still a lot of things I want to experience that I haven't yet... and I think that list won't shrink. As things get crossed off, others will be added. And that's how life should be.

I learned that there is no one right way to be someones Dominant.I admit mistakes and learn from them, I try and learn all that makes this lifestyle pleasurable to those special to me. A submissive helps build her Dominant whether she knows it or not.

 

[snoozebutton]

Eeeek. Wow. Thank you.

Thank you as well, love to see a lady smile.

 

[snoozebutton]

Since being here on lit, i have met people and learned quite a bit about myself and my wants and desires. I have always known i was submissive but my submissive side has grown and changed and expanded from all my learning over the time i have spent here. Its also really nice to have a place where one can talk to others in the lifestyle and learn and grow within the lifestyle. In my everyday life its hard because i know very few people who would understand how it feels to be a submissive/slave. Most of my friends accept it of me but don't understand it. Just being able to talk to someone who has been there makes lit a wonderful place for me.

 

[Kain]

I always see a lot of new people once or a few times, they introduce theirselves and then return to lurk mode. I'm curious to see how many are still here. Have you formed any friendships? Did you try anything you saw here? Did reading the boards here change you from sub to Dom or vice virsa or to a switch. Come on back and fill us in on how you've changed.

I still have no real world experience, so I would feel out of place posting. I do however love to read and commit to memory all of the great tips and tricks you all post.

 

[snoozebutton]

Re: Re: Now that your not new what have you learned?

I still have no real world experience, so I would feel out of place posting. I do however love to read and commit to memory all of the great tips and tricks you all post.

Well to give you a helpful hint. If you want to try the lifestyle with your partner do a lot of different roleplaying and include a D/s roleplay. Try to pepper it in with others and tell her you like that one in particular. Of course honesty is best and just telling her is best but she may need to experiment with others things till she feels comfortable. As long as two people have fun it's all smiles.