Livelovelaugh12
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I recently got my bf to choke me and I love it. I want I be tied up, my ass spanked, I want nipple clamps. I want my pussy sparked I want everything I see in porn. I don't know joe to tell him. Helps
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The first question to answer is "Did he love?" If he did, then you should either talk to him about how much you enjoyed it and how you'd like to continue experimenting in the same vein. Talking about your mutual likes and dislikes concerning sex can make it much more fulfilling. If on the other hand he didn't enjoy it, you may need to go more slowly or find alternative ways to explore (such as Lit). The fact that he did do it once is encouraging.
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Intended or not, messages like this are an excellent example of why NOT to turn on PMs... unless you're interested in cybersex. Because most of the time (not always, but most) messages offering to take conversations private/to Skype = Horny Net Geek looking for a wank.
The only way to discuss your desire for XYZ sex, is to put on your big girl panties and talk about your desire for XYZ sex. You can do it over dinner, by text/email, by sending stories & telling him how excited it made you, or by praising the hell out of XYZ and "guiding" him. But odds of success increase with communication; none of us are mind readers.
Livelovelaugh12
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Thank you. I will definitely bring it up outside of the bedroom, as for turning on or off pm I am clueless lol
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Most men will do that simple stuff for you easily. Especially if they see how turned on you are by that. Men have this weird fetish for female excitement - for many it's even more fun to see our girls happy, than to actually have pleasure fucking her.
So I say you just tell him how excited you are with this and that. Maybe if you have a TON of fantasies don't pile them up on top of him in one go - you can't possibly try them all out during the same sex encounter, so give him a few that will go together nicely, then next day or a week later, give him a few more.
As far as ways to approach it, everything have been said. If you are a little bit of coward, you can send him a video or a story you liked, saying how hot it was. Afterwards you can just say you can try the same. But it's MUCH better to just talk about that. Face to face. Probably out of bed.
Just remember - most people are kinky. Most men will get turned on by a bound helpless girl, by spanking and all that stuff. It's just that a lot of people never engage in this types of sex, but it doesn't mean they don't want it or are against trying it. It will be fine, so don't worry! He'll love it.
It is VERY important to show him how much you loved it. When hurting our loved ones, even if they asked for it, there's still psychological hesitation. Try to arrange so there are no bruises and stuff that may shake his confidence. Depending on a man, those things would be more or less important.
One thing though - start slow. First of all, you probably don't know your own limits, so you should discover them. As much as cruel nipple clamps can make you horny and excited, go for some milder (or adjustable) clamps first.
Also bondage is difficult with rope. Try cuffs and easy stuff like that, or if you wanna do rope eventually - read and watch tutorials, they are on the net. Reason: it's hard to do so that it's fast & pretty & safe & secure. Rope bondage can cause injury (any bondage can, but rope that's poorly executed - especially).
Don't forget to set up your safeword if you go for it. It will make you safe and it will make him more confident.
So just take it slow, research and be careful.
And happy playing!
So I say you just tell him how excited you are with this and that. Maybe if you have a TON of fantasies don't pile them up on top of him in one go - you can't possibly try them all out during the same sex encounter, so give him a few that will go together nicely, then next day or a week later, give him a few more.
As far as ways to approach it, everything have been said. If you are a little bit of coward, you can send him a video or a story you liked, saying how hot it was. Afterwards you can just say you can try the same. But it's MUCH better to just talk about that. Face to face. Probably out of bed.
Just remember - most people are kinky. Most men will get turned on by a bound helpless girl, by spanking and all that stuff. It's just that a lot of people never engage in this types of sex, but it doesn't mean they don't want it or are against trying it. It will be fine, so don't worry! He'll love it.
It is VERY important to show him how much you loved it. When hurting our loved ones, even if they asked for it, there's still psychological hesitation. Try to arrange so there are no bruises and stuff that may shake his confidence. Depending on a man, those things would be more or less important.
One thing though - start slow. First of all, you probably don't know your own limits, so you should discover them. As much as cruel nipple clamps can make you horny and excited, go for some milder (or adjustable) clamps first.
Also bondage is difficult with rope. Try cuffs and easy stuff like that, or if you wanna do rope eventually - read and watch tutorials, they are on the net. Reason: it's hard to do so that it's fast & pretty & safe & secure. Rope bondage can cause injury (any bondage can, but rope that's poorly executed - especially).
Don't forget to set up your safeword if you go for it. It will make you safe and it will make him more confident.
So just take it slow, research and be careful.
And happy playing!
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