New here; 47. Widower. Taking the first step

[Widowerswanderlust78]

Hello,

I'm new here, and frankly, this is a bit out of my comfort zone. I'm a 47-year-old man, and for the last two years, my world has been a very quiet place. I lost my wife, and in the aftermath, I completely shut down. I haven't so much as looked at another woman with a flicker of interest since she's been gone. My heart and my body have been in a deep freeze.

But the ice is starting to thaw. Lately, I've been feeling... something else. A flicker. A memory of warmth and connection that I thought was gone for good. It's a lonely feeling, but it's also a hopeful one. It's what brought me here.

I'm not ready to dive into the details of my past. That's a story for another time, and for the right person. Right now, I'm just here to see what this new chapter could look like. I'm hoping to connect with someone, to chat, to remember what it feels like to share thoughts and desires with a woman again.

I'm feeling a bit like a beginner all over again, a little rusty and more than a little nervous. But I'm here. And that feels like a start.

Looking forward to seeing where this goes.

 

[Widowerswanderlust78]

If there is somewhere else I should post this please let me know.

 

[Jaymusk]

Hello,

I'm new here, and frankly, this is a bit out of my comfort zone. I'm a 47-year-old man, and for the last two years, my world has been a very quiet place. I lost my wife, and in the aftermath, I completely shut down. I haven't so much as looked at another woman with a flicker of interest since she's been gone. My heart and my body have been in a deep freeze.

But the ice is starting to thaw. Lately, I've been feeling... something else. A flicker. A memory of warmth and connection that I thought was gone for good. It's a lonely feeling, but it's also a hopeful one. It's what brought me here.

I'm not ready to dive into the details of my past. That's a story for another time, and for the right person. Right now, I'm just here to see what this new chapter could look like. I'm hoping to connect with someone, to chat, to remember what it feels like to share thoughts and desires with a woman again.

I'm feeling a bit like a beginner all over again, a little rusty and more than a little nervous. But I'm here. And that feels like a start.

Looking forward to seeing where this goes.

I'm new here aswell, sorry to hear about your wife,I'm male if you ever need to talk

 

[Erosfan]

Sorry for your loss. I am twice widowed. I lost my wife in 2004, remarried in 2006 and lost her in 2021. It's a tough thing to go through, and most people have no clue.

Time helps a lot and you will find what is out there. Don't rush, no one knows better than you, where you are and how you will move forward. There is no right or wrong way to morn the loss of a spouse.

I'm in my early seventies, recently retired. I am seeing a widow now and we are moving forward, both learning how to do this. Life is good, and in time you will find that you can move on.

Reach out if you want to chat. I am here most days, usually in the morning.

 

[Erosfan]

If there is somewhere else I should post this please let me know.

You are fine here. People tend to react slowly with posts like yours. I know, I've been there.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Hello, I am a widow of 4 years myself...I relate to going numb.. OMG I went numb for a few years..
There really is a great group of ladies here on lit, if you're patient.
There's definitely less women on here than men, but I bet the right connection will meet you when the universe seems it's right...

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Hello,

I'm new here, and frankly, this is a bit out of my comfort zone. I'm a 47-year-old man, and for the last two years, my world has been a very quiet place. I lost my wife, and in the aftermath, I completely shut down. I haven't so much as looked at another woman with a flicker of interest since she's been gone. My heart and my body have been in a deep freeze.

But the ice is starting to thaw. Lately, I've been feeling... something else. A flicker. A memory of warmth and connection that I thought was gone for good. It's a lonely feeling, but it's also a hopeful one. It's what brought me here.

I'm not ready to dive into the details of my past. That's a story for another time, and for the right person. Right now, I'm just here to see what this new chapter could look like. I'm hoping to connect with someone, to chat, to remember what it feels like to share thoughts and desires with a woman again.

I'm feeling a bit like a beginner all over again, a little rusty and more than a little nervous. But I'm here. And that feels like a start.

Looking forward to seeing where this goes.

Love to you.