not dure what to do here...

[RavenSpirit2k4]

not sure what to do here...

Just after I sang my online sub's praises in the Celebrate the Sub thread yesterday, my pet slut got all insolent last night and starting topping from the bottom. First time before now.

Here's the story: Pet and I decided some time ago we'd like to get a playmate for us, someone who would pleasure us both. I thought it best to wait just a little while, so we could get to know each other better before adding a third. Anyway, I put an ad in the personals a couple of days ago and we got us a nice male sub (only one sessions so far, but I'm very pleased with him) who scened with us last night.

So did I fuck up? Do you think pet was just jealous? Or maybe establishing a higher position on the totem pole? Both? Maybe even a bit overexcited? Pet certainly seemed to enjoy the scene, but I was a bit bewildered by the sudden demanding tone I was getting.

If this were in person, I would give pet's cute little ass a whack with the hairbrush for each sassy remark (pain isn't pet's kink). And I'd have the braided cat hanging in full view to serve as a reminder that it could be worse. But this is online with no webcam; I can't afford one - strapped for cash paying for the car - and pet has kids to support so can't afford one either.

Any ideas?

[Edit: frigging typos. Can't correct it in the thread title either. Grrr.]

 

[FungiUg]

My suggestion is that you need to do the "Stern Domme" thing. Tell him you are disappointed, he stuffed up, how he stuffed up, what you expect from him in the future, and assign a punishment.

 

[MissTaken]

I agree with fungiug.

First, regardless of his reasons, he should have been respectful of you, even if he was uncomfortable with the situation. After all, it is all about YOU!

Second, after levelling a significant punishment, then you can discuss it. Perhaps you and your Pet aren't ready to include a third. Perhaps you are, but there needs to be a more clear understanding.

Third, you rock.

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Oh, I'm going to give pet an appropriate punishment, but I'm not sure how to do it online. I found something interesting though; http://www.geocities.com/cedargmx/fow.htm. Thing is, pet isn't as computer-skilled as I am yet, so that may have to wait.

And we are definitely going to talk about what happened and what pet did wrong. I think maybe (after reading an email pet sent me) that it was simply a case of getting too excited; pet was pretty keen on the idea of adding a third just a couple of weeks ago.

So we seem to need to get some clear communication going here. After we talk, I'll come up something that'll be good discipline for pet to learn not to do that sort of thing.

Thanks for the advice, FungiUg & MissT.

And MissT, you definitely rock too!