Not really BDSM but...

[rachy91]

this isnt really bdsm but im not sure where to post

My bf recently sent me a pic of his dick, [online relationship for now] and its really hairy, and he doesnt want to shave because it itches, how can i convince him to shave it

 

[FurryFury]

this isnt really bdsm but im not sure where to post

My bf recently sent me a pic of his dick, [online relationship for now] and its really hairy, and he doesnt want to shave because it itches, how can i convince him to shave it

Did you ask for that picture?

Why does it matter that it's hairy in an online relationship or at all?

 

[rachy91]

Because im going to be seeing him in 2 weeks, and he offered the picture, it matters because i dont really want a face full of hair.... if something like that.. happens and it most likely will

 

[FurryFury]

If this is so important to YOU and he will NOT shave, you might want to rethink meeting in two weeks. That way you wouldn't get a face full of anything.

 

[rachy91]

I can see where your coming from but

This thread i made more to see if anyone had i deas i could put to him, to convince him, but obviously if he wont, oh well. its not like im gonna say i cant do anything with you, but lots of hair doesnt have much appeal forme,

So this thread is more for any ideas anyone can give me to convince him

(i should of said this in the start, but it seemed obvious to me)

 

[FurryFury]

I don't convince people of things. People have to want to have their minds and lives changed for it to happen.

However, if you told him no blow jobs unless he did that might get him thinking.

Personally, I suspect you are just going to have a fragile ego plummet and possibly crushed over this though.

 

[rachy91]

I wont ever say that "im not gonna give you a blowjob if you wont shave" thats not fair what i mean is if people, mainly men obviously could maybe tell me why they like being shaved so i could tell him those things and maybe he wouldnt be worried about it

 

[FurryFury]

Well, you could tell him how good it feels to you when you shave yourself smooth or how great it was with another b/f although, jealousy wise that could cause some problems.

 

[rachy91]

yea, im shaved myself and i know it itches but its not that bad, espcially once you have done it the first time, every time i shave now it doesnt itch and if i feel it i put some itch lotion on

thank you for your suggestion

 

[FurryFury]

My pleasure!

 

[siddey1]

tell him how good it feels i know i do it..feelso good aginst your own skin...offer to help him do it...just be careful with those scissors...

 

[Knightenslaves]

Whe My little one wants something(I assume he and you are some sort of D/s) she begs, and offers to do it for Me. Making the act of it an offering to Him and begging in a resepctful,playful way will most likely lead you in the right direction

 

[reignophelia]

You might want to check out the "How To" forum. It wouldn't shock me if there was something similar on there. You might even find tips on how to possibly shave him yourself and make it an erotic experience. No?

 

[Kierae]

Well since you are shaved, I would talk about the virtues of being that way - pointing out the advantages to him and why you like it. I know more guys are open to keeping the groin trimmed which sounds like that at least would be a start. Not every guy is into shaved though or open to it. The reality is he might do it for you and then have to deal with the grow out (which sucks) when you leave. You could make an entire scene out of shaving or trimming though when you do get together (ie you doing the job while arousing him, etc).

I am with you - not into a faceful of hair, picking hair out of my throat, etc. But reality is some folks like it and you either deal or move on.

Good luck!

~kierae

 

[myinnerslut]

try just asking him to trim it at first. some guys get intimidated by having a razor around thier cock and balls, so they will avoid it

 

[Chicklet]

maybe he's willing to trim instead of full out shaving?

one of my biggest pet peeves is men who DO shave, and have itchy stubble on their dick. That's almost more irritating.

You could always offer tweezers, and work up from there

 

[myinnerslut]

You could always offer tweezers, and work up from there

ow!ow!ow!

she doesnt wan to scare him away!

 

[LittleJade]

How about just trimming? My sweetie doesn't shave his crotch because of the itch thing, too, but he uses a clipper and trims down the hair. *shrug* No biggie.

 

[Homburg]

try just asking him to trim it at first. some guys get intimidated by having a razor around thier cock and balls, so they will avoid it

So I go in for my vasectomy, and the doc shoots the numb0juice into my balls with a needle that feels as big around as my dick and ice cold. He waits a bit,a dn starts cutting.

Me: "Doc, the anaesthesia hasn't kicked in yet. I can feel what you're doing."
Doc: "Nonsense, son. It's been long enough" *picks up scalpel*
Me: *voice rising* "Doc, I can feel what you're doing!"
Doc: *starts cutting* "You'll be fine. We need to get this done."
Me: "Doc!" *horrible grunting noises*
Doc: "Wow, Mr. *****, you've got some really tough skin down here!"

I think it was the sawing motions that really made me want to puke. He was getting his whole freakin arm into it, as my scrotum is apparently made of rawhide.

The point to all of this is that I am pathologically incapable of allowing anything even remotely razor-like near my boys. It immdeiately conjures up images and pain and the smell of burning vas deferens, etc. Do not want.

I do trim it down when it gets too long though. Luckily for me, I'm hairy as hell in general, but not terribly hairy in that one area. No idea why. And, even luckier, the women I've been with have all reeeally liked the fur.

So, sorry, no advice on how to convince him to shave. I'd be one of those guys saying no. Not just no, hell no. Maybe you can convince him to mow the grass a bit, and shorten the hair. See if that will help.

 

[HottieMama]

i would suggest talking to him about it. Perhaps he's just never thought to shave/trim short and would be more than willing to do it.


i think i actually fall into the minority of women that prefers to be completely bald but likes men hairy... Just seems more masculine to me. (i know, i know..horrible stereotype...but it's just what "trips my trigger.")

 

[Mazuri]

There are also other options to consider than razors. When my husband went for his vasectomy, he used what I do: Magic Shave depilatory. It's designed for black men due to the issue with infections from shaving extremely coarse, curly hair. We use the one with Aloe and the doc even commented on how smooth it was without chemical burns, etc. He kept it that way until his move to Korea (where neither of us see the point in maintenance until he's home) and will resume when he returns.

Not all will find it as gentle as we have, however, so follow the directions to a T and do a tester on the inside of your elbow or other extremely sensitive bit of skin first.

((edit)) However, this is just for if he agrees. I don't think you can ever really convince/talk someone into doing something they don't to do. You can state your preference, but if they don't want to do it, but do so for your sake, it could lead to issues later if they let resentment build up.

A good after shaving lotion, like Bikini Zone, or even hydrocortizone creams can help with itchiness if he consents to give it a try.

 

[Homburg]

i think i actually fall into the minority of women that prefers to be completely bald but likes men hairy... Just seems more masculine to me. (i know, i know..horrible stereotype...but it's just what "trips my trigger.")

The more women I deal with, the more I am thinking that the minority is larger than I previously thought. I've had more women tell me that they like their men hairy....

In my case, I like my ladies properly shorn because I am very much into cunnilingus, and I just enjoy it more when she's bald. And, as a Dom, I don't really care how much she enjoys sucking me off. She's going to do it because I told her to

And, let's face it, HottieMama is totally correct here. Hairy = masculine. That's just how it works for most people. It is a deepset psychological thing. Men should be hairy, women should not. It is how we are socialised. Yes, there are folks that don't work this way. *shrug* To each their own. But I don't think that anyone should feel weird about liking hair on their man.

This has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that I am a man, and hairy. Nothing at all. Move along, citizen. *waves hand*

 

[Netzach]

I detest hair on my husband who detests it on him. Likewise my slave.

I adore body hair on my lover who adores it on himself. Although we have had disagreements over him pulling the grey chest hairs out. I vote yes, he hates them. They, and I, are winning, however.

 

[Netzach]

So I go in for my vasectomy, and the doc shoots the numb0juice into my balls with a needle that feels as big around as my dick and ice cold. He waits a bit,a dn starts cutting.

Me: "Doc, the anaesthesia hasn't kicked in yet. I can feel what you're doing."
Doc: "Nonsense, son. It's been long enough" *picks up scalpel*
Me: *voice rising* "Doc, I can feel what you're doing!"
Doc: *starts cutting* "You'll be fine. We need to get this done."
Me: "Doc!" *horrible grunting noises*
Doc: "Wow, Mr. *****, you've got some really tough skin down here!"

I think it was the sawing motions that really made me want to puke. He was getting his whole freakin arm into it, as my scrotum is apparently made of rawhide.

The point to all of this is that I am pathologically incapable of allowing anything even remotely razor-like near my boys. It immdeiately conjures up images and pain and the smell of burning vas deferens, etc. Do not want.

I do trim it down when it gets too long though. Luckily for me, I'm hairy as hell in general, but not terribly hairy in that one area. No idea why. And, even luckier, the women I've been with have all reeeally liked the fur.

So, sorry, no advice on how to convince him to shave. I'd be one of those guys saying no. Not just no, hell no. Maybe you can convince him to mow the grass a bit, and shorten the hair. See if that will help.

What the flying FUCK is wrong with vasectomy surgeons and urologists? I swear, if I were my husband I'd sue.

 

[Homburg]

I thought about it. Then decided I would just viciously abuse them and underpay, and make them thank me for underpaying them so long as I didn't sue them.