Not feeling anything

[Kira Star]

When i'm making out with my boyfriend and later on having sex, i can't really feel anything, I know i am wet, but i'm not really feeling the pleasure. I'm thinking is might be my nerves, but i'm not really sure. I really hate this, i would love to feel something when my guy is eating me out or when we are having sex.

There is one thing i do feel, i feel the pain a little, but that is like the only thing i can feel.

Any help would be helpful

 

[DrHappy]

Are you comfortable masturbating alone? That would be the first step if you aren't there yet. Is he giving you enough foreplay? Men can turn on like a light switch. Women (generally) need a little more time to warm up, both physically and mentally.

 

[Quoll]

What are you thinking while this is happening?

Is this something that you honestly want to do?

 

[Bert Notorius]

I recommend lots of practice.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

KIRASTAR

Okay.

A technique I sometimes use to insulate people from pain is to have them immediately forget the pain. They dont feel it because they have amnesia for pain.

Have you somehow self-hypnotized yourself to have amnesia for pleasure?

 

[littlebitshe]

KIRASTAR

Okay.

A technique I sometimes use to insulate people from pain is to have them immediately forget the pain. They dont feel it because they have amnesia for pain.

Have you somehow self-hypnotized yourself to have amnesia for pleasure?

What???!!! Hahaha! Nuts!

 

[Noor]

are you on the pill?

 

[Kierae]

If you are taking any kind of meds (especially antidepressants), they can affect you this way - worth discussing with your doctor if you are.

~kierae

 

[xeros_girl]

I got that way when I was biking a lot on an improper seat. A better seat fixed that. Also I don't bike as much anymore But once the bloodflow wasn't restricted I felt much more.

 

[Kira Star]

I think i sorta figured something out, when he licking me in any place lightly, i can barely feel where he is licking, but as soon as he starts to lick abit harder i can feel the exacte place that he is licking

DrHappy - I am comfortable when i masturbate when i'm by myself. Maybe there isn't enough foreplay, i'll have to see about that one.

Quoll - I honestly have to say that i do want to be with him. While we are making out i'm thinking how that depending on where he runs his fingers how it is ticklish. I'm happy being with him. (does that help at all?)

Noor - I'm not on the pill at the moment, i was with my ex. but when we broke up a year or more ago i stopped taking it, but i'm probably going to be taking it again soon. since i don't really like condoms.

Kierae - I'm not taking any meds at the moment, but i think i will talk to my doctor about this and see what she has to say.


Thank you all for commenting on my post *hugs*

 

[Quoll]

I think i sorta figured something out, when he licking me in any place lightly, i can barely feel where he is licking, but as soon as he starts to lick abit harder i can feel the exacte place that he is licking

DrHappy - I am comfortable when i masturbate when i'm by myself. Maybe there isn't enough foreplay, i'll have to see about that one.

Quoll - I honestly have to say that i do want to be with him. While we are making out i'm thinking how that depending on where he runs his fingers how it is ticklish. I'm happy being with him. (does that help at all?)

Noor - I'm not on the pill at the moment, i was with my ex. but when we broke up a year or more ago i stopped taking it, but i'm probably going to be taking it again soon. since i don't really like condoms.

Kierae - I'm not taking any meds at the moment, but i think i will talk to my doctor about this and see what she has to say.


Thank you all for commenting on my post *hugs*

Yes it does.
If you feel fine emotionally about your lovemaking then it could be something physical or your boyfriend is being too gentle. When you masturbate do you use/enjoy a firm touch?
If so, you need to let him know what you like, if you are uncomfortable telling him directly then use your body to tell him what feels good, a moan and/or arched hips when he gets it just right, perhaps a throaty "Oooh yes, harder baby" any sort of positive feed back will help.
You know your body best, if you can feel it fine when you masturbate, then it's most likely not physical.
Good luck.

 

[Kira Star]

Quoll - Thanks for the help I think i will probably do what you suggest the next time

 

[Quoll]

Quoll - Thanks for the help I think i will probably do what you suggest the next time

Cool, have fun, explore, but be honest with him, it will work out better in the long run.
Let us know how it goes.

 

[trailwalker]

If you are taking any kind of meds (especially antidepressants), they can affect you this way - worth discussing with your doctor if you are.

~kierae

How long do those effects last? I was on anti-deppressants for a year... and lately I am having trouble finishing for my lady....

 

[thirty]

My wife said that she didn't feel much pleasure during sex in the first year after she had sex for the first time.

I don't know what the situation for the thread starter, but if it's the similar case, maybe it's quite common.