s_red830
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Jul 10, 2006
- Posts
- 174
I've recently become interested in the whole D/s relationship thang... and I was wondering about a few things.
I've been talking to this girl online who says she'd really like a Master/Mistress. I'm kind of a mix of both, but that's beside the point.
Now, I've been told I'm a sweetheart, and I like to spoil my girl. Since I'm new to this, I'm wondering... does that contradict the whole D/s dynamic? I really don't want to turn her off, but that's part of my personality. I'd also love to do to her some things that Dom/mes do... like punish her, make her mine, sexually torture her, etc. She's agreed that she likes all of this. I also sent her one of those checklists that the bdsm librarian so helpfully posted on this site.
I understand the Safe, Sane, Consensual mantra of bdsm folk and want to honor this as best I can. I really want to be the best Domm I can, and I believe that most of the real power is in the sub's hands (i.e. the power to say "no").
So what my question is, is where do I fit into the bdsm continuum? I understand that Dom/mes come in all different shapes and sizes, so to speak, and that my own brand of domination (provided it comes with the proper responsibility) is a perfectly fine brand of domination. But... will I have a hard time finding girls who are as turned on by my softness as my hardness? I know they're out there, but I don't know how common they are.
Really, any well thought-out advice would be a great help.
Thanks.
~Red.
I've been talking to this girl online who says she'd really like a Master/Mistress. I'm kind of a mix of both, but that's beside the point.
Now, I've been told I'm a sweetheart, and I like to spoil my girl. Since I'm new to this, I'm wondering... does that contradict the whole D/s dynamic? I really don't want to turn her off, but that's part of my personality. I'd also love to do to her some things that Dom/mes do... like punish her, make her mine, sexually torture her, etc. She's agreed that she likes all of this. I also sent her one of those checklists that the bdsm librarian so helpfully posted on this site.
I understand the Safe, Sane, Consensual mantra of bdsm folk and want to honor this as best I can. I really want to be the best Domm I can, and I believe that most of the real power is in the sub's hands (i.e. the power to say "no").
So what my question is, is where do I fit into the bdsm continuum? I understand that Dom/mes come in all different shapes and sizes, so to speak, and that my own brand of domination (provided it comes with the proper responsibility) is a perfectly fine brand of domination. But... will I have a hard time finding girls who are as turned on by my softness as my hardness? I know they're out there, but I don't know how common they are.
Really, any well thought-out advice would be a great help.
Thanks.
~Red.