new sub...with new dom

[Shane_Hunter]

I have chosen to be a slave of a master and I will from now on do whatever he asks whenever he asks.

This post being a first task.

this is going to be a fun ride.....

 

[debycha1968]

Congratulations

To the 2 of you. Hope to hear how it goes.

 

[Tech_Director]

I wish the two of you have an enjoyable journey and just from your first task and how you've worded it sounds like it's on the right path. Keyword in your sentence is 'chosen'.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

I also have a new Dom. We only met a week ago, but things seem to be good.
Sam xx

 

[Shane_Hunter]

apology

https://clyp.it/obhisyub

 

[Primalex]

This place is for the discussion of BDSM topics. It is not there to showcase your personal relationship and draw other people into your kink. If we allow this, we will end up with dozens "Look at me how devoted I am, my master pees on me!" threads.

Please find a different place for your D/s journal. I suggest tumblr for online-only relationships, FetLife for physical ones.


(The use of politeness in this post does not indicate freedom of choice, but merely courtesy.)

 

[Shane_Hunter]

so discussion of devotion is not permitted? interesting. good to know.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

so discussion of devotion is not permitted? interesting. good to know.

Discussion of devotion is certainly permissible and a topic that comes up in a group in which many are in relationships featuring power exchange.

Blogging your own relationship is not what the forum is for, though. Discussion, yes. Blogging, no. It is that simple.

For example, when one needs to report back to their PYL*, a private message seems ideal for that. Likewise, if an apology is owed, a private message is more personal. Posting publicly draws us all in to your relationship, and we would much prefer to discuss topics. Your thread will likely go unread as people realize there's no room for discussion. There are "Dear X" threads for this purpose, perhaps that would meet your need?

A thread about devotion is a great idea, however.

*PYL = pick your dominant label
pyl = pick your submissive label

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Dear X

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I have learned from peeks into others' relationships, too. This thread certainly exists and is allowed to exist. My intended point to the OP was that these threads are largely ignored. I was a bit wordy, though.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Primalex]

so discussion of devotion is not permitted? interesting. good to know.

Bitch please, you really want to start a public discussion about your devotion to an online stranger?

I'm game.


Why didn't you show him your tits when he asked and what does this say about your devotion?

 

[IrisAlthea]

When I still mainly lurked here, one of the most impacting threads I read in the old threads was a thread that was essentially a blog about a relationship and the life. It was, for me a conflicting read, that made me at times weep, and understand the breadth of this community and understand that knowing myself was an important part of this adventure. It also made me think that limits were not just for me but the people around me. Its true there aren't threads like this now, but its not necessarily the case that it makes the community richer or wiser, or better for gaining experience.

I do not gain anything from reading someone else's devotion to their PYL, its easy to just read over it, but from that articulate and intense 'blog thread' I felt tremendous emotion , and the beauty in the writer's form. I am grateful it was allowed to exist here then and is possible to find now. Who knows how another such thread could start?

I'm also grateful for the broad grin given by Primalex's post here,

If you mean this thread
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=623345&highlight=Marks+slave

I'd say that there is a marked difference in the opening posts, with eastern sun's post being open to discussion.

In an environment where the norm is two-line posts with twoline answers, treads with longer, well thought through posts, like the one I linked tend to drown.

There are lots of places where this kind of post works great and is the norm.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Shane_Hunter]

wow....lots of judging here.


what works for me may not work for everyone.....and what works for others won't work for me....but I don't judge....if a thread goes into a direction I'm not comfortable with I close it....

simple.....if this is not allowed here, then an administrator can contact me and/or delete it.....

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Not so much judging, but a group who is happy with the forum's norms and rules.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[IrisAlthea]

wow....lots of judging here.


what works for me may not work for everyone.....and what works for others won't work for me....but I don't judge....if a thread goes into a direction I'm not comfortable with I close it....

simple.....if this is not allowed here, then an administrator can contact me and/or delete it.....

See, you can't close threads here. Once you start them, they can take any direction.

 

[Shane_Hunter]

yeah and that's fine. I don't personally really care what people think. I'm just shocked that in a forum that deals with some pretty crazy sexual practices that this is the post they'd take offense to.

 

[MeekMe]

wow....lots of judging here.


what works for me may not work for everyone.....and what works for others won't work for me....but I don't judge....if a thread goes into a direction I'm not comfortable with I close it....

simple.....if this is not allowed here, then an administrator can contact me and/or delete it.....

You opened up yourself (and your relationship) to judgement the moment you created this thread. So yes, it's going to be judged.

What I'm curious about, is how impersonal it all seems. You posted that you are submitting to "a master." Then you posted an apology to that master in public.

Why are these things posted in public like this and not taken care of directly between the two of you?

I'm curious, because this is a dynamic I do not understand.

 

[Shane_Hunter]

it was his request.....and as his slave, I did it.

not all relationships will fall into neat little categories or preconceived norms.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

yeah and that's fine. I don't personally really care what people think. I'm just shocked that in a forum that deals with some pretty crazy sexual practices that this is the post they'd take offense to.

Now I'm a bit confused. You see, I thought maybe the public apology thing was like a humiliation game. But if you don't care, then it probably isn't. So, now I'm wondering why he wanted it posted in public but hasn't been named. I would have thought it was because he wanted you to bear all the humiliation while he got to watch from afar.

Other than, "because he said so," what is the motivation? He has not been named so it can't be a prideful, "lookit mah sub!" Hm... But perhaps it doesn't serve a purpose other than to give you something to do? Oh~ questions...

it was his request.....and as his slave, I did it.

So you did this, but not the thing you had to apologize publicly for?

Will you always have to publicly apologize when you don't follow through?

not all relationships will fall into neat little categories or preconceived norms.

Yes, of course not all relationships fit into tidy little boxes. I have a thread somewhere around here dedicated to the topic. I'm not picking on you, I'm just honestly curious because every once in awhile a thread just like this pops up and the same thing happens over and over. Rarely do we hear from the PYL on the subject.

Recently, one did respond and even sent PMs to many that posted to the thread. I rather liked him after that because he wasn't just hiding behind anonymity and took responsibility for the original post that he ordered his pyl to make.

So far, I think there is a lot here worth discussing.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]