2ManyFantasies
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Not sure if being a sub is for me..maybe it is?
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babslovesherdaddy
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I think if you openly discuss what your limits are beforehand, you could do online D/s with the right Dom. I've been dominated via text and had some awesome experiences with it.
SpunThings
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I have been very interested in ONLINE D/s relationships. I've done research and read articles about being a online sub.. I really like the idea of it but I'm still unsure if it's for me. I'm married with kids so I'm not wanting to send explicit pics or do cam. I'm really not sure if a online D/s relationship will work without those things. This all new to me.. I do have some knowledge on it but unsure if I should pursue it. Any advice would be helpful.
Don't do anything you don't want to do. If someone you are interested in won't participate with you if you don't do X or Y and you don't want to do X or Y, then you just aren't a right fit.
thelaughingcat
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Due to my job, I have had some similar issues in the past with being unable to webcam and photo, and there are many online Doms who take that as bratty, un-sub-like behaviour.
It's not.
As long as you communicate with a potential partner and they understand your limits, then you should find someone who gives you the freedom to explore your fantasies while the trust is being built.
And then come back and tell us whether you joined us on the twisty side
It's not.
As long as you communicate with a potential partner and they understand your limits, then you should find someone who gives you the freedom to explore your fantasies while the trust is being built.
And then come back and tell us whether you joined us on the twisty side
It may not be. However, that you have an interest in it and are willing to pursue it suggests that you should. It may just be the fantasy holds more allure than what is actually done. Bravo to you for trying, if that's the case.
Just remember that online and in real are, sometimes, two completely different things. Online is very safe because you can just turn off your computer and never see them again. Real is so much better because you might be restrained from 'simply leaving'.
edit: (Of course there are many more permutations that make real much better. Just stating the obvious)
Good luck in your pursuits (I don't believe in luck but I think you know what I mean).
Just remember that online and in real are, sometimes, two completely different things. Online is very safe because you can just turn off your computer and never see them again. Real is so much better because you might be restrained from 'simply leaving'.
edit: (Of course there are many more permutations that make real much better. Just stating the obvious)
Good luck in your pursuits (I don't believe in luck but I think you know what I mean).
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thelaughingcat
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Yes, yes and yes. Don't be scared of a block button, no matter how rude you might think it is. This is one of the best pieces of advice for online play. If you find yourself wanting to do something outside your comfort zone, but that is causing you extreme anxiety (such as webcamming) and that you have tried to say you weren't comfortable with several times before, just to please someone that you have started to build an online relationship with, you can hit that block button.
They will get over it eventually - you would be affected far more deeply by going through with it and regretting it. Online has a very different dynamic to real life play as they often can't judge your body cues as well. If they won't use the sense they do have and listen then you can shut it down at a click of your mouse!
Tech_Director
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It sounds like you're approaching this almost clinically and that might not be the healthiest way to look at ANY relationship, D/s or not.
Since you are new to this I would suggest you have a few private conversations with some Dom/mes without venturing into offering any kind of submission. In other words, treat things the same as simply getting to know somebody on a friendly level. Do NOT be in a rush to offer your submission just because you THINK you may be submissive and want to "try" it.
No matter how you cut it, take things SLOW and easy and see what's right for you. Good luck.
Since you are new to this I would suggest you have a few private conversations with some Dom/mes without venturing into offering any kind of submission. In other words, treat things the same as simply getting to know somebody on a friendly level. Do NOT be in a rush to offer your submission just because you THINK you may be submissive and want to "try" it.
No matter how you cut it, take things SLOW and easy and see what's right for you. Good luck.
