new sub...with new dom

[Shane_Hunter]

I find it interesting that people think that the dom/top/master (whatever term you use) needs to address it to others. if it's an agreement between the two involved why do people care so much about his (or her) motives?

is it pure curiosity? is it wanting to know his intentions?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I find it interesting that people think that the dom/top/master (whatever term you use) needs to address it to others. if it's an agreement between the two involved why do people care so much about his (or her) motives?

is it pure curiosity? is it wanting to know his intentions?

On the same note, why do you believe the board would want to read your apology? Your task of a first post?

I think in general, many of us are curious about the dynamic in which a PYL (pick your label) would send a pyl on a task to create a thread like this. They happen quite often, they are not well-received, and rarely amount to much with regards to discourse. Your thread is actually proving to be different. Of course, the discussion is centering on the type of thread rather than the opening post.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I'm not judging, by the way. I'm genuinely curious.

 

[CutieMouse]

I find it interesting that people think that the dom/top/master (whatever term you use) needs to address it to others. if it's an agreement between the two involved why do people care so much about his (or her) motives?

is it pure curiosity? is it wanting to know his intentions?

Personally, I find it fascinating to understand the motivation behind such inane "orders".

Anyone who has spent any time at all browsing BDSM Talk/Cafe, knows that "ZOMGs I is the slavest slave evar and do the orderz of mah master allwayz !" [usually - whom someone met online, within the last 48 hours, and obviously need to show devotion to, because SLAVE]... yeah, that shit rarely goes down well around here.

Not because people can't learn from each others experiences, but more because the people who post such things tend to be drive-bys who contribute almost jack shit to the online community that is BDSM Talk/Cafe. And it's the steady, consistent contribution by members that makes BDSM Talk/Cafe the intersting online community and resource that it is. Threads like this one take more than they give. That's the sort of thing that kills an online forum.

It reflects poorly on the OP; it reflects very poorly on the anonymous PYL who was idiotic enough to order such a thing in the first place.

If anyone happens to know domly dude's screen nick, please feel free to pass it along so I may both block, and ridicule, the poor thing.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

I find it interesting that people think that the dom/top/master (whatever term you use) needs to address it to others. if it's an agreement between the two involved why do people care so much about his (or her) motives?

is it pure curiosity? is it wanting to know his intentions?

No, didn't say that. I actually don't care if a PYL comes around to take credit. You made your relationship a topic of discussion on a discussion board. You had no intention of discussing 'devotion' which is a bullshit excuse when you were called out. You posted here instead of an actual blog because there's a built in audience here. Starting a blog and actually being interesting enough for people to follow is hard work so you thought you'd skip all that and post here because free with audience.

So now we're making observations and asking questions because that's what people do on discussion boards and suddenly we're judgmental meanies that can't comprehend someone's relationship being unique. Except, you're not unique. This has been done before and it's going to happen again.

if it's an agreement between the two involved why do people care so much about his (or her) motives?

You involved everyone here in your "agreement between two people." So now we want to know why. Why did you announce your relationship with anonydom and why did we need to know you fucked up and had to apologize?

If you didn't want to expand the agreement, you should not have involved us.

 

[Shane_Hunter]

if you haven't realized this is a pretty anonymous forum.....unless u everyone here irl there's no way to know if ANYONE on here is who, what, etc they are. that's the beauty of the Internet.

I could be a 60 year old man sitting laughing because I just trolled and everyone caught the bait.

you don't know....I don't know...

but making assumptions that I met someone in the past 24 hours? really?

 

[Shane_Hunter]

anyway, if this type of post bothers you why do people keep clicking the thread? just to argue? to vent about how much holier than thou they are on lit? to prove theyre more bdsm than I am?

if this is in the wrong forum, you can click report (as stated in the rules).

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]