New to BDSM

[I_Luv_C_Words]

Hi!

I have recently been introduced to the BDSM arena! And I am loving it!

I am a Dom-Femme in-training and want to please this new man in my life. I know, contradiction in terms -- but I am in-training . I am more interested in gaining this control over my own life.

Our relationship right now is semi-long distance -- with plenty of verbal communication, but limited physical contact.

With everything else I need to learn, I am struggling with gaining dominance long distance. He is a super-driven highly professional man -- so demanding that he sit at a desk bare-assed is a little unattainable -- or is it?

Any suggestions?

 

[graceanne]

Hi!

I have recently been introduced to the BDSM arena! And I am loving it!

I am a Dom-Femme in-training and want to please this new man in my life. I know, contradiction in terms -- but I am in-training . I am more interested in gaining this control over my own life.

Our relationship right now is semi-long distance -- with plenty of verbal communication, but limited physical contact.

With everything else I need to learn, I am struggling with gaining dominance long distance. He is a super-driven highly professional man -- so demanding that he sit at a desk bare-assed is a little unattainable -- or is it?

Any suggestions?

Not that I'm trying to stop a good conversation, but there's an awesome thread called 'long distance domination'. I'd check it out, too.

 

[I_Luv_C_Words]

Thank you, GraceAnne!

I will certainly check it out!!

 

[CutieMouse]

Hi!

Our relationship right now is semi-long distance -- with plenty of verbal communication, but limited physical contact.

With everything else I need to learn, I am struggling with gaining dominance long distance. He is a super-driven highly professional man -- so demanding that he sit at a desk bare-assed is a little unattainable -- or is it?

Any suggestions?

No, but you can send him 'day of the week' panties to wear under his suit.

 

[FungiUg]

I think Gracie's already made a great suggestion. Some things off-hand that you might consider:

A daily task list, things he must accomplish for you each day.
Orgasm restrictions or requirements.
A mantra to be repeated x times a day.

From a mental point of view, what you are establishing is your control via his conciousness... so things that constantly remind him of your control work well. In a way you can think of it as a mental programming exercise. Because of the (semi) long distance nature, you can't really do much in the way of physical control on a daily basis, so focus on what you can do: the mental stuff.

Good luck!

 

[I_Luv_C_Words]

No, but you can send him 'day of the week' panties to wear under his suit.

fantastic idea! thank you so much!!

 

[I_Luv_C_Words]

I think Gracie's already made a great suggestion. Some things off-hand that you might consider:

A daily task list, things he must accomplish for you each day.
Orgasm restrictions or requirements.
A mantra to be repeated x times a day.

From a mental point of view, what you are establishing is your control via his conciousness... so things that constantly remind him of your control work well. In a way you can think of it as a mental programming exercise. Because of the (semi) long distance nature, you can't really do much in the way of physical control on a daily basis, so focus on what you can do: the mental stuff.

Good luck!

thank you! these are the kinds of things that seem simple ... but I just couldn't think in the proper terms yet!

I can't wait to begin!!

THANKS!