not a happy thread....

[SecretLove69]

well said SL...

I have seen Moon open up several times before... and be brutalized and asked the same question "why".

Who knows?... after over 7 years of hanging around Lit, all I can say is that it has changed so much. We tend to point at the GB as the place to find nastiness but this thread also shows (as many others have) that there are people that just want to say hurtful things in the PG as well. And for what point? It never changes anything.

I can understand what Moon is going through. I spent 15 years as a LTC RN and know the devastation that all types of dementia and strokes can bring. I also came from a very dysfunctional family and when you add that to the equation, situations like Moon's can get pretty bad.

But again, the real question is if we have nothing positive or helpful to say, why don't we just move on? Why must some of us choose to say something hurtful (sometimes repeatedly)?

Threads like this don't really make me want to hang out here much for sure.

Hang in there Moon... there are some that are pulling for you....

{{{Calvin}}} - Thanks and thanks for being a supporter not a destroyer.

All I can say is that the "pack mentality" of pinpointing and trying to take down the seemingly weak one from the herd isn't going to work in Moon's case. He is a lot more tough than some people give him credit for and has more friends in his corner than even he realizes.

{{{{{{{{{{MOONBEAM}}}}}}}}}} keep on shining hon.

 

[Calvin]

{{{Calvin}}} - Thanks and thanks for being a supporter not a destroyer.

All I can say is that the "pack mentality" of pinpointing and trying to take down the seemingly weak one from the herd isn't going to work in Moon's case. He is a lot more tough than some people give him credit for and has more friends in his corner than even he realizes.

thanks SL... you are right... Moon does seem pretty strong when you look at what he has shared over the past year or so.... while I have PM'd him a couple of times offering him support and have never heard back, I would still consider myself a "friend" and a supporter of his.

I guess I just don't understand (and prob never will) why people have to hurt others with their words. But maybe I am just naive...

 

[mrtnmoon]

And as to your problem.... I understand why you did it, but I'll say what I did in another thread. Posting anyting like this and expecting a fully sympathetic response, especially with some of the 'lovely' people on here... is fantasy land unfortunately. But when it boils down to it, the most important person in helping you is you. I wish you luck.

well... I stupidly thought there would be more support here than on the GB. the main point was a rant I needed to get out before my head or my chest exploded, even tho I'm not convinced it would be so bad if either one happened. I'd move on to a btter place.

oh, wait... that's only if you're good. I'll probably wind up surfing on that lake of fire with the devil.

 

[Calvin]

well... I stupidly thought there would be more support here than on the GB. the main point was a rant I needed to get out before my head or my chest exploded, even tho I'm not convinced it would be so bad if either one happened. I'd move on to a btter place.

oh, wait... that's only if you're good. I'll probably wind up surfing on that lake of fire with the devil.

there is support here for you Moon... there might even be some on the GB although you might have to look pretty hard for it (just my opinion)....

As for that lake of fire, I'll prob be there as well but I'm bringing my jetski's...

 

[mrtnmoon]

to the many people that offered their support, many thanks and hugs. thaat would include you, moist mary if you'll take a hug from someone you don't know. manly hugs for some, to be sure. to the others that came in just to shoot their mouths off, fuck you and the horse you rode in on.

 

[CaptainKirk]

Just my two cents...

Moon, I agree with SL (well said, by the way), DB, Scotch, Elizabeth, and all the others here.

My take on it: (and this is just me, mind you) give your brother one last chance to redeem himself. If he doesn't take it and continues to be an ass... so be it. Kick him to the curb and good riddance! You don't need the extra aggravation, not now.

As to your mother, I do know what you're going through, in a way. My father had to deal with this very thing when my grandfather had his stroke, a severe one. He lost most of his mobility, his faculties, and the like, but fortunately (and this is not meant to be mean) he passed away a few months later. It hurt my father terribly, but he (and all of the family) were relieved when it was finally over and that my grandfather wouldn't suffer any more indignity. I feel for you, Moon.

Now, my advice to you is the same as the others I've seen: you need to get some help. There are plenty of groups and support services around that can help you and your mother. The taxes that were taken out of your paychecks when you were working helped to pay for them. I think it's time you cash in your markers and get something back. It's not a hand-out, it's not charity. You've earned it. And you should do it soon, because (again, I'm not saying this to be mean; I'm saying this because it's the truth) if you don't get yourself sitiuated (financially, emotionally, etc.) and start taking care of yourself, you won't be able to give the care to your mother that she needs. Call these people; let them help you. You deserve it.

...oh, and to all those out there that feel the need to be nasty in order to get your rocks off, I say this: if you can't say an encouraging word to anyone... if you have to use vindictive, snide remarks in order to make yourself feel superior... or if you feel you just have to be an asshole in general... don't post. If you don't like someone, put them on "ignore". And if all you have are negative, hurtful, assinine comments to spew, then I say...

KEEP THAT FUCKING HOLE UNDER YOUR NOSE SHUT!

Good luck, Moon.

 

[AboutFace]

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Ignoring those that can only offer negative "advice" is really the only way. There is way too much negativity around in the "real world" that we don't need it here also.
What you are going through is a rough thing and none of us, here, can really comment on it except to offer support. Hope things are a little more gentle for you today.

 

[NorthernPA4U]

Hey, I just found this thread as well. I wasn't really in Lit that much this weekend as I spent most of it with my daughter, then at doctor's yesterday.

First, I just echo what others have said. There are some people on the playground who think they are the thread police, and apparently STILL are not smart enough to figure out how to use the ignore function. I know at least you are that smart, so just ignore them.

I'm sorry to hear about the rift between you and your brother regarding your mom. My father-in-law had a series of small strokes a few years before passing away, and he came to live with us for a while. I know exactly the kinds of stress you are talking about ... even though he was her father, dealing with his infirmities drove my ex-wife crazy at times. She couldn't deal with him well in the state he was ... it was easier for me, since I hadn't really known him that well before the strokes. It takes a lot of patience, and it usually takes more than one to help.

I hope your brother gives you a chance to talk about it. Unfortunately, such stuff is expensive, but family counseling of some sort would be helpful. Just getting a chance for both of you to get together and talk with a mediator present would be useful.