New faces, come say hello....

[lustatsea]

Hey, new here. 39F Europe.
Enjoy most aspects of BDSM, different kinks etc.
love to learn more every day and perhaps try

A warm, wet welcome. I hope you learn and perhaps try to your horny little heart’s content.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Howdy folks!
Not new to Lit (or to BDSM), but am new to the sub.
About me:
A woman of a certain age **cough** 40s **cough**
I love taming whiny brats, but have been known to sub for the right person.

Been lurking for a bit, so just wanted to say "Hey"

 

[whenagain]

Howdy folks!
Not new to Lit (or to BDSM), but am new to the sub.
About me: I love taming whiny brats, but have been known to sub for the right person.
Been lurking for a bit, so just wanted to say "Hey"

What does it mean in your bio by “mean tease?”

 

[cocokittysurprise]

What does it mean in your bio by “mean tease?”

I like teasing men and making them cry/whine when they cum.

 

[kneelingmatt]

Howdy folks!
Not new to Lit (or to BDSM), but am new to the sub.
About me:
A woman of a certain age **cough** 40s **cough**
I love taming whiny brats, but have been known to sub for the right person.

Been lurking for a bit, so just wanted to say "Hey"

nice to meet you

 

[whenagain]

I like teasing men and making them cry/whine when they cum.

My kinda gal.

 

[ShaneoD]

I like teasing men and making them cry/whine when they cum.

When you say cry/whine, is that because they need to release or for a different reason?

 

[cocokittysurprise]

When you say cry/whine, is that because they need to release or for a different reason?

Usually, they need the release, both physically and emotionally. I give them a safe space to do both.

 

[ShaneoD]

Usually, they need the release, both physically and emotionally. I give them a safe space to do both.

After taking them to a place where they aren't so sure it's going to happen though, physically I mean (I might have been doing some reading)

 

[kneelingmatt]

Usually, they need the release, both physically and emotionally. I give them a safe space to do both.

having release owned by another is what is often needed

 

[cocokittysurprise]

After taking them to a place where they aren't so sure it's going to happen though, physically I mean (I might have been doing some reading)

Correct. Many of my previous partners hadn't had the opportunity to be vulnerable in that way, and I was happy to give that to them. I'm a "mean tease", but only to those that expressed interest in that dynamic.

 

[kneelingmatt]

Correct. Many of my previous partners hadn't had the opportunity to be vulnerable in that way, and I was happy to give that to them. I'm a "mean tease", but only to those that expressed interest in that dynamic.

sign me up haha

 

[ShaneoD]

Correct. Many of my previous partners hadn't had the opportunity to be vulnerable in that way, and I was happy to give that to them. I'm a "mean tease", but only to those that expressed interest in that dynamic.

It's one of those things that you have to think of for a second but as a man there's potential to let yourself get too riled up and finish before you started in those situations, there could be the frustration of being throbbing hard and then left to your own devices or even the softer just throbbing in your trousers while a lady grinds her ass against you but doesn't want to "do anything" and I'm so sure there's so much I haven't thought of.

 

[Hrdnhrnyhubbie]

64 mwm. On Lit for years but recently signed up. Luv stories and forums. Found this thread today. Always interested in BDSM subject, gay and straight. Experiment with self bondage, CBT, other things. Not been dominated yet but feel I would enjoy the experience.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

It's one of those things that you have to think of for a second but as a man there's potential to let yourself get too riled up and finish before you started in those situations, there could be the frustration of being throbbing hard and then left to your own devices or even the softer just throbbing in your trousers while a lady grinds her ass against you but doesn't want to "do anything" and I'm so sure there's so much I haven't thought of.

I can only speak for myself, but these things are negotiated ahead of time. Because most of my subs were also my partners, we explored things like edging, orgasm denial, just stamina training in general, and they trusted me to control their orgasms.

Depending on how we decided to play, my partners knew that there would be a punishment if they came before I gave them permission, and we talked through various scenarios prior to play. Frustration (on their end) was part of the appeal; it allowed them to explore their bratty side, and brat taming is what I like best.

 

[ShaneoD]

I can only speak for myself, but these things are negotiated ahead of time. Because most of my subs were also my partners, we explored things like edging, orgasm denial, just stamina training in general, and they trusted me to control their orgasms.

Depending on how we decided to play, my partners knew that there would be a punishment if they came before I gave them permission, and we talked through various scenarios prior to play. Frustration (on their end) was part of the appeal; it allowed them to explore their bratty side, and brat taming is what I like best.

I can see myself being in serious trouble in some of those scenarios, but I can also see that I almost clueless other than what I've read and you're rather experienced. I'm positive you both got a lot out of it, I would say them more than you, but you strike me as the type who commands/demands her own pleasure too.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

I can see myself being in serious trouble in some of those scenarios, but I can also see that I almost clueless other than what I've read and you're rather experienced. I'm positive you both got a lot out of it, I would say them more than you, but you strike me as the type who commands/demands her own pleasure too.

It depends on the relationship you cultivate with your domme, which is why I always recommend that people really explore the type of sub they'd like to be (based on interests) and the dom/me they feel would best suit them. Depending on the needs/wants you've discussed and things you've already negotiated, some can be/are more lenient, playful or soft in these types of scenarios. Some even use it as an opportunity for degradation exploration (again, if that's something that was previously discussed).

I'm also playful... to a point. My previous subs knew what boundaries to push, and they also knew that if they went past those boundaries, their punishment was the consequence. Some deliberately pushed boundaries because of the expected consequences (hence the brat taming). All of my previous experiences were mutually enjoyable, because their submission was sexually gratifying for me.

I'm very demanding in the bedroom, even outside of any D/s dynamic that may be in play.

 

[ShaneoD]

It depends on the relationship you cultivate with your domme, which is why I always recommend that people really explore the type of sub they'd like to be (based on interests) and the dom/me they feel would best suit them. Depending on the needs/wants you've discussed and things you've already negotiated, some can be/are more lenient, playful or soft in these types of scenarios. Some even use it as an opportunity for degradation exploration (again, if that's something that was previously discussed).

I'm also playful... to a point. My previous subs knew what boundaries to push, and they also knew that if they went past those boundaries, their punishment was the consequence. Some deliberately pushed boundaries because of the expected consequences (hence the brat taming). All of my previous experiences were mutually enjoyable, because their submission was sexually gratifying for me.

I'm very demanding in the bedroom, even outside of any D/s dynamic that may be in play.

I'm 100% sure I'm not the only guy who read this and really enjoyed seeing a lady who knows what she likes and how to get it.

And it must be said is able to communicate as well, it's obvious you put a lot of time and effort into your relationships

 

[cocokittysurprise]

I'm 100% sure I'm not the only guy who read this and really enjoyed seeing a lady who knows what she likes and how to get it.

And it must be said is able to communicate as well, it's obvious you put a lot of time and effort into your relationships

Well, thank you! I really enjoyed the convo as well
And I do; I believe in these types of relationships, effort should be meaningful. I want the experience to be fulfilling for both of us, and part of that means really getting to know the other person, and that takes time, which I'm always willing to give to the right people.

 

[ShaneoD]

Well, thank you! I really enjoyed the convo as well
And I do; I believe in these types of relationships, effort should be meaningful. I want the experience to be fulfilling for both of us, and part of that means really getting to know the other person, and that takes time, which I'm always willing to give to the right people.

I'm glad you do, and it makes sense that you'd want to know the other person as much as they'd need to know you in order for the relationship to work. I'm glad that you've had that.

 

[CuriousRick]

Howdy folks!
Not new to Lit (or to BDSM), but am new to the sub.
About me:
A woman of a certain age **cough** 40s **cough**
I love taming whiny brats, but have been known to sub for the right person.

Been lurking for a bit, so just wanted to say "Hey"

Glad you made it out of the “shadows”. I hope you enjoy your time here

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Glad you made it out of the “shadows”. I hope you enjoy your time here

Thank you; I've enjoyed it so far

 

[CuriousRick]

Thank you; I've enjoyed it so far

There are a lot of great people here. I wish I had joined the forums sooner. And also that handy ignore button for the not so great

 

[ShaneoD]

There are a lot of great people here. I wish I had joined the forums sooner. And also that handy ignore button for the not so great

She's rather sensible and already has her pm's turned off, don't ask me how I realized that

 

[cocokittysurprise]

She's rather sensible and already has her pm's turned off, don't ask me how I realized that

LOL
I didn't know how to turn them on at first. It's been a while since I've been on message boards.