not able to cum

[Berno_85]

i am wondering if it is werid for a guy to not to cum from sex its starting to get frustraded cause i was able to cum the first time me and my gf had sex now its after almost an hour she gets off many times and i dont not even getting close to the point.

 

[MajorMalfunction]

Stop spanking it every 5mins. No pussy is as stimulating as your clenched fist.

 

[SweetErika]

Did you try the suggestions you received in this thread you started in April?

I noticed you never answered the question on medications and substances you might be on, either. So, are you on any meds? Do you use drugs or alcohol? If so, what do you take and how often?

Also, do you need (or always use) porn to get off when you masturbate?

 

[Berno_85]

i dont masterbate that much just lately thats all the only way i can cum. i am not on meds and dont do drugs or drink. i also dont really use porn to get off

 

[SweetErika]

i dont masterbate that much just lately thats all the only way i can cum. i am not on meds and dont do drugs or drink. i also dont really use porn to get off

'Not much' masturbation is going to be different for everyone, so that's not a lot of help. On average, how often do you masturbate?

And did you try cutting the masturbation down, out and/or only using a very light touch with lots of lube?

What else have you already tried?

Is it possible or likely that the root of the problem is psychological? For instance, are you under a lot of stress? Do you suffer from something like depression or anxiety?

Are you worried about sex leading to pregnancy, STIs, emotional issues, etc.? How is your relationship with your partner outside the bedroom?

To be honest, it's very difficult to give you solid suggestions with so little information to go on. If you genuinely want help, you're going to need to help yourself by really thinking about the issue and communicating as much relevant info as possible.

 

[Berno_85]

i maybe do it 2 or 3 times aweek. and yes i cut it out this past week and still wasnt able to cum. i am not worried about getting her pregnet one of her ex's crushed her tubes. i had some depression and have stress from work. we have a great relationship outside the bedroom.

 

[silverwhisper]

have you had such problems in the past when you've also been depressed and stressed? if so, i think you have your answer, but otherwise, i'm at a loss, i'm afraid.

ed

 

[Berno_85]

could it also be she the first on i sleep with more then once all

 

[SweetErika]

i maybe do it 2 or 3 times aweek. and yes i cut it out this past week and still wasnt able to cum. i am not worried about getting her pregnet one of her ex's crushed her tubes. i had some depression and have stress from work. we have a great relationship outside the bedroom.

If cutting out the masturbation for a week didn't work, then try two weeks. Or masturbate with a really light touch and lots of lube, but don't allow yourself to come.

How did her ex crush her fallopian tubes? Was he a doctor, or did he pay for her to have a tubal ligation? Did he give her an STI that scarred her tubes?

 

[Berno_85]

he shoved a hammer up there when she wouldnt give him any. i try the 2 weeks or cut it out for good. i get close sometimes then she moves her hips and lose it the feeling

 

[SweetErika]

he shoved a hammer up there when she wouldnt give him any.

Even if her fallopian tubes were damaged by that assault, miracles happen. If you're not ready to be a father for the rest of your life, make sure you're using at least one (and preferably two) good forms of birth control.

Plus, there's always the STI issue to consider.

i try the 2 weeks or cut it out for good. i get close sometimes then she moves her hips and lose it the feeling

Well, have you tried taking short breaks periodically?

Next to that, have you spoken to your doctor about this?

 

[VelvetDarkness]

i maybe do it 2 or 3 times aweek. and yes i cut it out this past week and still wasnt able to cum. i am not worried about getting her pregnet one of her ex's crushed her tubes. i had some depression and have stress from work. we have a great relationship outside the bedroom.

This has been going on for some time now. I suggest you take your girl and go to the doctor together. You can discuss these issues from both sides of the intercourse and there may well be something the GP can offer or suggest that will help you.

We're just bystanders here hon, you really both need to see a professional, if only to rule out anything serious.

Plus, unless you are 300% certain she can't ever conceive, you should really use some contraception as a back up. Female plumbing is strange and mysterious stuff and lots of women are told they're unlikely to conceive, only to prove the doctors wrong.

 

[satindesire]

This has been going on for some time now. I suggest you take your girl and go to the doctor together. You can discuss these issues from both sides of the intercourse and there may well be something the GP can offer or suggest that will help you.

We're just bystanders here hon, you really both need to see a professional, if only to rule out anything serious.

Plus, unless you are 300% certain she can't ever conceive, you should really use some contraception as a back up. Female plumbing is strange and mysterious stuff and lots of women are told they're unlikely to conceive, only to prove the doctors wrong.

I am living proof of that. *points to her huge belly*

 

[Berno_85]

i can handle being a father in fact thats a goal of mine. we both been talking we might try the doctor and see how thats goes what type of doctor should we go to. i am thinking its stress cause i do work werid long hours.

btw we still use protection