New to Bdsm

[ScaredWarrior]

Hey, Me and my love are a very kinky cupple and are making are way into Bdsm. First Q what act or sence would any one recmoned for begainers? 2nd what would how would one find a place were somenone could meet and get chance to talk to others in the Bdsm life style with out going to clubs.( no bdsm style in my area but one on speacil night and i work third shift very hard make it) That will be for starteds i guess.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Hey, Me and my love are a very kinky cupple and are making are way into Bdsm. First Q what act or sence would any one recmoned for begainers? 2nd what would how would one find a place were somenone could meet and get chance to talk to others in the Bdsm life style with out going to clubs.( no bdsm style in my area but one on speacil night and i work third shift very hard make it) That will be for starteds i guess.

first, welcome to lit..second of all...considering i dont know much about your situation or exactly what type of BDSM you are into, it's hard for anyone to give you advice on a 'first time scene' as far as a place to chat with other BDSM'ers..well this is a good place..ask your questions and you will probably get ALOT of good answers..check the Library..lots of good stuff on there...

 

[myinnerslut]

what rose said, also a good starting point is to fill out a BDSM checklist, it will give you a better idea of each others feelings on different topics.... and safewords.. make sure you have one of those

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Do a lot of reading, as well...

Safety is important.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hey, Me and my love are a very kinky cupple and are making are way into Bdsm. First Q what act or sence would any one recmoned for begainers? 2nd what would how would one find a place were somenone could meet and get chance to talk to others in the Bdsm life style with out going to clubs.( no bdsm style in my area but one on speacil night and i work third shift very hard make it) That will be for starteds i guess.

To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

Read, Read, READ! Try the Library here at Literotica. Try websites like The Steel Door, The BDSM Resource Center, The Domsub Friends Library, The Frugal Domme, The D/s Kiosk, Gloria Brame's Official Website and/or Jack Rinella's LeatherViews site.

These are excellent sites, written and maintained by people who walk the walk and talk the talk. While some may recommend you to The Castle Realm, I won't because I think it's a romanticized, idealized, Harlequin Romance take on BDSM. It's great fantasy fodder, but not so good for real life advice.

Read BOOKS about this. CAPEX - Charlotte Area Power EXchange is a local group for you in Charlotte, and they have a lending library of great kink books. You will find wonderful books to purchase at Greenery Press, Mystic Rose Books, and Daedalus Publishing

Hope that helps!
- Geoff

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Good advice, Geoff

 

[leZilla]

Alt.com is also a good meeting place and full of informative articles and resources.

 

[Etoile]

EG Wins!

To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

Read, Read, READ! Try the Library here at Literotica. Try websites like The Steel Door, The BDSM Resource Center, The Domsub Friends Library, The Frugal Domme, The D/s Kiosk, Gloria Brame's Official Website and/or Jack Rinella's LeatherViews site.

These are excellent sites, written and maintained by people who walk the walk and talk the talk. While some may recommend you to The Castle Realm, I won't because I think it's a romanticized, idealized, Harlequin Romance take on BDSM. It's great fantasy fodder, but not so good for real life advice.

Read BOOKS about this. CAPEX - Charlotte Area Power EXchange is a local group for you in Charlotte, and they have a lending library of great kink books. You will find wonderful books to purchase at Greenery Press, Mystic Rose Books, and Daedalus Publishing

Hope that helps!
- Geoff

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[ScaredWarrior]

Thank you all for all your help will look it the sites you guys posted soon. Been very busy lately as well as working third shift is real weird on time. Thank you all again for the help. Oh and ideas on great starter toy's or kits we have been looking into thouses bit little unsure since i have think about feather not sure why by a waveing feather make me what kill it. Be side thats form the check lists we done only big things we both not in to is uren play, anal, scat, and few others. I cant find what did with my check list. i find or get new one. Thanks again for all your help.

Scaredwarrior

 

[robotxxx]

what rose said, also a good starting point is to fill out a BDSM checklist, it will give you a better idea of each others feelings on different topics.... and safewords.. make sure you have one of those

where can one find such a checklist?

 

[lil_slave_rose]

where can one find such a checklist?

BDSM Check List

or

another BDSM Checklist

 

[FurryFury]

To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

Read, Read, READ! Try the Library here at Literotica. Try websites like The Steel Door, The BDSM Resource Center, The Domsub Friends Library, The Frugal Domme, The D/s Kiosk, Gloria Brame's Official Website and/or Jack Rinella's LeatherViews site.

These are excellent sites, written and maintained by people who walk the walk and talk the talk. While some may recommend you to The Castle Realm, I won't because I think it's a romanticized, idealized, Harlequin Romance take on BDSM. It's great fantasy fodder, but not so good for real life advice.

Read BOOKS about this. CAPEX - Charlotte Area Power EXchange is a local group for you in Charlotte, and they have a lending library of great kink books. You will find wonderful books to purchase at Greenery Press, Mystic Rose Books, and Daedalus Publishing

Hope that helps!
- Geoff

Great informative post Evil_Geoff!

Fury

 

[playbook]

Very informative post. Thanks.

 

[CoupleFun]

Ooooo, thanks!

BDSM Check List

or

another BDSM Checklist

Thank you so much rose. I am to be a sub to another man soon and was so looking for something like this!!!!