New to bdsm

[thegardenofeden]

My boyfriend wants me to dominate him sometimes. And I want to be dominated too. I just dont really know what to do. We have alot of toys and retraints, clothing etc. But I am more into being submissive. How do dominate him?

 

[ticklechambers]

look, im not a dominant type.... but, my advice- check out the literotic short stories and get ideas there! i'm sure there's like heaps. it'll give you things to do and say and if it's a good story, it might get you more into it- and it may be so descriptive that you feel confident in what you are doing.
of course, there are different kinds of dominant. like he may want you to be mean.... rough.... or just in control, and teasing find out what he wants specifically?

 

[joehmpsd]

Switching can be a slippery slope for folks like us. The key to making this work for you guys is communication. He has got to let you know what he wants from the D/S relationship and know what you are capable of providing to him.

Everyone gets something different from D/S relationships whether dom or sub.

Myself and my wife have been involved in D/S for about fifteen years, started before we were married. I am the Dom 99% of the time however on occasion she likes to be in charge and we enjoy it just as much as any other play time we have. The key is the communication we have and have had leading up to this place in our life's.

Keep in mind that we are not in a 24/7 D/S relationship. But our sex life revolves almost exclusively around D/S. Out side of sex and a lot of frisky playing/flirting we are quite vanilla. It works for us.

The point I am trying to make is do not get caught up on labels like "switch" or any others that might come up here. Communicate and explore with each other to fine each others needs and desires and go from there.

Good Luck and play safe.