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[SpunThings]

I wouldn't say that I'm a noob. But I'm def new to the topic when discussing with other people about it. I'm married. And I've been i.e. Pilsner say unhappy but not whole. For a while even before my marriage. After reading a few books a couple years ago I've grown attached. I thought it was just a good read but recently I've been thinking. This feels like me, this is how I am.. I've been thinking I might be a Dom. I've always been unyielding. I try to bend for the other persons needs. But I've always been. Idk I feel like I want more. I'm not asking for hook ups. I'm asking for help. To see if I really am. How would I know.

Do you have the desire to have authority over some or all of the relationship, for the good of both? Then you might want to consider seeking such a relationship.

 

[yourrealhero]

Do all BDSM relationships have to have punishments?

I think its part of what this is about.

 

[curiousella]

What is sexual role playing? How does it work? Is it like tasks?

 

[Primalex]

What is sexual role playing? How does it work? Is it like tasks?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cybersex

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_roleplay


Would you mind to not ask questions where you can find the answer even on wikipedia?

 

[SpunThings]

I think its part of what this is about.

Only if BOTH partners want that. We don't do punishment. I get plenty of pain play though. We choose not to cloak our S&M in the word "punishment ". Also, if i have a problem doing something he says, we talk about it.

 

[Que]

I don't enter into relationships that involve punishment; I'm a grown woman, not a toddler.

If you aren't interested in a punishment-based dynamic, discuss that with potential partners and exclude the ones who expect punishment to be part of the relationship.

Exactly. I get that some people appreciate that dynamic that goes along with having a bratty submissive but it's not something I have any patience for.

I helped raise a lot of siblings and I have raised a lot of children, I have no interest in raising a partner.

The only punishment that I can think of that would be apt in most situations involving me would be my absence and in that case it would most likely be permanent.

 

[TomPal]

Another kinda newbie here