New here....

[kuruptu4fun]

OK, not ever really been exposed to BDSM, I started asking myself about being into it passing this forum on my way to the SRP. I stand at 6'8" not really into pain, have some issues with Anger Management, and people don't really talk crap to me. I'd like to dabble into this a little in here, just don't know how, so I guess me coming in here is my how....

 

[lil_slave_rose]

OK, not ever really been exposed to BDSM, I started asking myself about being into it passing this forum on my way to the SRP. I stand at 6'8" not really into pain, have some issues with Anger Management, and people don't really talk crap to me. I'd like to dabble into this a little in here, just don't know how, so I guess me coming in here is my how....

i'm wondering what the fact that 'people don't really talk crap to you' or that you have 'anger management issues' has to do with this lifestyle, if you have anger management issues it seems to me you need anger management classes not BDSM.......*shrugs* just my opinion.

 

[LunarKitten]

OK, not ever really been exposed to BDSM, I started asking myself about being into it passing this forum on my way to the SRP. I stand at 6'8" not really into pain, have some issues with Anger Management, and people don't really talk crap to me. I'd like to dabble into this a little in here, just don't know how, so I guess me coming in here is my how....

Welcome to the boards. Are looking to be top or bottom, or are you not sure? If you are going top, I will tell you the anger issues may be a problem. You really need to be able to control yourself before you can control someone else. But I believe this is something that can definately be worked through, with the willingness to want to work through it on your part.

Is there anything in particular that has drawn you to BDSM?

 

[Luvkitty33]

I just wanted to say hello and welcome to the boards. I'm fairly new here, too.

I was curious about the anger issues you mentioned in your post. To me, it seems that having anger management problems would seriously put your sub in danger. If you can't control yourself now, how is she/he supposed to have the trust that is essential in any D/s relationship? I know I would have a serious problem with it, and I definitely wouldn't trust you with toys in your hands while I was tied up for you to use them on. I think fear and anticipation is part of the draw, at least for me, but not that kind of fear.

My advice would be to take some anger management classes first before delving into BDSM. It's really the safe thing to do. JMHO

Have fun exploring the boards though.

 

[subkitty72]

OK, not ever really been exposed to BDSM, I started asking myself about being into it passing this forum on my way to the SRP. I stand at 6'8" not really into pain, have some issues with Anger Management, and people don't really talk crap to me. I'd like to dabble into this a little in here, just don't know how, so I guess me coming in here is my how....

Hello. Welcome.

As you're probably going to made painfully aware, being a Dom has nothing to do with not being able to control one's emotions.

From what I've seen of the gentlemen here, being a Dom is about having ultimate control, of one's emotions, of one's understanding of what his submissive needs or wants. Domination here is for mutual pleasure, not the human equivalent of kicking the cat or punching a wall 'cause you're pissed.

Having said that, I do hope you'll stay around long enough to see if this is something you can embrace emotionally as well as sexually.

Good luck in your journey. -kitty

 

[kuruptu4fun]

Actually, I was considering being a sub, not a Dom. I know my anger issues would be problematic there...



lil_slave_rose, to answer your question, I work in Loss Prevention, It's my job to go and bust shoplifters. When you turn around and are basically looking at someones' chest and that person is telling you you're going back into the store with them. Well, to date, not many people have been stupid enough to say "No" to me..


As to the Anger Management Issues, I am taking classes, and things have been going well for quite some time. I was just wondering if subbing is a way to help a person release emotions? I don't trust most people for the most part. Growing up as mostly an individual among the masses of faceless people I don't know, I know a small group of friends. But none know about this yet...

 

[LunarKitten]

Actually, I was considering being a sub, not a Dom. I know my anger issues would be problematic there...



lil_slave_rose, to answer your question, I work in Loss Prevention, It's my job to go and bust shoplifters. When you turn around and are basically looking at someones' chest and that person is telling you you're going back into the store with them. Well, to date, not many people have been stupid enough to say "No" to me..


As to the Anger Management Issues, I am taking classes, and things have been going well for quite some time. I was just wondering if subbing is a way to help a person release emotions? I don't trust most people for the most part. Growing up as mostly an individual among the masses of faceless people I don't know, I know a small group of friends. But none know about this yet...

For me, bottoming is a way of releasing pent up stress from the day(s). I end up in a puddle at my Master's feet and am happy as a clam.

I guess whether or not it would that way for you would depend up on the type of frustration and stress you have, and the cause for it being there for you.

 

[subkitty72]

My bad. I'm sorry. See what happens when you ASSume?

Forgive my presumptuousness.

Come on in and join the fray.

Actually, I was considering being a sub, not a Dom. I know my anger issues would be problematic there...



lil_slave_rose, to answer your question, I work in Loss Prevention, It's my job to go and bust shoplifters. When you turn around and are basically looking at someones' chest and that person is telling you you're going back into the store with them. Well, to date, not many people have been stupid enough to say "No" to me..


As to the Anger Management Issues, I am taking classes, and things have been going well for quite some time. I was just wondering if subbing is a way to help a person release emotions? I don't trust most people for the most part. Growing up as mostly an individual among the masses of faceless people I don't know, I know a small group of friends. But none know about this yet...

 

[Betticus]

Actually, I was considering being a sub, not a Dom. I know my anger issues would be problematic there...



lil_slave_rose, to answer your question, I work in Loss Prevention, It's my job to go and bust shoplifters. When you turn around and are basically looking at someones' chest and that person is telling you you're going back into the store with them. Well, to date, not many people have been stupid enough to say "No" to me..


As to the Anger Management Issues, I am taking classes, and things have been going well for quite some time. I was just wondering if subbing is a way to help a person release emotions? I don't trust most people for the most part. Growing up as mostly an individual among the masses of faceless people I don't know, I know a small group of friends. But none know about this yet...

If you have a submissive streak or nature then suppressing it could be a part of the anger issue. Or have been suppressing it in the past. When ones needs aren't being met the stress can come out in some strange ways, even if they seem to be completely unrelated.

 

[kuruptu4fun]

Most of my emotion at the end of the day has to do with dealing with complete idiots, thieves, and people who don't understand why I do what I do. I am really stressed and often don't know why I am, I simply cannot explain it, I just know it's there....

 

[FurryFury]

A good workout could help your stress. Many people find that therapeutic also with anger issues.

 

[Softouch911]

Actually, I was considering being a sub, not a Dom. I know my anger issues would be problematic there...



lil_slave_rose, to answer your question, I work in Loss Prevention, It's my job to go and bust shoplifters. When you turn around and are basically looking at someones' chest and that person is telling you you're going back into the store with them. Well, to date, not many people have been stupid enough to say "No" to me..


As to the Anger Management Issues, I am taking classes, and things have been going well for quite some time. I was just wondering if subbing is a way to help a person release emotions? I don't trust most people for the most part. Growing up as mostly an individual among the masses of faceless people I don't know, I know a small group of friends. But none know about this yet...

One of my friends in BDSM is is 6-6, weighs 370, drives long haul trucks, and is slave to a woman who is well over a foot shorter and nearly 200# lighter.

So forget the physical crap. Size has little to do with D or s except as it adds to the fantasy aspect or helps/hinders the mindfuck that goes with it.

BDSM is highly, extremely emotional and passionate. There are many things you can do to help you bottom as a sub with anger management issues ....

classes are a great idea.
find a dominant/top who you respect (not the same as feeling fear, right?)
The dominant/top can help you find your submissive mindspace

If you have concerns about hurting someone if you lash out, perhaps you could buy and present a taser to anyone you plan to bottom to. It might discourage you a bit and make them feel more secure as well.

Good luck, and welcome.
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