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[Guest]

i'm currently involved in a D/s relationship online and love it. i'm of course the sub and yearn to serve my Queen. She is amazing and am willing to do anything for Her. any help that any of you can give me or guide me through this awesome relationship will be grateful.

i know that my Queen will be stopping in to leave messages and things, omg this is amazing.

Her slut

 

[Shankara20]

i'm currently involved in a D/s relationship online and love it. i'm of course the sub and yearn to serve my Queen. She is amazing and am willing to do anything for Her. any help that any of you can give me or guide me through this awesome relationship will be grateful.

i know that my Queen will be stopping in to leave messages and things, omg this is amazing.

Her slut

Welcome - and all the best on your journey.

Asking direct questions about what you are looking for will help you get useful responses.

 

[Guest]

Welcome - and all the best on your journey.

Asking direct questions about what you are looking for will help you get useful responses.

thank you very much Shankara

slut

 

[Queenofhismind]

I do so much appreciate your devotion and willingness to please Me. O/our journey is going to be wonderful. I will take care of you and the gift you have given Me.

 

[satindesire]

Be Safe, Sane and above all, please stay Consensual!

Don't let the excitement of being in a new D/s relationship cloud your logic. No matter how much your Dom/me may say they love/adore/worship you, DO NOT let them try to force you to do something that goes against your moral grain. And don't let them make you think you're worthless without them. Refusing to do something that makes YOU feel like it's wrong or harmful does NOT make you a 'fake sub' or a 'wannabe'...that makes you a human being with limits.

Don't let them ruin your self esteem and don't let them abuse you.

Other than that, I say keep an open line of honest-to-God communication with them, as that's really the very much most important gift you can give them, other than your submission.

Don't try and tell them what they want to hear...because that will only make their mental picture of you different than what you really are and will eventually end in the ruin of the relationship. If you are afraid to be yourself, then you are probably not in a good relationship.

Service is not just about pleasing them by doing what they want...it's also anticipating their needs through learning and experience.

Submission is not just about service, but through a loving desire to give them the gift of power through trust.

One last thing...try not to push their buttons too much. If you love to be punished, they could reverse psyche you and give you the cold shoulder instead...and as a like sub, I can say I'd rather eat Meekrab than be ignored.

Oh, added on edit:

I'm not saying your Dom/me would do this, it's merely a generalized answer to your rather general question! Promise I'm not trying to pick a fight!

 

[Guest]

Be Safe, Sane and above all, please stay Consensual!

Don't let the excitement of being in a new D/s relationship cloud your logic. No matter how much your Dom/me may say they love/adore/worship you, DO NOT let them try to force you to do something that goes against your moral grain. And don't let them make you think you're worthless without them. Refusing to do something that makes YOU feel like it's wrong or harmful does NOT make you a 'fake sub' or a 'wannabe'...that makes you a human being with limits.

Don't let them ruin your self esteem and don't let them abuse you.

Other than that, I say keep an open line of honest-to-God communication with them, as that's really the very much most important gift you can give them, other than your submission.

Don't try and tell them what they want to hear...because that will only make their mental picture of you different than what you really are and will eventually end in the ruin of the relationship. If you are afraid to be yourself, then you are probably not in a good relationship.

Service is not just about pleasing them by doing what they want...it's also anticipating their needs through learning and experience.

Submission is not just about service, but through a loving desire to give them the gift of power through trust.

One last thing...try not to push their buttons too much. If you love to be punished, they could reverse psyche you and give you the cold shoulder instead...and as a like sub, I can say I'd rather eat Meekrab than be ignored.

Oh, added on edit:

I'm not saying your Dom/me would do this, it's merely a generalized answer to your rather general question! Promise I'm not trying to pick a fight!

Thank you for your answer and help, i really appreciate it

slut

 

[Guest]

hello my slut
you did a wonderful job getting this thread going. I do so much appreciate your devotion and willingness to please Me. O/our journey is going to be wonderful. I will take care of you and the gift you have given Me.

thank you my Queen, i am on my knees now in thanks of your being here.

slut

 

[neonflux]

i'm currently involved in a D/s relationship online and love it. i'm of course the sub and yearn to serve my Queen. She is amazing and am willing to do anything for Her. any help that any of you can give me or guide me through this awesome relationship will be grateful.

i know that my Queen will be stopping in to leave messages and things, omg this is amazing.

Her slut

Welcome, slutinhermind, and good luck on your journey. This is a nice place to learn, bounce ideas, ask questions. Neon

 

[myinnerslut]

what satindesire said

and adding to that, make sure you have a safeword. you may never have to use it, but its good to have just in case a boundry accidently and or unexpectedly gets bypassed.

and i am a big fan of filling out a BDSM checklist to find out exactly what your opinions/ideas/experiences with some things are. it helps open up communication IMO

 

[Guest]

Welcome, slut, and good luck on your journey. This is a nice place to learn, bounce ideas, ask questions. Neon

thank you Neon

slut

 

[Guest]

what satindesire said

and adding to that, make sure you have a safeword. you may never have to use it, but its good to have just in case a boundry accidently and or unexpectedly gets bypassed.

and i am a big fan of filling out a BDSM checklist to find out exactly what your opinions/ideas/experiences with some things are. it helps open up communication IMO

thank you myinnerslut, i really do appreciate it

slut

 

[myinnerslut]

thank you myinnerslut, i really do appreciate it

slut

your welcome

*you're so polite*

 

[Netzach]

Some people really only want you to do as told and no more and no less. You'll know soon if She's like this. But most people, in my experience, like it when a slave/slut/servant/pet/toy whatever, also pays attention and learns to focus on what they like. Nothing makes me happier than when my boys/girls just do things that please me without being told, without a second thought. It says more than anything "I know you well enough to love you and love you well enough to know you."


So my advice is to pay very close attention - see what kind of a person your Owner is, and learn her ways. Learn what she likes. Just knowing what I value tickles my slave to no end, gives him curiosity about things he himself might otherwise not be exposed to.

 

[iwillteach]

Intrigued............

Very very nice words have been spoken here. I like this thread. I really like the advice/thoughts that have been given. Al(l)though (don't know how to spell this correctly) I am wondering why 'slutinhermind' is talking about her Queen and referring to 'her' while the Queen's name is 'Queenofhismind' .
Can someone explain this to me?

 

[Queenofhismind]

Very very nice words have been spoken here. I like this thread. I really like the advice/thoughts that have been given. Al(l)though (don't know how to spell this correctly) I am wondering why 'slutinhermind' is talking about her Queen and referring to 'her' while the Queen's name is 'Queenofhismind' .
Can someone explain this to me?

I can answer that iwillteach. I am the Queenofhismind. he is slutinhermind. In other words he is a male submissive. Our relationship is LD and we occupy each others minds 24/7. We wanted something to tie us together if that makes sense. We are both fairly new to this LD/online thing and it helps us both to have a connection.

A further note: This thread in just one day has already been so supportive. We thank you for your openess, your honesty, and your sincerety.
Queen

 

[Queenofhismind]

your welcome

*you're so polite*

Isn't he sweet myinnerslut. he is always polite and kindhearted. I am very lucky indeed.

 

[myinnerslut]

yes he is. good luck in your LDR. im in one too, as are a bunch of others n this board. this is a really good place to ask questions.

 

[s_red830]

i'm currently involved in a D/s relationship online and love it. i'm of course the sub and yearn to serve my Queen. She is amazing and am willing to do anything for Her. any help that any of you can give me or guide me through this awesome relationship will be grateful.

i know that my Queen will be stopping in to leave messages and things, omg this is amazing.

Her slut

Ah, doesn't the giddiness of a newfound relationship just make you want to *SQUEE* at the top of your lungs?

You sound like a sweet sub.

Best of luck on your adventures!

~Red.

 

[Queenofhismind]

yes he is. good luck in your LDR. im in one too, as are a bunch of others n this board. this is a really good place to ask questions.

I can't say how much Lit and the boards have meant to me in the last few months. I have asked many questions, mostly under the other side of my "split personality" and have met some wonderful people. Only recently after meeting my sub, who occupies my every thought some days, have I ventured into this area seriously. I have lurked and read, but never spoken. To my knowledge this type of open environment was not around when I first began in this lifestyle 6 years ago.

Since then, I took a long break, finding only recently the one who can make me reach deep inside myself and see and feel again.

Good luck in your LDR as well and I hope we get to know each other and can we can be as supportive of others as they have already been to us.

 

[myinnerslut]

Only recently after meeting my sub, who occupies my every thought some days, have I ventured into this area seriously.

if you dont mind me asking, how did you meet?

Good luck in your LDR as well and I hope we get to know each other

agreed. its nice to know other people in this kind of a relationship. i only have one friend in RL who is in a D/s relationship (she is a sub, like me). Having so many people on Lit who also know what goes into this kind of relationship has been really helpful over these past few months.

 

[Queenofhismind]

if you dont mind me asking, how did you meet?



We actually met through another Lit thread.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I can answer that iwillteach. I am the Queenofhismind. he is slutinhermind. In other words he is a male submissive. Our relationship is LD and we occupy each others minds 24/7. We wanted something to tie us together if that makes sense. We are both fairly new to this LD/online thing and it helps us both to have a connection.

A further note: This thread in just one day has already been so supportive. We thank you for your openess, your honesty, and your sincerety.
Queen

That is exactly how My rose & I started out.

Once you take that first ste into rt it is beyond compare.

I offer my friendship and welcome to the both of you.