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[1curiouskitty]

Hey Everyone,

I hope everyone's Labor Day has been well!!

I am have been reading Literotica for years.. since I first really started fantasizing about sex. I have had a strange intereste in a D/s relationship, but I do not think it is something I could live in outside of the bedroom and behind clothes doors... hence my problem...
I am curious about turning my fantasy into a reality, but no one would ever suspect me to be into anything "kinky" like that... Not even my current boyfriend...
So my question is this.. how have most of you met your "partners?" I have browsed through sites like adultfriendfinder.com... but most people on there have a bit of a loose screw...

any suggestions??

 

[CutieMouse]

Hey Everyone,

I hope everyone's Labor Day has been well!!

I am have been reading Literotica for years.. since I first really started fantasizing about sex. I have had a strange intereste in a D/s relationship, but I do not think it is something I could live in outside of the bedroom and behind clothes doors... hence my problem...
I am curious about turning my fantasy into a reality, but no one would ever suspect me to be into anything "kinky" like that... Not even my current boyfriend...
So my question is this.. how have most of you met your "partners?" I have browsed through sites like adultfriendfinder.com... but most people on there have a bit of a loose screw...

any suggestions??

Hon, I doubt people who know me in real life have any clue about my interests, either... Looks can be deceiving and all that.

If you're currently in a relationship, I'd suggest finding the language to discuss this with your boyfriend, and see what happens. Learning to communicate your interests and desires, is the first step to getting what you want.

 

[esclave_PP]

Well, I actually met Master here, but on the BDSM word association thread almost 2 years ago. We wrote back and forth and then started writing erotic stories together and eventually met up in person and here we are living together. I never thought I would meet someone online, it just sorta happened.

But I am so glad it did!

 

[myinnerslut]

i was in a relationship with my Sir for several months before i brought up my intrest in BDSM. to my surprise and delight his first response was "i should really start spanking you, youd enjoy it". i was so scraed he would freak out if he knew what i wanted. my avice is to talk to your boyfriend when you are both comfortable and feeling close, like while lying in bed, and bring up the topic of your fantasies. see what he says. you might be surprised.

 

[Betticus]

Hey Everyone,

I hope everyone's Labor Day has been well!!

I am have been reading Literotica for years.. since I first really started fantasizing about sex. I have had a strange intereste in a D/s relationship, but I do not think it is something I could live in outside of the bedroom and behind clothes doors... hence my problem...
I am curious about turning my fantasy into a reality, but no one would ever suspect me to be into anything "kinky" like that... Not even my current boyfriend...
So my question is this.. how have most of you met your "partners?" I have browsed through sites like adultfriendfinder.com... but most people on there have a bit of a loose screw...

any suggestions??

If you don't mind my asking, how old are you?

 

[1curiouskitty]

Hey Everyone,

Thanks for your advice and responses. In regards to the last post, I am about to turn 21.. so I am young... but by no means naive. The man I have been seeing is older.. he is in his thirties, and I am so scared to bring it up to him... I don't want to scare him away.. and have always hoped I would meet someone who brought the idea up to me... and that I wouldn't have to initiate everything. I guess part of the turn on is taken away when your are having to order him around. He is open minded about sex, but I don't think he would be interested in something as far out there as a D/s relationship. Do you think it is worth the risk?

I am sure some of you have heard of Anne Rice's "Beauty's Punishment" Series, and I have grown up on those books... My first boyfriend loved Anne Rice's Vampire Chronicles, and through that I found her erotic serious, and glimpsed into the world of BDSM. There are so many mornings I wake up just wishing I could be in one of her books...

 

[CutieMouse]

Hey Everyone,

Thanks for your advice and responses. In regards to the last post, I am about to turn 21.. so I am young... but by no means naive. The man I have been seeing is older.. he is in his thirties, and I am so scared to bring it up to him... I don't want to scare him away.. and have always hoped I would meet someone who brought the idea up to me... and that I wouldn't have to initiate everything. I guess part of the turn on is taken away when your are having to order him around. He is open minded about sex, but I don't think he would be interested in something as far out there as a D/s relationship. Do you think it is worth the risk?

I am sure some of you have heard of Anne Rice's "Beauty's Punishment" Series, and I have grown up on those books... My first boyfriend loved Anne Rice's Vampire Chronicles, and through that I found her erotic serious, and glimpsed into the world of BDSM. There are so many mornings I wake up just wishing I could be in one of her books...

"As far out there as D/s"... BDSM is everything from pinning a lover's wrists over their head while having sex, to keeping a slave boy/girl in a collar and cuffs 24/7- plus all the parts in between. Every couple determins what BDSM means for *their* relationship.

The only way you will get what you want, is by communicating your interests. Expressing your desires is not the same as "ordering him about"- it's simply expressing your desires. I'd suggest finding the language to do so- a bit of study in the Library thread pinned at the top of the forum might help. As uncomfortable as it is, ya gotta learn to communicate if you ever expect to have your desires met.

As for the Beauty series- it's fiction. No matter how wonderful a D/s couple you are, the bills still have to be paid, work attended to, and dishes done. I seriously doubt you'll find many people who take BDSM to that extreme- even those who live the Lifestyle 24/7. (sorry to burst any bubbles)

 

[SpectreT]

Hm.

You could try the thing I did with my SO at the time I was first exploring these desires as an adult (As to younger experiences, let's just say I have all the stereotypical memories of what I now recognize as BD/DS desires forming) We played a little game from a popular womens' magazine, and wrote out some of our fantasies, then read each other's out loud. It was goofy, embarrassing, and when she read the one about me getting a spanking from her, that was about all we needed. (She'd written something similar, but in hers I turned the tables on her... come to think of it, I did in real life, too.)

Only you know your relationship and SO - all we can do is brainstorm ideas for you. One big advantage to mine is you have to think out and articulate your desires clearly.

On a totally unrelated thing - CutieMouse, I know you're working on a Bible translation; do you know off the top of your head whether it's more commonly translated as "Love" or "Charity" in I Corinthians 1-13? It's been bugging me since the first translation I found that used the word "Charity"...

 

[Luke_25]

Hey Everyone,

I hope everyone's Labor Day has been well!!

I am have been reading Literotica for years.. since I first really started fantasizing about sex. I have had a strange intereste in a D/s relationship, but I do not think it is something I could live in outside of the bedroom and behind clothes doors... hence my problem...
I am curious about turning my fantasy into a reality, but no one would ever suspect me to be into anything "kinky" like that... Not even my current boyfriend...
So my question is this.. how have most of you met your "partners?" I have browsed through sites like adultfriendfinder.com... but most people on there have a bit of a loose screw...

any suggestions??

Hi there hon,

i saw your thread on the lit personals, and thought I would send you a note. I am 28m in houston, tx..I would totally be interested in dom/sub relationship. This is something that I have thought about a lot lately, and something I really would like to have a go at..No pressure at all..It would be nice to get to know you, and than we can see where we are at. I am about 6ft, black hair, brown eyes, brown skin, about 175 lbs, and in pretty good shape. Besides, being naughty, I love to play sport..Of late, I have been doing a lot of jogging so I don't embrace middle age obesity . What do you look like, and what do you like doing for fun? I hope to hear from you soon

Luke


xxx

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Just to get back on thread track...

I met my current slave through our local BDSM group. We were both in other relationships at the time, it was several years before we were both single and available at the same time. We went out, recognized the chemistry and that was almost 4 years ago.

And on Christmas Eve, before her family and friends, I got down on one knee and formally asked janey to be my wife.

I have the priviledge, honor, and great pleasure of reporting that she said "Yes!"

Our beta partner, I met through Alt.com's chat site. Invited her out to join us for a movie, and that was the start of what's become a beautiful friendship and developing relationship.

 

[esclave_PP]

Congratulations!!! Lotsa proposals! Ours was just on Yule eve

 

[myinnerslut]

Just to get back on thread track...

I met my current slave through our local BDSM group. We were both in other relationships at the time, it was several years before we were both single and available at the same time. We went out, recognized the chemistry and that was almost 4 years ago.

And on Christmas Eve, before her family and friends, I got down on one knee and formally asked janey to be my wife.

I have the priviledge, honor, and great pleasure of reporting that she said "Yes!"

Our beta partner, I met through Alt.com's chat site. Invited her out to join us for a movie, and that was the start of what's become a beautiful friendship and developing relationship.

congrats!!!!!!!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I met MIne when she was still a wacky nilla person, and well... I corrupted her...

good luck

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Just to get back on thread track...

I met my current slave through our local BDSM group. We were both in other relationships at the time, it was several years before we were both single and available at the same time. We went out, recognized the chemistry and that was almost 4 years ago.

And on Christmas Eve, before her family and friends, I got down on one knee and formally asked janey to be my wife.

I have the priviledge, honor, and great pleasure of reporting that she said "Yes!"

Our beta partner, I met through Alt.com's chat site. Invited her out to join us for a movie, and that was the start of what's become a beautiful friendship and developing relationship.

congrats, bro!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Just to get back on thread track...

I met my current slave through our local BDSM group. We were both in other relationships at the time, it was several years before we were both single and available at the same time. We went out, recognized the chemistry and that was almost 4 years ago.

And on Christmas Eve, before her family and friends, I got down on one knee and formally asked janey to be my wife.

I have the priviledge, honor, and great pleasure of reporting that she said "Yes!"

Our beta partner, I met through Alt.com's chat site. Invited her out to join us for a movie, and that was the start of what's become a beautiful friendship and developing relationship.

Congrats EG!!!