newbie question...are the bruises normal?

[pennyemporium]

first off, i apologize if this is such a newbie question you all roll you eyes. i just don't know who else to ask and half the information available on the web is questionable.

i went to a scene party on friday night and since it was basically public it was all lighthearted fun. i have never done anything like this before so did not know what to expect. one of my fiends is into tying people up with rope in Japanese bondage and that looked intriguing so i volunteered.

once i was tied up he proceeded to flog me with one of those red lambskin floggers. well within my pain limits and no skin broken, everything seemed fine and we had a good time. however, today my back and haunches are covered with bruises that look like i was hit with buckshot. it could simply be my thin red-head skin isn't used to this sort of thing.

my question is, how is this perceived in s&m land? should i consider the bruises like a badge of honor? or is it the sign of a bad flogger? improper selection of equipment? wimpy sub? hysterical reaction on my part? i'd like to do this all again, but i don't know if the ease of which i bruise is going to be a problem.

don't know if i can post a picture here, here's a link.
http://image.inkfrog.com/pix/VintageNylon0/NiceBruise2.jpg

again, i apologize if this is a silly beginner question.....penny

 

[AngelicAssassin]

first off, i apologize if this is such a newbie question you all roll you eyes ... again, i apologize if this is a silly beginner question.....penny

No need to apologize, you gave half the Dom/mes wood/honey for your pic.

Ok ... you appear to be a fair skinned redhead. When you bump something, the corner of a piece of furniture, a door handle, etc, do you bruise easily?

The med techs, (anelize, Vix, ADR) can jump in here anytime, but it appears you just have several broken capillaries. Not a biggie. As long as they don't, lump together, bulge, anything other than what you have now, save change color as they disappear ... yeah yeah, all the pyl's on here are about to sigh wistfully at loss of their markings ... don't worry yourself needlessly. If you have an SO, have them check you coming out of the shower every morning.

 

[Bandit58]

I had bruises and marks like those after my first spanking.....they faded after a week or so and there's no sign of permanent marks. They looked worse after the second or third day. I was a little tender for the first couple of days but nothing much.

I thought of them as a badge of honour like "I was spanked and I survived and I had a bloody good time" Master did like to run His hand over them too....

I was told that skin does toughen up over time, so after a while you may find you won't mark so easily.

 

[pennyemporium]

thank you both for your kind replies. the bruises are simply like the kind i get when the furniture jumps in front of me at night. nothing to get concerned about, just my fair skin.

i was just to afraid to bring the subject up with my friend, just in case this wasn't normal. i guess i just never assumed the experience would leave physical marks, just the mental kind....LOL

boy, do i have a lot to learn.....thanks again

 

[s'lara]

first off, i apologize if this is such a newbie question you all roll you eyes. i just don't know who else to ask and half the information available on the web is questionable.

i went to a scene party on friday night and since it was basically public it was all lighthearted fun. i have never done anything like this before so did not know what to expect. one of my fiends is into tying people up with rope in Japanese bondage and that looked intriguing so i volunteered.

once i was tied up he proceeded to flog me with one of those red lambskin floggers. well within my pain limits and no skin broken, everything seemed fine and we had a good time. however, today my back and haunches are covered with bruises that look like i was hit with buckshot. it could simply be my thin red-head skin isn't used to this sort of thing.

my question is, how is this perceived in s&m land? should i consider the bruises like a badge of honor? or is it the sign of a bad flogger? improper selection of equipment? wimpy sub? hysterical reaction on my part? i'd like to do this all again, but i don't know if the ease of which i bruise is going to be a problem.

don't know if i can post a picture here, here's a link.
http://image.inkfrog.com/pix/VintageNylon0/NiceBruise2.jpg

again, i apologize if this is a silly beginner question.....penny

Welcome to the board.

If you're going to engage in flogging, with anything more substantial than ribbons, you will experience bruising. For those who practice S/M, the bruises are par for the course. It is up to you to whether you consider the bruises a badge of honor. As for wimpy, then anyone who has ever been flogged and bruised is wimpy.

i think you should ask yourself whether seeing evidence of your activities were disturbing or intriguing. If you felt alarm, especially if it was your first time being flogged, i can understand the reaction. However, the fact that you bruised (not sure if you bruise easily) may only be a problem if the bruising is followed by prolonged pain or you do not want others to know of your activities.

There aren't any silly questions and i wish you luck and safety in your activities. Please see some links below which may help you sort out your bruise concerns:

Covering Marks

Next Day Sensations/Marks

lara

 

[snowy ciara]

Don't panic everyone, but I'm going to be on topic again..

I've never been beaten, flogged, whatever yet, but I have that red headed skin issue too. It looks like broken capillaries; they may take a little longer to heal then "then" regular bruising. I bruise all the time, too. (too many sports) Most subs here look at them as a badge of honour. (I know I would, except that I bruise so easily that it's kind of pointless to brag about it.)

Now that you know how badly you bruise, you may want to tell the PYL "no visible marks tonight" when excessive bruising may be awkward. That way they know to try for areas that would be covered by clothing, or can suggest an alternate idea,

If you'd like to cut down chances of bruising, try not to take aspirin or other medications that have blood thinning side effects before playing. Unless of course, you have high blood pressure or something where you really need to take it. Also, I was reading somewhere (WebMD, I think.) about an antihistamine that I was taking and they said that some antihistamines seem to inhibit bruising somehow. So maybe popping one of those before a party can help, if you need to try to avoid them.

(AA, Sir, please put that thing away now. You could put someone's eye out!)

runs out of the thread

 

[Guest]

 

[kjtatts]

I wasn't a masochistic sub to any great degree, but I used to love my brusies and whatnot. I definitely used to look at them with a faintly ridiculous sense of pride.

Enjoy!

I kinda feel the same way. I have never been ashamed of any bruising that I've recieved (either due to spankings or restraints). Quite the opposite, actually. I guess in a sense I may even feel aroused when I see them......
I too, am also fair skinned, so redness and bruises appear fairly easily.

 

[WriterDom]

Just to be on the safe side, you should show us a picture everyday for a week.

And don't be so shy, you can pose nude. There may be some problem areas we can't see.

Dr. WriterDom

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... such a newbie question you all roll you eyes ...

See? Nobody rolled their eyes ... we're all still looking.

 

[navarre]

Beautiful marks.

Congratulations.

 

[Netzach]

tip...if you don't want marks like that....WARN YOUR TOP THAT YOU BRUISE EASILY....

some people do and a lot also don't. If you mark with a soft flogger, I, for one, would not assume that you did.

Of course a good Top usually asks this question unless they have ongoing green lights to mark someone, at least in casual polite circles. I'm very sensitive to the marking issue, and both parties can help prevent unwanted marks.

(I feel like Smokey....only YOU can prevent unwanted ass bruises)

 

[bound]

Beautiful bruises... i wish i bruised and kept my marks so easily.

My dusky portuguese skin just laughs most of the time.

<-- Best marks ive ever had, but alas... 2 days now and they're already gone.

 

[DisGirlisNutz]

I love it when marks are left on me.. The darker the better...
The best part is to take pics and post them here...

But there are ways to be flogged and not have any marks left on you...

DGN

 

[shy slave]

I wasn't a masochistic sub to any great degree, but I used to love my brusies and whatnot. I definitely used to look at them with a faintly ridiculous sense of pride.

Enjoy!

Like kjtatts & foxy I too have a ridiculous sense of pride at the marks He leaves.

The first time we were together, the bruising went black, all over my ass and He hardly touched me!

Now, after only a short time of being together my ass hardly bruises at all.

I have fair, celtic skin that never tans, and used to bruise very easily.

I seem to remember Catalina saying she used to bruise easily but now there are hardly any marks, or they fade soon after.

My only is I love the marks but why does it have to hurt so damn much to get them

 

[Guest]

 

[A Desert Rose]

Quit whimpering!

The biggest hurt of all is a broken heart which, perversely, leaves no bruises at all!

Y'all are too soft

Ahhhhhhh jeeeeze!

I love seeing you 'round these parts, foxy.

And simply not often enough for my liking. ;-)

 

[Guest]

 

[A Desert Rose]

I like being around your parts

Always a pleasure to see you, dollface. ;-)

You called your markings a sense of ridiculous pride. I can most definately relate to that. I love the "enduring" of it all.

It's been a few months since I was left like that and lord, do I miss it. It was the reminder too, of Him and his hand and teeth marks on me, that I loved. Silly as it sounds, it was like a gift from Him but they never last long enough.

What I'd give to see that Fella again and soon. He's just too damned far away...

 

[lucky-E-leven]

My bruises are mementos of your need for me. Alone, I strip and study them in the mirror. Here's the imprint of your hand on a naughty ass-cheek. I blush, and smile, remembering how I earned that spanking. And here, at the base of my throat where the touch of your breath makes me instantly wet for you, is the mark of your punishing mouth. I bit you back, though, didn't I! And here, fading too fast, is the faintest trace of the way you gripped my arm when you pulled me into the room that night. Pushed me against the wall. Lifted me up to take your kiss. Shook me with your hunger, and fucked me raw. Sweet man, how you needed me.

A friend of mine wrote this and I think it's a lovely description of how some subs feel about the matter.

How 'lucky' my sub should feel after such a night, no?

~lucky

 

[wickedwanda]

Another redhead here.

I bruise if someone gives me a hard look. Unfortunately, my husband is absolutely horror-stricken if he thinks he's responsible.... alas...

I just try to keep our activitIes in places on my body that aren't readily exposed to the world. Lord knows I have enough of the bumping into furniture kind of bruises to display!

 

[shy slave]

Quit whimpering!

The biggest hurt of all is a broken heart which, perversely, leaves no bruises at all!

Y'all are too soft

I am too soft thats why it hurts lol.

Broken hearts can be repaired, it just takes lots of time and glue

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I am too soft thats why it hurts lol.

Broken hearts can be repaired, it just takes lots of time and glue

Keep it up and we'll break out the super glue to "fix" that crack in your @ss as well.

 

[cellis]

I wasn't a masochistic sub to any great degree, but I used to love my brusies and whatnot. I definitely used to look at them with a faintly ridiculous sense of pride.

Enjoy!

Oh I concur!

How wonderful to see you darlin!

 

[cellis]

Keep it up and we'll break out the super glue to "fix" that crack in your @ss as well.

Shhh you are going to scare them away before we get to plsay with them!